Middle school trouble. fitting in.?!
Question: may b stupid question but i don't care. ok i am in middle school and i am 14. ok u know how their r the nerds and goths and rednecks and so called populars. but anyhow i feel like i don't belong to any group i feel so left out a lot i am the kinda of girl who is a dreamer and i thinks they belong to this group but i don't. but i am the girl who gets picked on made fun of and is teased because i am a little bigger that other girls i mean i have friends but not like some girls. i try so hard to fit in but i just can't. i am a girl who trys to change her self and everyday like one day i am preppy and next tomboy and then goth and the just me i am the kind of gir who loves football and i know it's gross but i spit and don't vare and yet i have very nice clothes.and i me and my friends like to well we just make fun of girls who we don't like but not in front of them.
all i really want to know is how can i b myself it's hard because i getmadefunof a lot. i just want advice plz.
Answers: may b stupid question but i don't care. ok i am in middle school and i am 14. ok u know how their r the nerds and goths and rednecks and so called populars. but anyhow i feel like i don't belong to any group i feel so left out a lot i am the kinda of girl who is a dreamer and i thinks they belong to this group but i don't. but i am the girl who gets picked on made fun of and is teased because i am a little bigger that other girls i mean i have friends but not like some girls. i try so hard to fit in but i just can't. i am a girl who trys to change her self and everyday like one day i am preppy and next tomboy and then goth and the just me i am the kind of gir who loves football and i know it's gross but i spit and don't vare and yet i have very nice clothes.and i me and my friends like to well we just make fun of girls who we don't like but not in front of them.
all i really want to know is how can i b myself it's hard because i getmadefunof a lot. i just want advice plz.
You like sports, you like to dream, your trying to fit in and discovered that you are none of the above.
My advice is to stop feeling self conscious about being bigger than most girls. To feel good about your size just the way you are. A great way to remind yourself of how important you are for being born is to look up at the stars on a clear night. Realize that the Universe and you are one in the same and to think of yourself as less then that, is just plain silly. You are the stars.
Once you realize your heart is beautiful, you begin to forgive those who make fun of you, and they will no longer hurt your feelings because you begin to feel sorry for them.
After all, we are all reflections of each other, and those who make fun of you are not happy about something in themselves or they wouldn't be doing that to you in the first place.
As far as advice? Well, hopefully you stopped trying to be like others or people will pick up on it as a weakness and start to criticize you.
Other than that, you sound like a wonderful girl to me, just get occuupied with sports or something that the school offers that is of interest to you. That way, you will be too busy perfecting a skill that you have than to worry about what others think of you.
hi darling,
first off, if you dont like people teasing you, then i would suggest not teasing them (even if its just behind there backs).
second, dont worry because surprisingly..lots of people go through "identity" problems. id suggest taking a vacation with your family or friends in the summer or something. you may find out what you like, who you want to be, what you really care about, etc.
it worked for me, hopefully it works for you :)
be yourself... don't care what others thik about u, just dance to your own beat... dream if you want.... do whatever it takes to make you happy, don't conform to other people want you to be, be your own person.. God loves you soooo much, he made you special and unique, He wants you happy. Be content with the small group of Friends you do have, whether they are boys or girls.... remeber quality is better then quantity.
hope that helped (i've been in ur shoes before)
basically do what you are
dont let those "popular" girls bother you so much
i you show them that what they do doesnt bother you
then they will stop
just no matter what don't do something just to "fit in"
follow your heart
i know that middle school is really hard, i am in it too, but a lot of the girls can be a b*****. so dont try to change yourself. i act like myself everyday and i am the person who is friends with everyone! and it doesnt matter if you have nice clothes or not, i dont always wear the name brands. stop comparing yourself to others and just be yourself. i know that it sounds like it is really stupid, but just try it and see if it works. i mean it cant hurt to try right?
I am facing the same problems as you...no joke. I just moved from a school that ive been going to for awhile to another middle school for eigth grade. when i first came here...i got picked on a lot, cus people did not know me. i then joined a sport, and some people got to know me better, which in turn made me some friends. This was not the only thing that happened though. I am still exactly like you. I have no clue what kind of group i'm in, cus im athletic and sit at the popular table, yet i hang out with a lot of the girls. just plz don't do what i do sometimes, which is be someone else. becus trut me...it doesnt work. I have some people who hate me for no reason, and trying to be someone your not is just gonna make some of those people hate you even more. If you get made fun alot, just shrug it off. Show them that you are not that different, it worked for me, and trust me, it'll probably work for you. Some of the kids in this school that at first hated me, were not that likely to change, but they finally listened.
P.S. sorry for the long answer, and if the school you are going to right now is Richard Butler Middle School, in butler, then add me to ur contacts, ill give u info about the ppl.
Querida its hard being 14 in 7th because your so much mature then them. But u dont need to be in a clique, I'm not. as long as I'm happy being with my friends.Maybe since your friends r mad at you ; ) u feel like it but work it out if u do u will feel balanced. STOP SUCKING UP TO THE POPULAR CROUD! Do u like them or hate them? Cuz in my knowledge it seems u dont know. but that shouldnt matter cuz popularity is nothing. middle school is suppose to be fun so stop worrying about what people think. Your a follower so dont do what everyone else is doing be independant dont let people bring u down. in the morning just take a deep breath and think "I'm going to have a great day today." it'll brighten your spirit and be confident. dont lose yourself "nombre de dios" I did it took me A YEAR! to get myself back I forgot who I was I mean not like memory lost. but this year is better I wake up and accept who I am even though I dont belong to a clique I'm just me INDEPENDANT
btw if your big, big deal dont try to stop eating or purge cuz someone called u big. anyway not eating isnt good cuz when u stop eating and only eat a little your body will keep that meal cuz your not eating properly I can tell your one of those girl so dont try telling me wrong
if a friend never really seemed like a friend screw them I had a friend last year who ditched me made fun of me ?and I called her a friend? be careful of them they brought me down they made me question myself, they didnt even know the real me
The best thing to do is to be yourself. You don't want to be fake and act like someone you aren't. True friends will like you for the person you are.
It's also not nice to make fun of other people like they say what comes around goes around. Even though you say things behind people's back they still know you are saying things about them. Just think about how you feel when people make fun of you. I am sure that it hurts your feelings. Treat people how you want to be treated.
Don't worry about what people say about you, if you are happy with who you are then that's all that matters but if you aren't then do something about it.