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Question: so i wrote a question on here a couple hours ago about heath ledger's death and i finally got the response i was looking for. but i have another one. some people are talking about how sad it is that his daughter won't have her father anymore. what about if i told you that a young man's wife (who lives close to my parents and i do not want to put names in) had a baby and he got to see her via webcam. he couldn't hold her, kiss her or anything. but later that very same day, he was killed in iraq. would you feel the same way about his daughter as you do about matilda? the answer i recieved on my last question put it the way i was hoping to--our priorities as a society are messed up, so tell me, are you as torn up about the death of the soldier and his daughter who will never know her father as with heath and matilda?

what about if my husband dies overseas fighting for the rights of EVERY american who reads this? my daughter will lose a father, but will you be upset about it?


Answers: so i wrote a question on here a couple hours ago about heath ledger's death and i finally got the response i was looking for. but i have another one. some people are talking about how sad it is that his daughter won't have her father anymore. what about if i told you that a young man's wife (who lives close to my parents and i do not want to put names in) had a baby and he got to see her via webcam. he couldn't hold her, kiss her or anything. but later that very same day, he was killed in iraq. would you feel the same way about his daughter as you do about matilda? the answer i recieved on my last question put it the way i was hoping to--our priorities as a society are messed up, so tell me, are you as torn up about the death of the soldier and his daughter who will never know her father as with heath and matilda?

what about if my husband dies overseas fighting for the rights of EVERY american who reads this? my daughter will lose a father, but will you be upset about it?

As a military wife, I can completely sympathize with your feelings on this subject. Not to downplay what a shock Heath's death is or anything. I think it's terrible for any child to lose a parent and never know them. I just don't think that Heath's death is any more important than a soldier's. It saddens me to know that people think an actor's life is more important than a soldier's life, that is lost protecting out country and our freedom. I don't agree with why they are still in Iraq either but that's not the point! The point is, Soldiers are HEROES and need to be revered as such. Actors and movie stars aren't. Granted they are much appreciated for their contribution to our entertainment, but that doesn't make them heroes. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and her baby, who will grow up without ever knowing her birth father. I just want to thank you and your husband for serving out country so faithfully!!!

What a bunch of malarky.

Alright, not to be mean but not everyone knows people over in Iraq and second I feel for the soldiers I really do, I want them out but I don't agree with this war what so ever. The reason why everyone is sad about Heth is because he was known amoung millions of people through acting. A soldier is not known amoung millions of people. It is sad that our soliders are over there and can't see their families, I feel bad for their families also.
They are not fighting for our rights right now, they are fighting because we have a crazy person running our country. Hlaf of the people over there admit that they don't belong over there.

Omg that story is really sad! Yes I feel the same way about it, except for I never have seen this soldier so it's a little different. Also, I would be upset about if your husband died. But the thing is, I probably wouldn't know...

bullcrap

yes i would be... no child should have to grow up without the father that loves them.........too many children have fathers that dont even want to be around that too is horrible but to lose one the way many do is horrible for all those around.............its not just movie star, singers ,etc its for everyone you just get more media attention on the famous ones.....thats society everyone tunes in for the drama

To tell you the truth, most people won't know about the death of your husband. The only reason people are speaking out about this, is because a lot of people know Heath and many can relate. Yes, if I heard about the death of anyone, that was tragic, I would commence to being upset.

That is truly sad and anyone with a heart would sympathize for that person's child. However, people tend to feel the most for those they know and, since Ledger was a well-known figure who spoke highly of his daughter, it's easier for people to sympathize for his daughter.

"what a bunch of malarky"

WTF....I was a soldier so I understand your post unfortunately most Americans dont see it this way. The reason why is because they think its the lawyers, the newspapers, the senators, the house of legislators that give them the freedom to burn flags, have cars, go to school, say whatever they want to say, go where ever they want to but its not its the Soldier, Marine, Sailor and Airman that gives these freedoms to the sorry people who are to afraid to defend this great nation. I truly believe that if you dont serve then you should not be granted any rights in this country.

I think its really a shame that she will not know her daddy BUT with the demands & mental strain Hollywood places on young actors to be on top & stay there. I don't think it comes as a surprise that yet another "actor" succomed. Whether by accident or deliberate. Self destruction comes in all forms whether it be starving themself to look thin on screen, drugs (illicit & prescription), mental illness (depression), alcohol,violence. Add two or more of these together and you have a recipe for destruction, as seen over & over again in many hollywood types.
The real shame is that he was obviously trying not to buy into the west coast crap & decided to settle in low key nyc neighborhood.

As for American soldiers, every death is a personal loss for the USA. Being in the Armed Services is a hell of alot more NOBLE PROFESSION than as a self absorbed actor. Actors act not because its the right thing to do its because they want to be famous just for being themselves. Selfish behavior if you ask me! Being in the service is SELFLESS...your doing whats right for millions of others (aside from your own political beliefs about war). Every day that the War in Iraq goes on, or for every serviceman or woman that gets shipped over to Afganistan it is a rememberance of who we are as a country & what we stand for.
Does anyone even remember the actor the O.D.'d last week at the age of 26?


yeah I thought so, it was Brad Renfro. His memory already lost into oblivion as with so many other hollywood casualities.

Thanks for letting me air my peace. Good thoughtful Q

Of course I would, the only difference is we don't know him, and even though we didn't know Heath Ledger, he's in the public eye and therefor we feel bad for the little girl.

of course, I would feel the same way about any child that didnt get to grow up with her daddy because he was killed. It's about the tragedy the child has to face. The only diff. is the above scenerio makes it more tragic because he was killed for the sake of his country, where Heath Ledger died because of either a stupid accident or a stupid suicide attempt, who knows yet.......

Alicia Mae, it actually makes me more upset to hear about your story than that of Heath Ledger. Don't get me wrong, it does sadden me about his death and his daughter. I appreciate so much what our Military Men & Women are doing for us. I am speechless when it comes to conveying my sympathy for the families of the Soldiers we have lost. It is ashame that those stories aren't as public as the celebrity issues.

Could I ask you this...are you thinking people will be happy about it?
I see you are thinking our priorities are messed up because they are not yours.
You know your husband.
You use famous people or something as a reference...but we as a public often have a false sense of intimacy with public people...and with characters on TV, books and movies...it is often intended for this to develop in order for that actor to be popular...or the character.
We have feelings for soldiers in a different way. We dont get to make a personal association with them. You cannot exaect the same response.
It is not less...it is different.
You are trying to deal with fear and possible loss the best you can. It IS personal for you...and maybe you need a bit more help dealing with than comes on Yahoo Answers.
I wish you and your family the best.

Edit....I would also urge you not to confuse public mourning or lack of for lack of appreciation.

No I grieve for all!!!!!! Who cares if I know somebody that dies or not. Death is Death!!!!!! When I wake up and see that troops have perished again today, I think that was someones Husband, Father, Son, Mother, Daughter, Cousin, Aunt, Uncle and the list goes on and on.... I know how I would feel as a wife, mother or any other family member in my family with a loss... It's amazing how much support existed when 9-11 first happened.... We have let the Media turn this into another Vietnam, and with all the bad publicity we have turned against our own troops!!!!! It's sad , sad, sad..... I asked about this in a question and with the answers I got it really grieved my heart even further. I believe in the troops!!!!!! AND I will continue to support them and pray for them and their families each night......



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