How do I know if I am in love.........?!
Question: I mean......sometimes I can't tell the difference. Is there some kind of light bulb in a persons head that *tings* when they fall in love. I am almost scared to say this too. But, one of the scariest things about me is that:
I find happiness MOST present when I am alone. WHY IS THAT?
I mean....i guess its because I have been disappointed by people much but still.....just answer my question. hehe.
Answers: I mean......sometimes I can't tell the difference. Is there some kind of light bulb in a persons head that *tings* when they fall in love. I am almost scared to say this too. But, one of the scariest things about me is that:
I find happiness MOST present when I am alone. WHY IS THAT?
I mean....i guess its because I have been disappointed by people much but still.....just answer my question. hehe.
First of all, some people can't tell whether they're in love or not, so it's pretty common for these people. You may not even realize you're in love, and you may not notice your light bulb needs to renew battery.....
If you find happiness mostly when you're alone, then you're like....... Erm.... Gaara. XD
(just kidding)
Probably you like being private than showing yourself to other people. It can be normal so don't worry too much.
EDIT:
I'm quite serious at answering questions at some time, if I feel like it....... =)
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Well thinking too much about that can be a bit scary, but hey, what if your love one thought of the same thing to you too? You will never know that unless you actually talk to him and know more about him. Talk to him about how you feel now, even though it's a bit embarrassing/scary, in the end, it's really worth it. ^_^ If you both know a lot about each other and talk about each other's feelings, I guaranteed you won't be scare about being in love anymore.
Amber 1020 got a good point too. =D
i don't know ...i have serious commitment issues ......i've had a "friend" for years and refuse to take it to the next level ...but he does like anime ...LoL ..... so that's always in his favor
edit=gee!! who knew darthraider666 was such a smart kid!!!!
edit= you just took care of most of the reasons why i have commitment issues...when you've been treated that way it makes it hard to trust the next guy..even if they're a really great guy..that you care about..enjoy spending time with..and know that they'll drop what they're doing just to come when you call even if you haven't called in a month...uumm yeah!!! i understand where you're coming from
I think it's one of those intangibles: you just know. I believe that you only truly fall in love once in your life. You might think you're in love, but it's more like infatuation (that's just my opinion though). When "that someone" comes along, you will know. It may hit you like a thunderbolt or gently tap you on the shoulder. You will know.
well crush , infatuation and love should not be mixed up...but if youre in love you ll realise it yourself....i mean it wont be just the looks that might attract you to that person...it maybe his personality, his sense of humour, the way he treats other people...well thats what i would fall for
when your heart beats so fast,,^^
Well, I like time to myself too. So you're not alone. :) I have no idea why is like that though. I guess for me I like the peace and quite and the ability to watch what you want on tv, listen to what you want on the radio or just do what ever it is you want with out interruptions or having to think about what other people want to do. I guess you can say it's my selfish time. :)
As to how I know I'm in love, you just know. You think of that person all the time, you miss them when their gone even though you wanted time to yourself, you would do anything to keep that person happy and you always want to protect that person. I've been in love for over 8 1/2 years now, we're engaged. :) Hope I helped some. :)
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It's ok to be scared sometimes, but you can't let it control you life. You might miss out on some great things. I've had my share of ups and downs in my relationship, but in the end it's always worth it. To find that one special person is wonderful, in the end you will never really regret it. You might get angry or hurt from time to time and say you regret it or you hate him, but once you find that one person even though you say those hurtful words you never ever really mean it. :) Everyone should experiance love once in their life, it's the greatest feeling ever. To love someone so much you never knew you could and be loved back just as much. :) Hope I helped. :)
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Sorry, I guess I can get carried away. :)
when you cant stop looking at them
when you feel giddy and ditty when you see, hear, or smell them..
I feel for you totally I also find happiness when I'm alone too. I'm almost nineteen but I think about a love life all the time and I'm scared too for different reasons like my parents being really sick and dying without seeing me with a love of my own, yes I'm the typical nerd only my parents live with me not the typical way he he.but to answer your question I can, you go through several emotions life being bashful around the person of intrest, finding you laugh at the same time at something a lot. yeah yeah the typical fare but the best thing is to talk to the person that you like and see if he has the same feelings that you have for him. I really don't know what love is like except that I have a friend that's fifteen and I grew up with her but I'm also friends with her older brother. but I can't be more than her friend because she's too young and her older brother being my friend will probably stop being my friend if I every tell once she turns of age so, I will probably just move on but I will still have feelings for her that will never be resolved, I will protect her I long as we are friends so she can have a love life that one day I hope I will have. I really see your arbitration towards the opposite sex, yes I agree with you that some men are idiots and don't deserve a girl worthy of your love. but I hope every one who deserves a love will get it some day and now reading your question I hope you really do find the love that you deserve
Love is a big, happy, ferocious Panda bear waiting to crush to hug you and crush you at the same time!!!!
Beware of Love...it can be good or it can be bad!!!
hehe
dude
i am gonna help you as much as i can
this is like really serious, especialy for you
okay here goes my crappy opinion
First things first.
You must first know that it is a actual love and not a simple whim of affection
where you can like the person and if he does one thing to offend you or simply some time passes you stop having such feelings for that person that means that you just had a passing affection for that person
and then you must be able to tell the LEVEL of love you have for the person. yes, there are many different "loves" or degrees of love. i have found that out again and again.
Now imagine this, you have a this person you know you care for and you have liked this person for a very long time so much time that you can easily say you "love" that person.
but exactly how much?
would you protect and defend the person even if you are in danger?
would you listen and hear and help that person when that person is having problems, even if the problems were that that person you love is sad about some else he loves.?
for example, would you help the person you love hook up with the person who he loves simply because you know he would be happy because of it?
just think
it is official that you love that person
but, you can kinda love him or you can half way love him or you could love him with all your heart, body, and soul or you could be somewhere inbetween those levels.
you must know how much you love a person when you are confident that you truly love him
now, say you are the max level
true and full love for that person to the point of doing anything for him as long as he will be happy because of it.
you can still stop loving that person. yes it is possible still.
but that means that you can still love that person more right?
well actually no.
Love is one huge game of chance, for no matter how much you love someone that doesn't make that person love you back.So before you find out how much you love that person and you start to pour all your energy into your love for him, you must make sure he has feelings for you.
Now.
Some of the huge signs that you truly love somone.
when you think about that person you heart starts to beat faster, you become nervous or hestiatant. you start drifting off and day dreaming and imagining your dream relationship with that person. You can't stop thinking about the person no matter how hard you try that person is always somewhere in your head. Also you know you love that person if you and that person fight or have a argument or just plain old develop a kind of dislike towards eachother and yet even when you are angry at the person you still can't stop loving him, having feelings for him, wanting him to be yours.
And i think that you find happiness the most when your alone because whether you realize it or not you are mist likely taking advantage of being alone and your dreaming about the person you hold in your heart. You let your mind wonder and you think about everything and all the possibilities.
you must just think really postitive and therefore you are alone and thinking only postive and wonderful things about the person you love. And also, when you are alone
you often try to feel like you have company, make yourself confortable, maybe a simple gesture such as putting you arm under the pillow you are laying on while watching tv can mean that you are dreaming about being with that person and you are happy because your only thinking postive things about you and that person's future.
And you are probably scared of love because that is something that whether you want it to or not controls you.love controls everything you do and say and how you act, the main reason one simple love can change your entire life.
You must be scared to let sch a thing take control of you though you want to so bad for you know that it will do everything in it's power to make you feel magic, to make you happy.
It is natural
the more in love you are, the more passion you have for someone, the more fire burning your eyes. The more and more you are scared of it and yet it still calls you and you want it.
Such is love.
You are also using your past experiance to judge how much you think you'll love this experiance.
like all humans do
you are trying to trick yourself into ''learning from your mistake" but you can
't because deep down you know that you never made a mistake and that the past love only failed because it was not the "right" love, the perfect love, the flawless love that all people craze to hold in their hearts.
Also you are combining such past experiances with the knowledge you have collected over the years. you are using what you know about other people's relationships and failed loves to check to see if you find out if you current love will fail or not.
and the more you know the worse and the harder it is to ignore it, but you must ignore it. Because people are different and the level of love was different. No matter how much you .learn there is always something you will only learn from experiance persay. meaning simply that to find a wonderful love and to make it perfect and to have it till your dying breathe, you must first have many failed loves, many rejections and disappointments, many tears shed and hearts broke and mended.
And with all this coming at you once, it can easily over whelm
it is like facing a army a million strong when it is only you and a brick wall. and yet you still must fight and in order to win the love you crave and want so much you must defeat single handedly the million man army attacking you.
And this analogy also explains why you are afriad.
Any human would be scared to face such odds. to take such a huge risk and convince yourself it won't work and that'll lose only to win and beat the odds and come out on top.
That is why you only have one true love in your entire life. only one TRUE love, no matter how strong your love for someone is you can only have one true love and it is only TRUE love when you and the one you faced impossible odds to win his love for both agree that you and him are perfect together.
without both of you agreeing it is not TRUE love, not yet anway.
You are in love mizu
i hope it will work out for you
i hope you'll finally find TRUE love.
im going to recomend you a movie its not like pure laughs out loud comedy but its more like a real life movie kind of thing and it gives good advise,
its called DAN IN REAL LIFE
i warn you its not a total comedy movie it has its gags but its more about love, like a romantic comedy thing situation and in that movie you learn good things..
like that love its not a feeling its an ability, a ability that not many have, because they fail at it, but love its more about loyalty, and passion i mean, (sorry 4 lenguage) one thing its having the feeling to screw someone a couple of times, and the other its the love like i want to be whit this person my whole life, whit out confuzing it whit the feeling of i want to have fun whit that person see, your body its a big weapon that will play against you when it comes to feelings and emotions, and it will control you if you let it, you need to take over it and do the best choice you can. one thing its lust and another its love and guess what them two are great enemies
love will take you to one person lust will rip you away even if it means to lose that person that you love, lust = temptation & temptation leads to cheating & cheating leaves for two paths
loneliness and guilt (the person leaves you) or
forgiven guilt (the person forgives you and you feel guilty for what you have done) this one mean the person its crazy, cause i wouldnt forgive it, unless, what? i was i, love... even to forgive sleeping whit another person and guess what.
crazy = love ;)
im great, i should change my name to love doctor :) now check what are your feelings....
hope i help in any way...
Why is this in the comics/animation section? If you're serious about love, then this is you, the real life you, we're talking about here.
Love is unique to each individual. Don't worry about finding out if you're in love--you'll recognize it yourself. It's not just the beating of the heart or the blush that creeps across your face. It's the glow of contentment and joy that seeps from your heart when your love is around. When you're around the person you love, you should be feeling complete, as if your love's presence is the missing puzzle piece that's put into place in your life.
As to why you seem to find happiness most when alone that just means you value your time to yourself right now. Mayhaps in the future you'll find someone you can share your lifetime with in equal harmony and happiness.
Neh, I'm a romantic:D.
Justo go for it!!..
Don't be scared for the future.... and if a boy treats you like a piece of meat.... kick his big fat butt!!!!!
hi mizzy, i know what you mean,i was with a guy for 13 years and he did nothing but try to have a good time with me ( sex) but i wouldnt give him the chance.finally i told hlm to flake off. and that was it,but youll know it when your in love,bells ring youll swoon whenever your with him,its a sweet feeling! i wish only the best for you. p.d.
did u actually read that long answer :P
well anyway hope this one isnt that long hehehe ^^
Well i think that with everyone is diff to know whn they are in love or not with me is simple i like talking to that sertain person i think allot about her and hen we say good bye i cnt wait to talk to her again :D well thee are the things that make me realise that im in love well if u sufer of one of these sympthoms that means that ure in love pall ^^
And about that thing that u feel happier on ure own well that can only mean that u dnt like sharing allot with ppl on socializing with ppl in other words how they call me antisocial but im pretty sure im not and neither are you ^^ otherwise we wldnt be be talking here right :P but dude or duda ^^ if uve been disapointed allot well so did i that dsnt mean u have to shut ure self down 4 other ppl hey not all of them are the same their are allot of ppl here that screw u but their also these ppl that make u feel nice ^^ and maybe thats wut love is :P
Well my answer is pretty long hehehhe well it was an intresting topic here u go an star 4 u btw well c ya man and good luck ^^
Well Mizutoki.......u just get this amazing feeling in ur Heart and ur body and u keep thinking of that person constantly :)
Its like u want to be at that person's side forever and just stare at them and hug and kiss and all that lol.....
But Mizutoki....ur kind of like me :) I feel so happy when I'm alone by myself and there is no one but me....I feel at ease like there is no stress and no one to distract me or bother me and its just this wonderful feeling.......being lonely isn't such a bad thing.....But when u love someone u feel perfect and happy all the tome.... Knowing that person is going to be there for u thru thick and thin and all the hard times...
Also too am afraid to fall in love cause of that reason u stated....I dont want my relationship to end up just like everyone else's and that scares me too...so that is why I decide that i will live with the one i really like and when the time is ready then u will truly know what it means to be in love and have that perfect feeling with that person....
But ur young and u shouldnt worry about love and not finding the right guy......"there is someone for everyone" and there is someone for u outhere who u are destined to be with...so u will find that special person one day ^_^
Thats how I like to put it :)
Chill out. Just get to know the other person. And if ur more comfortable alone, balance time between time with yourself, and time with friends.
Flirt a little, get to know the person, and worst comes to worst, you get rejected like I did. the problem I had was that the person I liked and I had been "just friends" for too long. If we had started dating, it would be kind of surreal, like if a bird wakes up one morning and finds it can't fly anymore, but can swim underwater. Alien. Weird. So if you do end up being rejected, just laugh it off with your friends, and in no time you will be fine again. At least you won't be carrying a torch anymore.
And if you get accepted, congratulations! I hope ur happy together. If anything goes wrong, punch the person's lights out, and later, try to make a hole in ur wall.
'_' Okay. Maybe not the hole in the wall part.
EDIT: Don't worry about punching the guy's lights out though. The worst he can get is a concussion, and with a good lawyer, thats easy to get out of.
good sex got butterflies when they around