Hi By Bad luck if you got married to a impotent man to whom you love too much th!
Question: One of my friend is facing same problem.So please advice for the God sake. I m puzzeled.
Answers: One of my friend is facing same problem.So please advice for the God sake. I m puzzeled.
use him as a ATM machine to draw out his money and find greener pasture outside
i like him then for his character
Either leave him or stay married to him. What other choices are there?
I would celebrate my good fortune!
she loves his so why should she care
i would be happy because i really dont like sex. but um, use toys!
Feed him lots of Viagra.
Love him more. Take him to doctor. Teach him cunnilingus.
try to be happy with wat i got
Those kinds of problems can be fixed medically to an extent these days. If not, then there are alternatives. Depends on the age of the person, I guess.
Leave him if possible or adopt a child
First of all you love the man for who he is and second there is help for impotency.
She should make him an appointment with a "Urologist" as soon as possible. There is several options to help him achieve an erection, from medication to devises inserted into the penis to assist with the erection.
Impotence can be treated, you know. If, for some reason, medical treatment is impossible or ineffective, there are other forms of sexual gratification other than penetration. Learn them.
only sex is not life. there is something more than that in life to lead a happy life. so be happy becoz u have so much luv iwth him..
An impotent husband, hmmm....someone who loves me, supports me, looks after me when I'm ill, loves me for who I am, takes me on lovely holidays, treats me like a princess with none of the messy stuff.....sounds like the most fab' deal on the planet!
Keep loving him!If the conversation of child rearing is an issue it should be addressed.My advice-enjoy each other,grow,love,and live,get your careers in check,secure a home.In due time you both will know if children should indeed fill your hearts and home!Not all"married"people have to have children to have a sucsessful marriage !!!! Be Honest and Be True to one another!!!
There are other ways to please your mate besides just sexual intercourse.If you really love someone you take the time and explore the other options of having sex and being intimate.Love can conquer all things if its real. She will figure it out if its true love and that doesent come around often,especially a good man.
loving someone truly means taking care of everything that u know about dat person.be it his/her strengths, weakness or anything about them. love is something that if truly done cant be ignored or wasted for any reason. make sure that u love the person as a whole and by not what he or she has. u shouldn't leave a person or stop loving a person due to their inability in this case impotency. my dear friend science has reached a new peak that no1 ever had imagined. take him to a doc find out the root cause for impotency. if the problem is still not solved then ask 4 an advice of sperm banks where u can have everything done. if still not then the last and the best adopt a child. BUT MIND U DEAR LOVE IF TRUE N FROM HEART HAS NO LOSS IN ANY RESPECTS.ITS ALL GAIN. YOUR FRIEND AND HIS WIFE CAN HAVE A HAPPY I SHOULD SAY A VERY HAPPY LIFE IF THEY REALLY UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER N LOVE EACH OTHER EQUALLY. PLEASE TELL UR FRIEND TO RELAX AND TAKE THINGS EASILY WITH THE HELP OF HIS WIFE.(FAMILY MEMBERS PLZ KEEP THEM OUT OF IT O IT WILL BE A BIG MESS- GOD FORBID).ANYTIME ITS VERY RARE 2 FIND PEOPLE REALLY LOVING EACH OTHER AND WILLING 2 UNDERSTAND AND LIVE 4 EACH OTHER.
This is not with your friend only, this is happening most of time,all this big shorts don't have time for families,so ask your friend to find some good hobby and get busy there. There are so many things which can keep you only busy,but not internal satisfaction,so let your friend diced what to do?
if she is truly in love with him ..then it shouldnt be any problem
and there are lots of orphans , they can adopt a baby..in that way they will doing a service to society too
Cheers
try to find the cause of his problem. Try viagra and lots of sexy lingerie
I am sure a doctor can help cure his problem.
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Don't worry. God will compensate you profusely
Love comes from heart & if they truly love each other then they can create a loving life, & they can adopt a child. & really make a happy family..
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there are many ways a women can satisfy her self with out resorting to marital infidelity [ which can be learned from an elder women or a doctor ] also the impotant hubby can do it to/for her + they must also see a sexologist. all is not lost never to lose hope. for child they can opt for test tube baby or adoption
Ask your friend to get in touch with me I will advice her. well once married she should not regret there are so many sex toys, even for curing impotency, they operate and insert a steel spring which will get activated with a touch button.
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this is a serious drawback in our Indian society....just like marrying a homosexual who for various reasons cannot open up his sexuality to parents...if you loved this person too much then you wouldn't be asking this question..obviously you cannot have an affair.as it seems like an arranged marriage...as all parties will be"orthodox"..best use toys/fingers to overcome that natural urge with a dollop of wild imagination...will do the job to certain extent......
she needs to be practical as well as emotional.. if she really loves him then there is no option but to continue doing so..but biological needs are also prime to human being.in that case she can counsel him and make sure that there all right options of getting him treated are explored and tried...
there can be many exercises from yoga which can strengthen him...concentration and focus will help him a lot.....
the problem comes when he is no ready to cope with it...it can be embarassing to a male if his wife is not happy (though with all the reasons on this earth)..he will be stressed out and this will do further harm to him and his confidence...
so make sure that he is not seeing any quack or taking any bad drugs to overcome his problem..
i would suggest him to refrain from intercourse for about two months...take no curative medicine..just take healthy diet..lots of fruits...stop smoking (if he does)..stop drikning (if he does)..exercise some pelvic strengthening exercises in the morning...he will improve a lot in these two months..
now this is very tricky and can be explored only if both are comfortable with it...ask ur friend to get some blue films and watch with her husband.but i am sure libido is not a problem here...
if he is not able to sustain his erection one thing that can be tried is .........as soon as he gets an erection...tie an thick thread (use thick one like shoe lace. so that it doesnt cut) around the bottom of his penis..tight enough...the back circulation of blood will pause and he will be erect for as long as he wants to...though this is a stogap remedy..but very effective...
-----finally when all this doesn't work then i would suggest ur friend to go for masturbation to satisfy her needs.and as far as getting pregnant is concerned..there are other medical techniques where her husband's sperms can be transplanted in her womb...but i am sure this will not be required...with right exercises and right diet (which seems to be lacking in this case) there will be no needs for any drugs/supplement.
I am sure they have checked out options like viagra..so if its not effective stop it rightaway..it does more harm to heart and nervous system than it does good to the other things..
ur freind will need a lot of patience and peseverance..so while u try out all these things..dont forget to ENJOY the life...go out for movies...shopping...but dont eat food outside and try to be happy, even if it is difficult...
i am also tempted to suggest her look for greener pastures outside...but i would suggest her to think a lot before plunging into this...it can become the biggest nightmare of their life..suddenly the world can change drastically...but if she has some friend whome she can trust she can try it out (but pls ask her to be patient before trying this)...
i am sure she doesn't want to get pregnant or get HIV from someone who is not her husband...so what is she getting..just a passionate session which could last for at the most half an hour...and the guilt of having done so...having cheated the husband...having ruined the marriage...the fear of all this getting revealed to husband..the threat of balckmail....she has to chose it.....it can be done but let her take her chance/decision..the person she schoses...if atall she choses should be mature enough to understand her needs...he should know how far he can go and where to stop...a thorough gentleman with no strings attached.....should not take it as an opportunity to take advantage but an opportunity to help someone out...but is has another flipside if she gets a perfect person like i just mentioned she can fall in love again...so thats why i said ..let her take her chance...its her decision...
i think i have said more than enough..