My mom doesnt like the fact...HELP?!
Question: i wear skinny jeans.or that i have big hair and wear 6 pounds of eyeliner.She doesnt like my type of music or my friends. She asked me to change i dont know wat to do help???
Answers: i wear skinny jeans.or that i have big hair and wear 6 pounds of eyeliner.She doesnt like my type of music or my friends. She asked me to change i dont know wat to do help???
She needs to realize that you are an individual and that these are the ways that you choose to express yourself. We all have our own taste. I'm sure that you don't have a great appreciation for her music or maybe even her style, but you aren't trying to change her, right? I don't see a problem as long as you aren't hurting anyone or letting your style, music or friends interfere with more important matters in life. At the moment, these things help define who you are and being yourself is a wonderful thing. Everyone is unique and that’s what makes this world such a beautiful place. You need to let her know that you care about her opinion and that you love her, but giving up those things would mean that you'd be losing your identity and not being true to yourself. Maybe you could compromise in some way, just to make sure that you don't completely strain your relationship with your mother. Also, she needs to know that this is a part of growing up. During my teenage years I went through a gansta stage and even a gothic stage that I eventually grew out of. I needed to go through those in order to find out who I really am. Ask her about her teenage years. That might help her to make some connections and realizations. Maybe then she would be a little more understanding.
just tell her you want to be who you are and not who she wants you to be!
i think u shouldn't change
if u like the way u look then others shouldn't bother u
don't change anything
Just don't stop loving your mum, give her lots of reassurance! I think she's probably scared of the phase you're going through, it might be screaming "drugs" at her or something like that. Keep talking to her, but if you're happy with yourself you shouldn't change.
i understand, tell her you are the way you are and if she loved you she wouldent make you change, tell her you will be the way you are and nothing else.
Sit down and have a good talk with your mom. Make it a pleasant one over a coke or a cup of tea or coffee or whatever the 2 of you do. Then ask her why she wants you to change your way of dressing. And friends and music. Don't get all defensive just listen to her reasons. Then tell her you'll think about every thing she said. And do that. Sometimes a mom really does have good reasons for their requests and sometimes it comes off as an order. But regardless, be openminded. I made my daughter wear ankle sox until she was 13. Even though her friends wore nylons at age 10. The reason was because she was very developed and looked much older and those sox were a way to ward off the ogles of older males. It was to protect her innocense. Because I loved her. Give mom an opportunity to give you her ideas. And above all stay friends.