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Answers: My sign is Cancer and my boyfriend is Ares. Are we compatible? We love each other and want to get married but I want our marriage to last forever. Is this possible? Please help!

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Anything is possible! It depends on how badly you want to work on it!

Cancer and Aries

Sorry, but this tryst is going to be tough. You are the first water sign of the zodiac and therefore the most sensitive. Tenderness, care, warmth, and security are what you crave most; you bruise easily at the slightest criticism. Home and family are your biggest priorities, but, for your Aries lover, the creation of new enterprises gets top billing. Aries is the first of the fire signs, so Aries are noisy, brash, full of life and aggression, and not very tactful. If you argue with an Aries, he or she will do whatever it takes to win. If your feelings (and ego) are destroyed in the process, so be it. You will wind up feeling like you were hit by a heat-seeking missile. Aries can be ruthless and they frequently go overboard. To make matters worse, Cancers can hear insults when none have been spoken or intended.

There are more difficulties. You have delayed reactions, Cancer, while Aries are quick on the draw. You may not be able to parry and block during an argument as quickly as your Aries opponent, tearing down your self-esteem. Aries is nothing if not straightforward, but the Crab walks in a kind of zigzag pattern, prepared to quietly scuttle into and out of any subject. Aries find this deceptive and calculated. Cancers justify it by calling their actions subtle.

You want stability: in marriage, home life and children. But Aries need to keep their adrenaline pumping, and if romance doesn't stay hot, they are likely to look elsewhere for adventure. Sex is exciting with an Aries lover, especially in the beginning, but for Cancer this will not be enough. You want to be loved deeply for who you are and to forge an intimate bond that can't be harmed by the outside world. Self-absorbed Aries can't sit still long enough for this to happen. Soon you will feel that they are all fire but lacking in real warmth. Don't expect an Aries to nurture you -- they have better things to do. This will depress you, for you nurture everyone and expect the same in return.

You may stand a chance but you will need to work really hard on this relationship. If you don't want to pass up this creature, you might have your custom horoscope done and see if you have other compatible planets in common. We are only studying your Sun sign here, and there may be subtleties that your individual charts can reveal.

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It depends on where you live.
In some southern states, it is still illegal for a Cancer and Ares to marry.

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I'm an Aries and I wouldnt do it for love or money

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depends on you guys if you make youre possible marriage work. tho some behaviors of your partner can sometimes be explained by their sign. Aries are loyal but tends to be a flirt. Cancers are home-y. they value the security a home offers. they can be emotional but hide it behind a strong fascade [that's why Cancers' sign is a crab] but yknow, it's up to you guys if you can make it work.

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I am an Aries. Every Cancer I ever dated was over-involved in me and ended up stalking me when I broke up with them. I'd never get near another Cancer as a love interest. I had too many bad experiences.

The only way your marriage will last forever is if you are both interested in making it work. It takes time and patience. If you both work on it, the marriage will last. But that is true for EVERY marriage, regardless of what sign you are.

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Yes you can. If you two really love each other the rest doesnt matter.

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Anybody can get along with anybody. There's so much going on besides just your sun signs. My folks are a Cancer & Sag (another fire sign) - happily married for 50+ years.

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Well, yes but hardly or rarely does it work out long-term. Other factors in your chart will have to be considered.
Your moons sign would need to be comapatible along with your rising signs. With cancer and aries being incompatible there must be 2 out of three compatibility for it to work. even though it still may be a rough ride for you both or perhaps rougher on one more than the other. Look back on your relationship thus far? Has it been smooth or rocky way too often tha you would like. Perhaps you chalked it up to "doesn't every relationship have its ups and downs" the answer is not always. Realtionships/marriage can go very smooth with only an occasional minor disagreemnts that come to comprimise easiliy giving into long stretches of tranquility and mutual love and respect. I would imagine that those periods of tranquilty are brief and far between. Any way I would have to know your birthdates to check at least your moon signs.. If you have your moon in aries or he has his moon in cancer than you will have longer periods of tranquilty than most cancer/aries relationships. You will still have those nasty fights but they will be fewer which may possibly keep you guys married for a long time.

#1 Girl's description above is pretty accurate though if your moon signs and to a lesser degree your rising signs are compatible than the disharmonies will be less prominent and more tame.

I hope this helps
-mike

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my moms a cancer and dads a Aries. they have been together 20 years so yes. the problem is if your questioning rether or not your marriage will work with astrology your probably not ready to get married.

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Generally speaking, Cancer and Aries Sun signs aren't very compatible. However, a more in-depth study must be performed.
There's plenty of false information on the web and media telling you can be compatible with someone merely because of having one or other Sun sign.
Actually, to ascertain compatibility between two persons (or a person and an organization) it is important to know their birthdates, times and places of birth, and a couple of dates of important events in their lives, because there are many important influences affecting compatibility. For instance, someone can believe that having Sun in Scorpio will be compatible to someone having Sun in Pisces... but what if the other person's Saturn is square his Sun?!
Studying and understanding these complex cosmic interrelations that affect human relations is the work of a competent astrologer, and it must be done very personally.

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I have a cousin who is an Aries, she has been married to a Cancer man for about six months. Their marriage is going good so far.

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