My grandfather died...And I have some questions about it...?!


Question: Well my grandfather was living in Lorado, Tx. for about 19 years of my life. We've seen him off and on, but not to where I could get close to him. So he comes back and lives with me and my parents for the last 2-3 years of his life, and then about a month before he dies, we find out he has Lung Cancer..we kept positive, AND so did he...Thats one thing I will not forget about him...But not until after he died did we find out that he actually knew that he was sick with cancer. He left little prayer cards for the sick in all his pant and shirt pockets, and his wallet, all his jackets. And after the otoposy, we find out that it was a slow growing tumor. That was so upsetting to hear, during the time he was here and what we thought well, we talked, and got along, But not until he actually got sick and in the hospital did me and him start getting close. I want to know why he never told us...We could have helped him when he first moved back, We could have had more time, PLEASE Serious answers


Answers: Well my grandfather was living in Lorado, Tx. for about 19 years of my life. We've seen him off and on, but not to where I could get close to him. So he comes back and lives with me and my parents for the last 2-3 years of his life, and then about a month before he dies, we find out he has Lung Cancer..we kept positive, AND so did he...Thats one thing I will not forget about him...But not until after he died did we find out that he actually knew that he was sick with cancer. He left little prayer cards for the sick in all his pant and shirt pockets, and his wallet, all his jackets. And after the otoposy, we find out that it was a slow growing tumor. That was so upsetting to hear, during the time he was here and what we thought well, we talked, and got along, But not until he actually got sick and in the hospital did me and him start getting close. I want to know why he never told us...We could have helped him when he first moved back, We could have had more time, PLEASE Serious answers

sweety sounds like grandpa was a strong and independent man..... he loved you very much.....he came home to get close to those he loved....you had some good times with him...this was his last gift to you... the gift of unconditional love...with out fear or sadness or pity..... maybe there was a way to prolong his passing but what would have been the quality of his life ? what memories would that have left you.?...
cherish the wonderful memories of this very brave man who loved you so...and know he will always be with you....

sorry to hear that


probably he did not wanted you guys to worry that much about him, and he might of knew it was his time to go to a better place

well, if he knew the cancer was going to kill him and didn't want to hurt you more since there would have been nothing you could do he wanted you to enjoy the time you did have with him and not spend it thinking about the end, trust that he had his reasons for doing what he did, and that his ultimate reason dispite everything you're feeling now was that he loved you.

My father did the same thing. He told us his pills were for gas, turns out they were nitro-glycerine.

There is a chance where he might have not known himself. Old guys assume they dont need to see a doctor.

Then there is the chance where he didnt want you to bear that cross. This is just more old school mentality.

It was to protect you and your family from his burdens. You might not understand, but in his mind, that was the right action to take.

i dont see any questions...its over...try to accept it

I'm so sorry to hear that. It's breaking my heart reading your story.

The reason why he didn't tell you was because he didn't want you all to be worried. He knew he would go to a better place far away from you. He just wanted to make the happiest, most peaceful and least worries moment with ya'll before he left.

Take care girl. Your Grandpa RIP

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I'm terribly sorry to hear this! I lost two of my grandparents to cancer, so I know it's painful. There could be a number of reasons that he didn't tell you guys. One, he was afraid to tell you and actually come to the realization he has cancer. No matter how slow it is or how treatable it is, cancer is a scary thing, and one way many people deal with it is through denial. He may not have been ready to face up to the fact that this was with him. Two, he felt he lived his life as full as he can and he was ready to go without all the chemo and whatnot. Although it can help in getting rid of the cancer, chemo, radiation, medicine, and surgery are all big deals and can really mess a person's body up. There were times when my grandmother was on chemo and all she could do was throw up, she was so weak from it. He may not have been willing to do that and just figured that this was his time. What I would focus on is the fact that he wanted to spend his time with you and his family. He didn't want to leave you guys without showing and telling you he loved you. And be thankful you got to spend that time with him. My dad just passed away suddenly this year, of a heart attack. I'm so sorry I didn't get a chance to tell him how much I loved him and how I'd miss him, but I know he knows that, and I had 25 years with him. Some people don't even get that. So rather than think of the negative, think that this was the way your grandfather wanted to go on...peacefully, with his family and loved ones by his side. And know that he still loves you very, very much.

Sorry to hear that. Well wouldnt you hesitate to tell your loved ones if you knew you were going to die? I know I would because I dont want to feel like I'm hurting them. You got to spend some time with him before he died though which is something to cherish.

i m extremely sorry to hear this.
well everyone has their own interpretation of life.it was his way of living his last moments. he did not want u to be disturbed. he knew it was over for him and it would be best if he left quietly.



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