Need Input On How To Deal What A Stubborn Taurus Husband?!
Question: I am in a long distant marriage with a Taurus man. We just recently got married and he does plan to move out to where I am in a couple of months. My husband is generally a great guy, he is considerate, loving, romantic, all a girl could ask for, so what is the problem? He is only this way when things are going good. But whenever we have a disagreement, he avoids me, clamps up, does not call me for days and weeks on end. I will admit at times he does make an effort to make up and I respond lovingly when he does. But most times it is me who gives up and ends of calling him trying to patch things up. I am getting tired of doing this, and I am beginning to be confused and question how he can be so kind and loving and then so cold and stubborn when we disagree. This behaviour is beginning to depress me and left with not knowing what to do. I am tired of giving in to him and wish I knew how to deal with his stubbornness. This time I have not given in., I am a Virgo. Please help, seriously.
Answers: I am in a long distant marriage with a Taurus man. We just recently got married and he does plan to move out to where I am in a couple of months. My husband is generally a great guy, he is considerate, loving, romantic, all a girl could ask for, so what is the problem? He is only this way when things are going good. But whenever we have a disagreement, he avoids me, clamps up, does not call me for days and weeks on end. I will admit at times he does make an effort to make up and I respond lovingly when he does. But most times it is me who gives up and ends of calling him trying to patch things up. I am getting tired of doing this, and I am beginning to be confused and question how he can be so kind and loving and then so cold and stubborn when we disagree. This behaviour is beginning to depress me and left with not knowing what to do. I am tired of giving in to him and wish I knew how to deal with his stubbornness. This time I have not given in., I am a Virgo. Please help, seriously.
Take this from a Taurus woman dating a Taurus man. He feels that he treats you so great u could bend a little. I know you're like WTF? but that's our logic. Imagine how I feel in my relationship because we both have this trait. That is just the way Taurus thinks. They are overall good people and would give you the world in turn for you overlooking their shortcomings. Notice how he is willing to move to where you are and treat u good, but Taurus is Serene and wants their home that way. We hate arguing and confrontation so that's why he avoids you when you fuss. Virgos are the opposite they are centered on feelings and fixing the problem. Unfortunately Taurus' can be hot and cold. We are earth signs that are maternal. We want to take care of the ones we love but don't push because then we charge (hence the bull) The way to deal with it is have calm disagreements. I know it sounds dumb but Taurus people are understanding. I promise you that if say the same thing in a calm tone you will get your point across to him. If not he is going to think you are yelling @ him and want to walk away. Let him know you don't appreciate his inconsiderate behavior but don't be defensive about it. It is true that Taurus is stubborn but we are also loners so he might just need time. Give it to him and see what happens. Good luck Hun
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something wrong with this and I think the sooner you two can get together for good the better....then, its time for a sit down on the sofa talk......if you dont, sounds like this marriage is heading for disaster.......and.......good luck
was this marriage planned or just a spur of the moment?
talk to him. a relationship is based on communication. and a long distance once is especially sensitive to this. maybe find a way to visit him on an upcoming weekend and sit him down and tell him everything that has been bugging you. if this problem persist, this will become an unhealthy marriage and it really seems like you love him. so try and talk to him and see how it turns out.
yeah i know rite? guys get mad but their so beautiful i was about to marry some1 like ur man but every day we would fight and i got tired of it and i sat him down and asked him if i was the 1 he loved and he said yes so i told him if he didn't want to lose me 4 ever he would have to change
You two need counseling. His "silent treatment" response is something learned from his father, most likely. Or it could be something he does in order to not "be like his father" who might have been violent and arguementative when angry. But it is not mature behavior and not loving and a man who wants to nurse his anger is not a good partner - he could be nurturing anger as well. I think if he is planning on joining you, you should talk about getting counseling for the both of you before he moves. If he does have some personal baggage to unload - he needs some time to work on that and if he is this testy when he is out-of-town, him being that way while living with you will be worse.
Star signs don't neccessarily mean a healthy or unhealthy marriage, after all marriage is all about comprimise and star signs is all about personality and character traits.
Taurus is normally very organised and stubborn. Virgo being a patient creature can deal with the stobborn taurus but time will tell if you are a couple to match.
Marriage is a serious committment between mind, body and souls and there should be no distance between a married couple. The only times serious distance between a marriage was honourable and accepted was during World wars 1 & 2 when husbands would have to fight for their country. My opinion is to prepare for the worst and look out for the guy that will never leave your side and pull out ￡20,000 from the bank for your honeymoon even if he doesn't have it. Those guys are normally gold.
Good Luck.
P.s - Taurus doesn't like to talk about problems they prefer to avoid the whole conversation and try their best to ignore their partners feelings.
How to deal with your Taurus man, well for one stay calm, two don't result to violence and three get him to listen.
I am a Taurus and we are known for being stubborn.. This is just his personality...on the upside, the loyalty and honesty Taurus' have is amazing.
You need to talk to him about this. Express how angry/ hurt you feel.
His loyalty will shine through.
I go days without bothering with people. It's how we are.
I think,you had put up a similar question before too,rite? Now tht things have not improved,you can do one thing.Just call him up and say tht what he's doing is not right and you are not ready to be his puppet any more.You have your own individuality and dignity.Make him realise tht.He cannot make you dance to his stubborn tunes each and every time.Marriage is give and take,not take alone. I guess he's taking advantage of your love and affection for him.
If he continues in a similar manner,I would advise you to take a firm decision and leave him for good,no matter how caring he seems at other times (Am saying this coz you said you don't want to give in). This marriage of yours will soon be on the rocks,if this problem continues.Either ask him to change or let him know tht you are going to leave him.If he truly loves you,he'll surely improve his attitude towards you.
dear> friend out of the two(wife/husband) one has to bend please dont make it as a point of prestiage a man by his nature at times expects his domination,a continous love and care like a regular drops of water if falls on a solid rock can even break it.be patient if you are not able to reply at right moment,remember try to pend the things, in this way you will get ample optoins, try it for just two weeks,thanks
The only way to get him to see your point of view is to gently put your views with logical explanations vs his......I guarantee you he WILL listen to you....taurians are like that.....no body's perfect...isn't his caring, loyal, romantic nature better than most other sign's guys?,,,i bet it is!..you will have to develop this skill of attacking him from the side..he'll love you for it!....
Thats how a Taurus is. When things are good they are wonderful but whent hings get bad its like they clam up in a shell. They just think they can work things out in their own mind so they clam up to rethink and regroup.
u have to have patience to smoothen the rough edges , whic takes some times a year or two.
No husband comes ready made to order. Genetics has so far not advanced to provide strictly according to specifications. Wait til gentics achieves the desired goal. Till then u iterate a bit chaning urself and changing him and enduring him
the long distance thing is killing things...why are you apart?
Taurus is a fixed earth sign, and stubborn by nature. Change your approach and you will change his reaction.
Being a venus ruled sign, they also tend to avoid conflict, this is why he drops out of touch.
Long talks will facilitate mutual trust. Trying to talk to him when he is upset will only cause him not to listen. Talk about the things that matter when you are both in a good mood.
Try not to place blame, but use phrases like: When you do this it makes me feel......
Let him know that sometimes you are scared, or feel alone, and that you need him.
I don't know what his moon sign is or other things in his chart, which will influence his actions. Try doing a chart on both of you at http://www.astro.com, it may help you understand how you relate to one another.
Virgo is the mutable earth sign, so you are more adaptable to situations than he is. Change is hard for him, and when you butt heads with him, he's just going to stop listening. There are other ways to get him to respond, but this will require some research and finesse on your part.
Read all you can on him and get a better idea into his psyche.
Good luck!
Alex
Virgo/Taurus
If you are in love with a Taurus, hold on to your sweetheart -- this is a magical combination. Each of you knows intuitively what makes the other tick, and how to make the other feel safe and secure. Both of you are earth signs, so you are realistic people who value being able to depend on each other. Nothing makes you crazier than relying on your lover and then having him or her fall down on the job. This won't happen with a Taurus. But Taurus do have hot tempers. It takes a lot to get Bulls to see red, but once they do, you won't forget it! Virgos rarely get that worked up, so you could get scared or hurt by such an angry episode. Try to just shrug it off, figuring you had better broach THAT subject some other time!
You will love your Taurus' desire for your affection and his or her love of touch. A Taurus may not say much, but you will be able to feel his or her love. Taurus put a lot of emphasis on romance and courtship -- especially wining and dining. Enjoying meals together will always be part of your relationship because Taurus know how to get the best out of life. They won't squander money in the way a Leo might, because like you, Taurus have a firm grip on reality. You may be concerned that your lover has too great a taste for luxury, for you are content with a no-frills, simple lifestyle. ("Just give me a good laptop, an episode of 'Prime Suspect', some vegetarian lasagna, and I'll be happy," you might say.) Taurus will prove to you his or her resourcefulness with money, though, so you won't need to hide your credit cards or anything like that.
In bed, you will be delighted to discover that your Taurus finds the slow, serene, sensual way you move exciting and intoxicating. The two of you are a perfect erotic pair! Together, you've got red-hot desire plus sweet emotional tenderness. Taurus doesn't soar to spiritual heights the way Pisces does, but because your love is so strong, this won't concern you. You know what good is, and this fits the bill.
But Virgos can't fall in love when they aren't sure they are their partner's one and only. You have to feel the relationship has respect and integrity. You'll have this with your Taurus, who isn't the type to sleep around. In fact, Taurus is just the opposite. If your Taurus decides you are his or her soul mate, he or she won't ogle another cute man or woman ever again. As long as your Taurus has your love, he or she simply doesn't need any other confirmation of his or her sexuality from anybody else -- even when older. As a matter of fact, your Taurus could be more anxious than you are to get married. Virgos like to go slowly when it comes to commitment, to have a chance to think things out thoroughly and carefully. Taurus don't rush decisions on matters of the heart either. But once your Bull is in love with you, a strong possessive streak will develop which will cause your beloved to pop the question sooner rather than later.
You both have found an ideal lover -- so stay close to your Taurus sweetheart!
taurus BOYS are trully BIPOLAR (its their way or the highway)...stick him in the trunk of a car, put a brick on the gas peddle and jump out before the curvacious road dip
been through that... all i can advise is have a good communication. Listen to each other and analyze what those disagreements are. Are they worth it?
Things will change when you're together...... Be patient... first year of marriage is very fragile.
Love him and make him feel special.No harsh words,simple formula to control taurus man