Am i a bad friend?!
Question: a couple of days ago my friend told me that she tried to commit suicide the day before and i told her i didnt care because i dont care about people who try to end there lives over stupidity and then she said she hated me we made up 2 days ago but looking back i think wut i said was kinda jerkish
Answers: a couple of days ago my friend told me that she tried to commit suicide the day before and i told her i didnt care because i dont care about people who try to end there lives over stupidity and then she said she hated me we made up 2 days ago but looking back i think wut i said was kinda jerkish
I probably would have said the same thing as you so dont be too hard on yourself.
Your friend needs to realise that its also not very fair on you for her to do something like that. She was in the wrong because suicide hurts the people who are left behind - especially friends and family. If it ever comes up in a conversation again, ask her if SHE EVEN CARES ABOUT HOW SELFISH IT IS TO COMMIT SUICIDE WITHOUT A THOUGHT OF WHAT IMPACT HER ACTIONS WOULD MAKE ON HER LOVED ONES.
Also, perhaps you should mention to her that you will always be there for her as a friend but you yourself are not qualified to deal with such an emotional issue. It is her issue not yours and if she wants help or sympathy or whatever then she should see a councillor or doctor or even a teacher but to put pressure on friends like that and then turn around and try to make you feel even more bad because you didnt react the way she wanted is wrong.
thats what i think anyway
so like i said, dont worry, you have done all u could, u responded to her selfishness the best way you couldv'e and you are now there for her as a friend again so I think she should be grateful to have you as a friend.
Not a bad friend just bad timeing to answer her!
I suppose it was kind of, well... selfish maybe?
You could have been a bit more polite about it, you should have spoken to her about it, try and understand why she tried to commit suicide and help her through it.
It's not too late to try.
Good luck x
if your friend is trying to commit suicide you should care. she probably has some personal issues and maybe she was trying to ask for help.
you should talk to an adult that you trust about this. your friend might need help.
you should care!! that is a terrible thing to say to someone that was obviously reaching out for help
sometimes it can indeed be rather annoying when people act as if they are seriously depressed amd want to kill themselves etc. after all surely if they wanted to kill them selves, they would have done it, or at leaste they would have been too ashamed to tell you.
but there may be a reason that she told you and more than likely it was becuase she wanted to get attention. maybe telling her you didnt care wasnt the best thing in the world to say, try instead talking to her and trying to find out what is going on in her life that means that she wants attention or maybe there really is somethnig that made her want to commit suicide you never know. but if you let her know you are there for her then she may be able to talk to you about her real feelings.
Honestly, when your friend said she wanted to commit suicide, she was trying to reach out and would have liked someone to listen to her. Maybe you read the signs wrongly as according to you, she was smiling while making the statement. If i were you, i would have thought she was joking too. Who would be smiling while making a statement like that? But saying you don't care was a bit too harsh as you were supposed to be her friend who comforted and consoled her during these times. It's great you girls made up though. Anyway, trying understanding what she is really trying to say and how she actually feels the next time so that you girls can be better friends. After all "A friend in need is a FRIEND indeed". As an answer to your question, just because you misread the signs wrongly doesn't mean you're a bad friend. GOOD LUCK!!!
Yes, it was. It might have hurt her alot more than you think. But you can't really take back what you did, it's just life. Tell her life is full of surprises and is fun, try talking to her about the bad sides of ending her life. God won't forgive her, she will live in shame for internity.
Eventhough she is OK now, you should just forget about these things, hey, friends fight. Life goes on. Remember that, just make sure she is enjoying her life. Because next time she tells you she wants to commit suicide, talk to her, instead of saying you don't care.
Good Luck.
Lots of love,
C.Y.
depends how she said it. if she was feeling really down and needed someone to talk to and came all the way to ur place to have u open the door and say i dont care go away, then yea ur a horrible person. but if shes being stupid and saying that life sux and that she wants to die, and whining like an annoying person, then u weren't outta line. but if she's really feeling suicidal, u should help her. and u still can by just talking to her. negociate her way out of it
yea that was a crazy thing to say what if she did do it then two days ago u wouldnt made up she would of been gone
Yes , i think you were inconsiderate , your friend was trying to get help some one who would listen to
You know if she was just trying to get attention (because of acting happy when she said it), then you did the right thing because you treated the whole idea as stupid & let her know that it was stupid to do something like that & that you would not help her dwell on such an idea.
You did not validate her suicidal feelings & I think that is good. She may learn from it that it is a ridiculous idea.
it wasn't your fault, it was your lunch. if i don't eat for long and have someone moaning about how **** their live is and telling me they want to commit suicide, i will be like, "stop talking about it and start doing it". i don't like it when people are not happy but i hate it even more when they make others unhappy with themselves. THAT is selfish. their live is their responsibility, i am sure you have your troubles too and no time to solve other peoples problems. having said that friends are meant to be allies, so if there is someone who is hurting your friend then don't think about helping them twice. of course after lunch.
horrible friend...
you should try and stop her
No,i've been through this stuff before,it doesn't make u a bad friend,i'm the same way if i don't eat,i tend not to care and take it out on games.u r not a bad friend
Hello CandyChicGirl,....PinkNerdGirl is right,an adult will have to get involved,So your friend realises life is for living and having a laugh! You are a long time dead!,....Commiting suicide,will bring you attention in the short term,But people with lives to live will quickly forget about you,No point been a martyr for anybody,Thats just stupid!!,....there is a lot of things for your friend to do in this life,....Plus,4 years from now when shes 17,she'll have her independence to do what she likes,....As for the adult for you to talk too,Is there a teacher you can liais with,And bring the subject of a friend potentially treatning to commit suicide,And on how to deal with a friend with such turmoil in their mind!,...Remember,also your friend "claimed"that she attempted,I say at that age many young boys and girls will claim suicide attempts to get attention,....However I suppose,You can't take chances,...Jemmy.
Your not a bad friend. Its just your belief , but i wouldn't be saying anything as if she really is suicidal, you could say something that might pull her over the edge and she could really kill herself and you would be the cause of that. But your not a bad friend
that was cold-hearted. sounds like something her enemy would say, not her friend.