What should i do about my Aquarius friend? I'm a Gemini. We both made it cle!
Question: Im also 2 years older than him.we are both young.im leaving to basic training pretty soon and i no he doesnt want me to go. and he is so insecure. he thinks im gonna find someone else. and he hates all the guy friends i have. Im still a virgin so i tell him it doesnt matter who i talk to. and then he trys to make me fell guilty about every thing.he seems to always be right and i just hurt his feelings.?? i like him very much but why does he do this to me?why is he so insecure? but he is also a sweet heart and he knows how to make me feel good without the touching and feeling.
Answers: Im also 2 years older than him.we are both young.im leaving to basic training pretty soon and i no he doesnt want me to go. and he is so insecure. he thinks im gonna find someone else. and he hates all the guy friends i have. Im still a virgin so i tell him it doesnt matter who i talk to. and then he trys to make me fell guilty about every thing.he seems to always be right and i just hurt his feelings.?? i like him very much but why does he do this to me?why is he so insecure? but he is also a sweet heart and he knows how to make me feel good without the touching and feeling.
I was married to an Aquarian man who was exactly like your Aquarian. He was very insecure, extrememly jealous (I never gave him reason to be), zero accountability - everything was always my fault, and HE was ALWAYS right and tried to make me feel like I was wrong when in fact he was wrong, just couldn't admit error on his part. Over the years, things escalated, he became abusive because I would never admit to being the cause for his faults.
This man is very immature. You need to stay away from him until he can mature (if possible), or he will only get worse with you. He is trying to put his "death" grip on you. He will smother you in this relationship, cutting you off from all of your friends and family. He now feels like you should only pay attention to him only from what you wrote about him.
You need to tell him exactly what you are going to do. You want to enlist so you should not let him make a different decision for you. You have your life to live, so live it the way you want to, not the way he wants it to be for HIM. This is no life. It is crippling, and it is exhausting trying to please someone like him. I know, I lived it for 25 years before I reached my limit of abuse - emotional and physical. I see it going on with him, so get out of it now. It is not worth it. Maybe after you return he will have changed. Chances are as soon as you tell him you are leaving, he will have a royal hissy fit, but turn right around and go looking for someone else that he will try to control.
Best wishes. I am a veteran, and I admire your decision to join the service. Have fun - it will be like no other experience you will ever have in your entire life. I had an awesome time! Absolutely fabulous!
he loves you and he does'nt wanted to lost you just talk to him and tell him that he can trust you and that you trust him and he really loves you he will wait for you good luck gemini here
With Gemini you have to get use to two people they have double personalities and that won't change maybe one part of him is jealous and the other part of him is caring and loving.
aquarian guys get attached to what they have; it's a comfort zone to them. he doesn't want you to leave and he doesn't want him world to change. i'm not sure what the solution is to this but i know that aquarians like innovation and creativity, so it you can find creative unconventional ways to keep your relationship alive while you're gone then he might go for that (at least distract him for a while :)