Sun opposite Saturn, Sun opposite Neptune?!


Question: My father sucks. He is extremely judgemental, dominant, and uptight--not to mention impatient and intolerant. He judges me unfairly all the time, and everything has to be perfect or else he has a temper tantrum. Yes, like a little baby. Stupid Aries. Now it turns out I have grown up to think everybody or at least most people in the world are like this...or if they only appear sweet and nice, that they're really like that underneath their facade. This is the cause of all my 'social anxiety disorder' problems. Please help, what can I do to ease a little the effects of these planetary positions....what should I do? Would trying to get away from my father and be totally independent from him be the best solution, and would that work?

My father was absent from my life when was growing up. I met him when I was 6, and I idolized him because he had moved away from his family to another strange country (this one) so we could live a better life away from Castro's regime.

Answers: My father sucks. He is extremely judgemental, dominant, and uptight--not to mention impatient and intolerant. He judges me unfairly all the time, and everything has to be perfect or else he has a temper tantrum. Yes, like a little baby. Stupid Aries. Now it turns out I have grown up to think everybody or at least most people in the world are like this...or if they only appear sweet and nice, that they're really like that underneath their facade. This is the cause of all my 'social anxiety disorder' problems. Please help, what can I do to ease a little the effects of these planetary positions....what should I do? Would trying to get away from my father and be totally independent from him be the best solution, and would that work?

My father was absent from my life when was growing up. I met him when I was 6, and I idolized him because he had moved away from his family to another strange country (this one) so we could live a better life away from Castro's regime.
Whatever he says are not necessarily his own .....I mean to say , his communication skill is poor.Those who are born on the 8th Of any month do not find appropriate words to express their good feelings , what being the reason , they are commonly misundestood.
He is Aries....... born dogmatic in many ways.His childhood wasn't a great one and that ket his expressions more suppressed and lot of anger of those early days still in the deepest layer of his mind.....he can't get rid of this.
Sun rules. Saturn has refrained him from being a charismatic person........even his date of birth (numerologically speaking) has added to fuming inside without appropriate words.
Sun opposite Neptune........Sun still rules.
Sun gives success in life in whatever environment one is born and grown up.His ego is much stronger than the rest of us( Sun ......is for success......sun is also for egoism, at times, quite obstinate(more so , because , he was born in the period of Aries).
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Putting all the things together , I maintain that he is honest and lays down his own rules which he wants others to follow as well.
It's always good for others to respect his integrity , which is never to be doubted.Accept it that he is quite stubborn and better it is not to enter into any argument at a time when he is "blowing"......His birth sign , "aries" and sun will not allow him to change his stand when he acts stubborn.
Never think that he doesn't care for others. He does care for all .......he is highly talented to understand who thinks what and who likes or dislikes certain things.He is a good guardian.Never think of living separately. Live with him and be friendly with him when he is in a good mood.This will act wonders.
I think it will be right for you to stay with him and grow up---bloom as good person .....he won't be like this if you do behave the way i suggested .Even if you don't, it hardly matters.he will guide you always and will protect you like a good father...... Report It

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    • I relate to what you are going though.

    I have Sun square Saturn & Sun opposite Neptune too.

    My dad was not there most of my early childhood. And when he was he was emotionally absent & uncommitted - he did not seem to be there to support my upbringing except to provide a roof over my head.

    What pulled me through - realising that I was the own authority in my life & learning not to put my Dad on a pedestal (in other words, not to expect too much from him). He made me very angry as a kid due to his emotional outbursts - and I felt powerless to stop him at the time.

    Nowadays I have a great job, where my boss gives me the independence to run the group I manage. But it took a number of crappy bosses before I landed this job (10 years now). Like with my Dad, I learned not to expect too much from my bosses - to be my own boss/father, so to speak.

    I think you are right - being independent will work for you, in order for your to develop your own space in your life - this will help you to ease the effects of these planetary positions.

    And if you don't have the courage to do that now, life will bring situations where you will want to stand on your own 2 feet.
    Thanks for inviting me Lacubanita..well I see your social anxiety is not too hard to overcome, you can do it. You can built trust little by little like credit card company, but since you have bad-relationships with your dad, it really dangerous in your relation with opposite sex, in dating and marriage. How can you love a guy completely, if you have mistrust that he will be just like your dad?= This is the physchology speaking.
    In astrology= Your Leo asc dad covering up his sensitivity with pompous, annoying behaviors. Leo is charismatic sign, but if it fail it will create dictactorships and havoc surrounds him, especialy when Leo asc didnt care about the feeling from others. His Pisces moon indicate that he is actualy sensitive and emotional, he might got heart-ache back then, and hiding it. Pisces is about hiding and escape from reality, when they dont pleasant with some obstacle. That could be the computer addiction and avoiding eye-contact...Actualy Moon in pisces is his weakness, if you know how to handle it..he will lose his guard on this one, but you also need to overcome your hatred towards him.
    Just wonder: Are you coming from asian family? Because if you are asian so..there is a common stupid understanding from OLD asian culture, that father is a scary-figure in other to make his childs respect him. He must be scary, distance, and uncomfortable. It might not because the Asian culture but maybe your father is just like that....

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