Falling in love should be?!


Question: fun and great but Virgo men are so imposible.

you love so take what you want instead of walking around it.
love is the greatest feeling of all.
it hurt to know that we don't choose who to love and nature make us fall hard for people who just don't know what they want.
i mean take love and let nature take care of the rest instead of sending mix signals.
it hurt.


Answers: fun and great but Virgo men are so imposible.

you love so take what you want instead of walking around it.
love is the greatest feeling of all.
it hurt to know that we don't choose who to love and nature make us fall hard for people who just don't know what they want.
i mean take love and let nature take care of the rest instead of sending mix signals.
it hurt.

'What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being selfishly attached to them? Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.
Having realistically recognized others' kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist. Selfish attachments, on the other hand, exaggerates others' good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we're with them, we're happy, but when we're separated from them, we are often miserable. These selfish attachments are linked with expectations of what others should be or do. Is love as it is usually understood in most societies really love? or selfish attachments ? Let's examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we'll notice that we look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value. We examine someone's looks, education, financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us! If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to. But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to "us", as if we are the most important person in the world. After we've judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them. Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo's - when we're with these people, we're up, when we're not with these people, we're down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we're very disappointed, or may become angry. We want them to change so that they will they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people. Our problems arise not because others aren't who we thought they we're, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they aren't.
Checklist: "I Love You if __________ "
What we call love is most often selfish attachments.
It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person. We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.
'Love, on the other hand, is an open. calm and relaxed attitude. We want someone to be happy, and free from suffering simply because they exist. While selfish attachments are uncontrolling and too sentimental while Love is direct and powerful. Selfish attachments obscures our judgment and we become jealous, impatient, angry, and impartial, helping only our dear ones and harming those who we don't like. Love clarifies our minds, and we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachments are based on selfishness, while Love is founded upon cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to the eyes. Love looks beyond all the superficial appearances, and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want inner peace, happiness, and want to avoid suffering. If we see unattractive, dirty, ignorant people, we feel repulsed because our selfish minds want to know attractive, intellectual, clean, and talented people. Love, on the other hand, never evaluates others by these superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others' appearances, their experience is the same as ours: they seek inner peace-to be happy, to be free from sufferings, and want to do their best to avoid problems. When we're selfishly attached, we're not mentally and emotionally free. We overly depend on and cling to another person to fulfill our mental and our emotional needs. We fear losing the person, feeling we'd be incomplete without him. However, this does not mean that we should suppress our emotional needs or become aloof, alone and totally independent, for that too does not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs, and slowly seek to eliminate them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others rather than to understand them. In all honesty, our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfishness obscuring our own minds. 'We can develop
self-confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a selfless human being with many, magnificent qualities, then we'll develop a true and accurate feeling of self-confidence. And then we'll seek to increase true unconditional love, without selfish attachments, to increase compassion, wisdom and to cultivate loving-kindness, patience and understanding. Under the influence of selfish attachments we're bound by our emotional reactions to others. When they are nice to us, we're happy. When they ignore us, or speak sharply to us, we take it personally and are unhappy. But pacifying these selfish attachment doesn't mean we become hard-hearted. Rather, without selfish attachment there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. We'll be actively involved with them. As we learn to subdue our selfish attachments, we can have successful friendships and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer because of the freedom and respect which the relationships will be based on. We'll care about the happiness and the misery of 'all' human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same in wanting/needing inner peace and happiness. However, our lifestyles and interests may be more compatible with those of some people more so than with others and that is alright. In any case, our relationships will be based on mutual love, mutual interests, and the wish to help each other in life.'

it depends what sign you are and also what your intrests are bc zodiac signs only give you a review of your personailty triats and maybe some things you should be interested in usually earth signs go well with virgos



add:GEMINI & VIRGO: - This is not the best union, the practical Virgo views you as being disorganized and frivolous. You on the other hand don't think that the Virgoan knows how to have a good time

GEMINI & ARIES: - This is one of your best matches. You both have a high energy, a thirst for adventure and spontaneity. Passionate, sudden and compelling this union can last. so go for someone if this one isnt working and just try it out

Virgo men are boring and uptight...try a Sagittarius...

Oh dear no run now before he makes life unbearable. This match doesnt work out. Virgos are no good for open-minded people. Take it from someone who has been there did that

With Libra, this would make an electric match. He loves experimenting, is creative and you are outgoing, spontaneous and love to try new things. Libras are romantic.
Your kissing chemistry is out of this world. But besides loving to spend, you two are just about a perfect match.
Both sign will tear up the town, and share plenty of quiet and tender moments, too. The downside ? Not getting enough rest!

With Aquarius, he won't mind chasing after you. Intellectually very well matched, but no staying power in life's little chores. One of the better combinations, but pity the houseplants!

You can find true love and happiness with an Aquarius. You share many things in common, including an adventurous streak and an unpredictable nature. You love to be spontaneous and he hates making plans, which works out perfectly.
The physical chemistry between you will just grow and grow the longer you are together. You will bring out the best in each other’s personalities. You're both in tune with each other, even when your not in the same place at the same time.

You're unusually for gemini. It's gemini that usually sends the mixed signals! Virgos do that too. I bet you must be closer to the beginning of the gemini sign which is Taurus
that is the bull the sign of the bullies! Don't get me wrong I'm not calling you a bully you're in the gemini section you just have some bully tendencies.. probably nitpicker!
Sorry if I'm not giving you want you want! The truth can hurt sometimes! I'm Aquarius and I llove making plans and goals.. I just hate routines.. Anyone saying Aquarius hates making plans hasn't dealt with one! I also try to buck tradition! Aquariuses aim is comfort and helping others! If An Aquarius doesn't get to do that the Aquarius would be come an angry level. Only Gemini's that would want Aquarius as the boss can tolerate Aquarius to Gemini relationship.. Your best match would be Libra.. always striving for balance!

ahahah....you are describing Felix and Oscar (The Odd Couple) to a T :-)



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