How do I get my virgo man to stop criticizing?!


Question: I'm a cancer, and he's a virgo, we have been living togetherfor 5 months and for the past couple of days, he has been a little too critical and it upset me to the point where I was in tears. How do I tell him that he upset me without breaking into an argument? I love him and really don't want to lose him.


Answers: I'm a cancer, and he's a virgo, we have been living togetherfor 5 months and for the past couple of days, he has been a little too critical and it upset me to the point where I was in tears. How do I tell him that he upset me without breaking into an argument? I love him and really don't want to lose him.

Ah, how do you keep the Sun from shining?

Unfortunately, criticizing and analysis are two of Virgo's major characteristics...they are the little old women of the Zodiac.

But, they also LOVE to fix things...so, when he starts criticizing, you can actually "re-train" him by distracting him....kewl, huh? Simply ask him to fix something for you, or, if he's criticizing something specific, ask him how HE would fix it, if he were in your shoes...
And listen. The idea is to get him to focus on positive action (what could be done) and not what was done wrong. Sometimes you can refocus them on something attractive....something artsy or of beauty. This focuses that "detail-orientation" onto something positive.

Most of all, you, hun, must learn not to take the criticism personally, no matter how personal it feels. You are beautifully sensitive, and criticism is painful, but this is something that a Virgo will probably not be able to "turn off", no matter how much he loves you, and I'm sure he truly does. You can tell him how much he hurts you, but he still may not be able to control this part of his nature.

Blessings to you and much love.

Just tell him how you feel about it. Knowing you're a Cancer, you tend to be very emotional, so just tell him to stop.

That's peculiar. I wonder what his moon/ascending sign is? I have never known a Virgo man to be very critical.

Might I humbly suggest a ball gag? It can be silk if you wish. OK sorry I will be serious for a moment. I would recommend a little bit of a cooling off period. Go with some friends somewhere for an evening and give each other a little space. Virgos need space but they are often too busy demanding your time to notice their own needs. The adjustment phase of living together can be really difficult. It starts off sunshine and roses and then at some point the way that they lick stamps just drives you insane. Try a bit of distance for a bit and see if that gives both of you a little clarity on what the real issues are.

Good luck!

My partner has Venus in Virgo, and I'm very Virgo, so I appreciate the pain that can be caused, especially when the Virgo has no insight that this trait can be upsetting to others.

As a Cancer you are perhaps quite/over emotional.

You probably both need develop your personalities, and learn off each other. (As do we all!)

As a very satisfied customer, I suggest you invest in a Relationship horoscope by Liz Greene, which can be found at www.astro.com

You might also want to monitor your and your partner's transits, to better understand periodic fluctuations in mood, and 'challenges'. For example, Saturn is currently transiting Virgo. Saturn is a stern, cold planet (regarded as 'the teacher', and 'restricting' - the idea is we learn and so grow as a result of its influences), and might now be in conjunction with your partner's Sun. The symbology is that Saturn's coldness absorbs some of the Sun's warmth, making the Sun person less light-hearted FOR A WHILE. You would need his date of birth (and ideally time and place) to determine the exact period for a transit and where its effects would tend to be concentrated. Knowledge is power!

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are you kidding
that's they mature, they are every good at it.
i dated one who 5 years, i am telling you it's they mature, they can't stop this. because of men like that many women think they should give up everything for them because the way the critize it's like you are in erro or you are not good enough.

you will have to take him just the way he is and i am sure he might not take for who you are because he critize because he have problem with whatever he is pointing out in you.

you will have to take it like it's, he won't change, i am telling.



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