Why is my Scorpio guy acting like this???!
Question: He has a history of being a jerk. We go through cycles of honeymoon periods, especially toward the beginning, when I was the one with all the money and the friends and he wasn't. Now that it's the other way around, he's better but he still tries to make me feel inferior in our relationship.
I don't know what happened to provoke this last incident, but we hadn't seen each other in weeks, and then when he was supposed to visit, he stood me up and went to go get drunk at his friends' house and didn't even call to say so. And then when I try to talk to him about it, he gets surly and upset like "how dare I" be upset by his actions. When I asked him why he stood me up, he said: "I forgot," which I think is TOTAL BS. I felt like he was trying to "teach me a lesson," especially since I don't have a lot of friends in this area. He did it on purpose, but I couldn't even begin tell you why.
Why do Scorpio men act like this? Does he really think I'm gonna stay & deal with any more of his BS?
Answers: He has a history of being a jerk. We go through cycles of honeymoon periods, especially toward the beginning, when I was the one with all the money and the friends and he wasn't. Now that it's the other way around, he's better but he still tries to make me feel inferior in our relationship.
I don't know what happened to provoke this last incident, but we hadn't seen each other in weeks, and then when he was supposed to visit, he stood me up and went to go get drunk at his friends' house and didn't even call to say so. And then when I try to talk to him about it, he gets surly and upset like "how dare I" be upset by his actions. When I asked him why he stood me up, he said: "I forgot," which I think is TOTAL BS. I felt like he was trying to "teach me a lesson," especially since I don't have a lot of friends in this area. He did it on purpose, but I couldn't even begin tell you why.
Why do Scorpio men act like this? Does he really think I'm gonna stay & deal with any more of his BS?
I know exacly what you are talking about. A few years ago a scorpio guy I knew was supposed to meet me to go camping and I feel totally disrespected me. The place we were going was a 6 hour drive for me but he said he wanted to meet up at noon so I got up early and drove out to meet him. I even freaked out on the way because I was running a 1/2 hour late. Well he didn't show up until 5 hours after the time we were supposed to meet. I was freaking out the whole time waiting for him and thinking he was in an accident or something. When he finally showed up he didn't apologize, said he was smoking a bowl and just thought it was a hassel for him that I was upset about it. I eventually gave up on him after quite a few incidents like that one although we have reconnected again recently. It seems he is actually mad at me for giving up on him if that shows you how backwards they think. Whatever though because his games don't affect me too much anymore. But even now when I asked him why he left me waiting like that he won't admit he did anything wrong. Scorpios don't want anyone to expect anything from them. I think it is because they usually expect the worst from everyone that they can't understand why people are upset from the things they do. Everything they do for you is a gift and you need to see it that way otherwise they will make you crazy and disappoint you all the time. They only change their behaviour because they want to. You will never convince them to treat you differently and confronting them too much about it will annoy them. He will also never tell you why he does what he does because he sees it as nobody's business but his own. I know being a sagittarius we want to know the why of everything but you need to give that up because you'll never get it and he will BS you if he doesn't want you to know. You need to tell him just once clearly that you don't like to be stood up like that and if he stops you know he cares about your feelings, if he does it more you know he is messing with you, if he doesn't change anything then he is not ready for being relied upon and it is up to you to decide wha you will put up with. He could be doing it to test you or he could be doing it because he can but you'll never know for sure. It only comes down to how much you care about him. If you really care then you will have to accept these things about him and not take them too seriously because they won't change any time soon. Also it helps to not be so available to him. Don't play games because they will see through it but try to get out, meet new people and whatever you do don't rely on the scorpio for social things. You will know when you can rely on him but until then don't expect much.
Am a scorpio man this guy is really a jerk he brings shame to the scorpio family.....he need to be cast out lol ace the truth he may not be the right guy
You already answered your question in your question. He is a Scorpio. Enough said.
Thats just the prick he is. And yes he does think you are going to stay with him and deal with his BS, because thats just what you are doing.
You know what? I hear all the time, that Scorpio men just really do not act like this, and whenever I ask a question about my Scorpio man, I get a lot of, well a true scorpio doesn't disrespect their loved ones, also. Truth be told, Scorpio men are really not that nice, and yes they do treat their loved ones badly sometimes. I have been with mine for twelve years, and have been through exactly what you describe more then I can count. You are right, he did do it to punish you, and only he knows why. Don't get me wrong, I love my man, its just sometimes, i feel i deserve better. If you feel like it is time for you to go, then go, don't put up with what I have for twelve years. Believe me, you don't need too, and there is another man just waiting to make you his queen somewhere.
My man is a scorpio and he doesn't act like that. He's just a dick and you need to kick him to the curb.
I would like to say because he's an asshole? But, I don't really know him. One thing is for sure, it's not because of some silly astrological sign...do you really believe he's like this because he has the sign of Scorpio?
According to my significant other, I am a great guy...and I am a Scorpio. A sign doesn't make you who you are so I would refrain from generalizing "why do Scorpio men act like this?".
You can't or should I say, shouldn't sterotype someone...just like you wouldn't based on race or religion...but that's just my opinion.
Take account for how he acts as a person not as a sign. I am white...It would be like me saying why do black people act that way...it's generalizing, because one person acts a certain way, all black persons are the same? NO. I am also Catholic, not a very practicing one...but it would be like me saying all faiths not based on the Catholic religion are bull...again not the case.
I don't mean to rant, but I am getting tired of questions or statements directed to a larger audience when the question(s) should be direct to a person(s) actions. We blame groups way to often when we should be look to each individual for how they act.
I'm sorry, I guess you want as many different answers from different people as possible but I really feel sorry for you..
It's not a Scorpio thing.. My sister is a Sagittarius and she has been happily married to a Scorpio man for 5 years. He would never do such things to her. I'm a scorpio with aries moon as I said before and he sounds like a horrible person!
He is a jerk and you obviously know that. And he is possibly expecting you to dump him! So do so! But give him an explanation.
I think that since he is a Scorpio he will be intense & extreme & emotional. If he drinks it might get him depressed & so all the negative feelings come out this way. If you can guide his life in a positive way I think you have a chance of being with an extremely successful guy.Find somelthing he enjoys doing & gives him a feelling of accomplishment & try to keep him busy so he stays away from alcohol & you both should be alright.
It's simple. He really forgot, and he is soooo embarassed. But it costs him integrity to admit it so he is falling deeper, as deep as it can. When he hits the bottom, suddenly, he will need you.
its so funny that people say scorpios dont act like this because i have dealt with one and i swear WORD FOR WORD same exact thing!
i have never dealt with a guy who acted like this before otherwise its just funny that both of ours are scorpios...maybe its COINCIDENCE, yeah thats must be it...haha.
for real though girl it never did get better with my guy, yes he eventually opened up more and was more reliable but he still went into the dark hole with no warning and always was temperamental, i finally cut my losses and walked away.
maybe your guy can get better but my guess is no he is just a selfish, drunk, inconsiderate prick who only cares about himself. this scorpio guy needs to realize that he is not the only one who is capable of giving tests.
sorry for the rant im just trying to keep it real. i know it sounds like i hate scorpios but honestly i dont i actually love them and respect them to bits, just that particular one i met sucked, i think he was super un-evolved. like your guy.
good luck whatever you choose.