My boyfriend is aquarius and we have argued...advice please?!
Question: I am libra and have been dating my aquarius boyfriend for 5 months. He is so different to anyone I have been out with - he can be distant, seem cold, isnt lovey dovey, doesnt do public displays of affection - yet he seems happy with the way we are going. Yesterday we had an argument and he told me he wasnt prepared to discuss the issue today..and left. He ignored my calls bar one - where he emphasised he didnt want to talk about it today. So I have backed off and given him space but cant help wondering if we are over? It wpuld be crazy to end it over the reason we argued - but it seems like I put 80% into this and he only puts 20% into our relationship. Im a talker and want to get this sorted as I keep thinking that we must be over as he wont talk to me - how best do I deal with him after the argument?
Answers: I am libra and have been dating my aquarius boyfriend for 5 months. He is so different to anyone I have been out with - he can be distant, seem cold, isnt lovey dovey, doesnt do public displays of affection - yet he seems happy with the way we are going. Yesterday we had an argument and he told me he wasnt prepared to discuss the issue today..and left. He ignored my calls bar one - where he emphasised he didnt want to talk about it today. So I have backed off and given him space but cant help wondering if we are over? It wpuld be crazy to end it over the reason we argued - but it seems like I put 80% into this and he only puts 20% into our relationship. Im a talker and want to get this sorted as I keep thinking that we must be over as he wont talk to me - how best do I deal with him after the argument?
Aquarian males are like that. No way around it. If you like him, you'll need to learn to back off and wait for him. That can get a little hairy, but a Libra should be able to handle it (a Cancer would not). You'll need to adapt to him, not the other way around. He AIN'T changing, as you have already found out.
You'll need other interests to cheer you through the day and take your attention away fm his thing. Fun stuff. The more you forget about him, the more he'll come back. But he is the way he is.
Hounding an Aquarius is a SUPER TURN OFF.
wow, i sort of had the same arguement with my best friend...and she told me the same thing about me that your saying about your boyfriend...Maybe its true all or most Aquarians are like that when they are angry? Well i can tell you she gave me plenty of space, then wrote me a short message telling me how she felt which made me call her...because how could i just ignore that? And then she allowed me to speak and say whatever I wanted without interrupting..and then after i finished speaking, she didnt dwell in the problems, but told me ways we could fix it...and that made me feel alot better and comfortable. Yeah we're best friends but act like a couple sometimes! Here's a star...Hope all goes well with you :)
first of all why we need to know that he is aquar and you libra?!!!!!haasecond of all what argument was about?
and to me he sound as not very nice person.why would you want to go out with him?u r so desperate?i say , forget about it and go find someone who is lovey dovey .
I am Aquarius and Partner is Libra. Its meant to be a perfect match. Everyone argues. Dont hound him, just back off and let him do the running. It wont be easy and you will want to phone and text every minute. BUT DONT. Switch your phone off and go shopping. Tonight, watch TV or go 9out with your mates. Do Not Contact him!!!!
He doesnt sound like a typical Aquarian. Sounds like an immature, unloving, uncaring, selfish twat!! Good Luck
I think what you describe is how all women feel - man never want to talk whatever the star sign!
I have found aquarius men to be a little cold and distant, also the ones that I've known have lulled me into a false sense of friendship - to find out my inner thoughts - then made fun of me in a larger group of friends - I suppose this could just be classed as teasing but it has hurt me quite a few times.
Not sure about librans with aquarius - don't you need someone a bit more artistic, spontaneous and demonstrative.
But hey - if he makes you happy - don't wait for him to call - tell him it's crazy to end it all over this - if he walks away then at least you tried and it obviously wasn't meant to be
He's only a man after all!! Bless!
hey u
it is not over, give him time, talk about it later, if u are not satisfied quit it,
The problem with you is that both of you have oppsite signs Libra boys and aquarius girls can be good intimates. Here you appear to be advancing more and anxious for closeness. Adjust yourself and wait for appropriate advances, though not too far since aquarians have the same thought as you for you yet they take more time for acceptance.OK
Well this is only my opinion..but I think that if he wants to put you through all this drama he's not even worth it. I know you care for him but like Keyshia Cole says "If he ain't gonna treat you the way he should then let it go".
I don't think you guys are over. It takes a while for us to get used to criticism (if that's what the argument was about), and even more so, it takes awhile for aquarians to get the right words to say something. They will usually avoid face to face conflict, and sometimes just really need time alone to reflect and formulate their response so that they are not criticized on the spot for not knowing what they want or how they want to deal with a situation. It also takes a really long time for aquarians to become comfortable with affection and trusting another person completely, so don't fault him for that, just give him his space, and he'll come back sooner or later with a way to fix things. He just needs that spark of intuition to get it right. It's up to you however if you feel it is worth it to stick around or not, you know him best.
okay I have dated two Aquarians and I am a Gemini so I kinda know where you are coming from. Talk about walking contradictions. They are stubborn as heck and want things their way or the high way. They expect that you mold into their lives and plan to do very little if any molding at all into yours. I am a sucker for them so I keep falling for their ***. But you have to learn to give them space if you are gonna be with them. If he doesn't want to talk about it, he won't and he will make sure you get the message that you can't make him. I say give him a taste of his own medicine, get self absorbed with your own life. Of course him switching off like this is not a good sign, in one of my relationships with them this was the beginning of the end. But you are a Libra so maybe you can figure something out.
No... its not over lol... aquas dont end relationships because of simple arguments... i happen to be an aqua, and i would never end a relationship because of that... or a friendship... i would however, if i was somehow being toyed with my feelings (scorpio moon)
"he is so different" <- Aquarius xD
I think you may have just answered the question yourself... "he seems happy with the way we are going" if he seems happy and he shows it (not in public) then dont even think its over because of an argument or a problem, unless its something aquas consider very serious, which on the one hand involves their "rights" and way of being or on the other hand their emotions (most likely), which is hard for them to express, they are the famous users of the expression... "have i told you your pretty?" but its rare to hear them say such things...
Aquas are not liers and when they say something, they most likely mean it :)
And lastly, they/we have trust issues, and if they want to talk something, but feel its not the right time, or dont have the right argument or feel unsecure, they will back off, think about it, a lot, and then (after you call him/her) they will talk it out... after of course, you take the initiative... remember, your a cardinal sign... you "start" actions... aquarius is a fix sign... he stabilizes and fixes things... he also has a fixed mentality, dont try to change him... its impossible :)
Dont think its over before even finding out why it should be over?...
But if you cant take this "life" from him, then tell him straight head on and that you want solutions to it and if he cant accept it or find solutions, then do as you wish...
Give him his space and he will come round. I guarantee it!