Cap, virgo relaltionship help?!
Question: I'm a cap--he's a virgo--we are apparently both afraid of pushing each other so --what to do? We are afraid to ask and afraid to offer=will this pass the more we know each other? how can we stop this from being an issue?
Answers: I'm a cap--he's a virgo--we are apparently both afraid of pushing each other so --what to do? We are afraid to ask and afraid to offer=will this pass the more we know each other? how can we stop this from being an issue?
"will this pass the more we know each other?"
Yes it will, dont worry about it... just be yourself and try to gain his trust, yes it takes time, but im sure you already knew that when the relationship deepened a bit lol... and make sure you give him your trust as well, in the end its all about trust and fear of rejection or being emotionally hurted... ( i happen to have 5 capricorn planets and virgos have been around me)
"how can we stop this from being an issue?"
I cant believe im gonna say this to a capricorn and a virgo but... take the iniciative (yes you capri) and ask him out, go to movies, travel, walk around the world, go to places together... i dont care, do stuff together, even if its at work, just do stuff together... try to setup stuff... get pratical...make him feel useful to you and likewise (and use the expression: "can you help me please?" when you need it :D)
start, slowly and privatelly deepening the relationship (with stuff as "i like you" and bla bla bla (you know what im talking about, you could also do small things for him, just make sure you dont scare him off xD)), dont rush, take your time, slowly, you have all the time of the world and once your "deep" then all these issues end... once trust is gained then you can start thinking on very serious things, but until then start with the small things... keep in mind virgos are mind based, and they will evaluate all risks before giving their trust...
Note: if hes walking around you, and is always around you, its a very good sign :)))
But if he stops doing that...ask him whats wrong or if everything is alright... virgos like to know that you care (i mean their opposites, pisces, are the biggest "i care" of the zodiac)...
Oh virgos... your a mutable sign, but your slow... something is just not right there :P
Take things slow it is the best thing you both can do! I like the fact that a guy does not want to be pushy. Then there is the other side of the coin I really do not like someone that has no personality and never has any ideas about what to do for fun. It is a fine line. Good luck!
you and your boyfriend need to work these issues don't take your relationship to fast take it slow and get to know each other your signs dint have anything to do with your relationship
Well, first off, it is really important that you are aware of this. Sometimes, too much of an agreement can be a bad thing and we have to think of ways maintain balance. I think you have to find a way to make him realize this fact(if he hasn't already, that is...)
The first thing that comes to my mind right now is to stress your common traits...Considering the fact that Virgos are ruled by Mercury, he will probably figure out that you act and/or think the same way. However, even if he does, it is not certain that he is going to do something about it...Virgos are too shy sometimes and this may mean that you will have to take the initiative. I suppose you may be somehow hesitant about it (at least at first) because, neither of you likes pushing or being pushed. Nevertheless, you may be surprised at how effective this can be when handled the right way. After all, two minds are always better than one.
Taking into account that you're both Earth signs, I can suppose that you're overdoing it with politeness...to a degree where some other signs would not consider themselves as a "couple"...Do not be afraid of getting "involved". This is what a relationship is all about. You can be more relaxed without pushing him and the same goes for him.
If you find a way to balance your need for space and your need for involvement, you're no longer going to have such problems.
It can be quite tough, especially if neither of you has enough water in his/her chart. However, you do have a GREAT asset in your hands...Your Sun signs are of the same element. If this is also combined with a strong aspect between one's Sun and the other's Moon, you will "just know" what's the best thing for you to do...like a intense feeling of intuition. Do not be afraid of letting it guide you...it can be very useful sometimes. Not to mention the fact that if his Venus is in Leo, he will probably love to see you unravelling your joie de vivre...
Actually, the kind of advice I can give right now is pretty limited and of poor imagination (since I don't know about his other placements, either). I can only assure you, though, that following that gut feeling will always lead you to the right path. Just let it flow...(every woman has it.)
Good luck!