Capricorns, is it hard for you to tell a woman you like her..?!
Question: or want to start dating her? I have been friends with a male Capricorn and feel like he's the one I want to be with. I know there is chemistry...but I don't know if I should say something, or leave it alone, since he hasn't said anything to me. I just feel quite strongly that he is the one I want, almost to th epoint where I want to tell him, but it's also hard for me to express those types of feelings. It's a viscious cycle where I don't want to be rejected, but I don't know how much longer I want to go on without saying something to him. Generally, I don't say anything to a man, I just feel it's up to the man to step...but...Thoughts?
Answers: or want to start dating her? I have been friends with a male Capricorn and feel like he's the one I want to be with. I know there is chemistry...but I don't know if I should say something, or leave it alone, since he hasn't said anything to me. I just feel quite strongly that he is the one I want, almost to th epoint where I want to tell him, but it's also hard for me to express those types of feelings. It's a viscious cycle where I don't want to be rejected, but I don't know how much longer I want to go on without saying something to him. Generally, I don't say anything to a man, I just feel it's up to the man to step...but...Thoughts?
Okay, I have to say that you have to be very careful when handling a Cap, especially a broken-hearted one.
First off, I think you should avoid telling him that you love him straight away for two reasons. One: his reaction may not be what you expected and two: he may feel pushed to do something he may not want to. Plus the fact that Earth signs appreciate actions more than words.
So, even though Capricorns prefer honesty, it would be better if you let him realize your feelings in a more subtle and indirect way. At first, you should create the right atmosphere...this means you have to make him trust you. I really can't stress this enough. You need to make him feel secure with you. But, don't feel desperate if you get the impression that this doesn't work. Caps need to take their time because they want to make sure that they will not end up being broken hearted (again). So, in order to earn his trust, you have to do things for him that will make you seem reliable. Example: always arrive on time for your meetings, always keep his secrets, never be flighty or not serious enough and never NEVER lie to him.
(I have to note at this point that making him feel like he's in control is part of making him feel secure)
Now that you have earned his trust, it is time for you to jump into the romantic part. If he lets you into his life, this means he is seriously thinking of you, whether romantically or not. Now this is your chance to become a part of his life. Get involved with him. (Do things with him...little things, not anything flashy. Things you know he likes and things that bond you together...Show him that you have noticed his interests.)You shouldn't push him for any type of commitment yet, though. Just let it be an unspoken agreement between the two of you. Caps like privacy and deals. I would suggest you not to mention any "L" word yet. After all, Caps are a Cardinal sign and they need to take the initiative. They usually do not appreciate things they haven't earned. Perhaps you shouldn't step in before he does...he needs to have a peak to conquer.
Encourage him to make the first move BUT, make sure that when he finally does, you're not going to let him down...if he trusts you and you reject him, you're going to lose his trust forever. He needs to know where he stands and if you turn out to be the unstable type, you'll be out of the game.
Oh, and if you feel like there is chemistry between you, he probably feels the same.
I hope that helps.
Oh, and most Caps are hesitant about expressing their feelings (at least verbally) but, when they really love you, you will know...you will be able to feel it.
*Note: this is strictly based on his Sun sign ONLY. I could be wrong depending on the kind of influences in his chart. Perhaps following your gut instinct would turn out to be a lot more useful and practical.
PS. Yes, Caps don't like being rejected but, if you think about it, who does? They are usually in for all or nothing so, it make take a lot of time and patience to win them over but, in the end, I'm sure it will be worth the effort
i know what u mean.
NO....
i'm a cap female- it is EXTREMELY difficult for me to tell someone I like them.
I am a sagittarius who is involved with a capricorn.
His actions showed me that he liked me but he had never said it or made a move towards me. He did not tell me that he liked me until I began to flirt with him. He said that I should have known. For the most part I knew based on his tolerance for me in a business situation which wasn't going the way it should have and I also knew based on other acts of kindness.
I believe caps are shy and insecure and do not want to be rejected.
us capricorns are afraid to love cause everytime we love we get our hearts broken. the one good thing about a capricorn is that when we love, we love with everything that we got.
i understand what you mean completely. i am a capricorn and we could love so deeply, but it is hard to utter the words " i love u" even when i was a kid i couldn't say i love you to my parents even though i did love them. i still haven't found out but i think it is because we fear giving away information about ourself that could tie us up or ending up hurting us.
No, it's not hard for me to tell someone I like them or care for them, but love them...oh god yes, it's hard. I would never ever say those words, before someone say it to me.
My advice to you is to simply tell him you like him and see if he feels the same. If you know the chemistry is there between the both of you, then go for it. It also depends on how long you two have been friends and do you tend to talk about other guys you have dated or dating around him...basically a shoulder to cry on....because most men anyway won't approach the situation if they think they are in the "friend's zone".