How do I deal with virgos criticism?!
Question: My boyfriend is a virgo and I'm a cancer. We've been living together/dating for 6 months now. He can be very critical at times, and I tend to take criticism personally. He understands that, but he said he dosen't mean anything by being critical. What can I do next time he criticizes? I don't really like it.
Answers: My boyfriend is a virgo and I'm a cancer. We've been living together/dating for 6 months now. He can be very critical at times, and I tend to take criticism personally. He understands that, but he said he dosen't mean anything by being critical. What can I do next time he criticizes? I don't really like it.
ok, i know what you are going through because i myself experienced it, but do not worry...next time if he tells you that you are this and that, just give him any of these lines
"NOBODY IS PERFECT and NOBODY COMES TO EARTH AS ANGEL"
" To err is human"
"Love is all about accepting and respecting"
or show him that he isnt perfect either..he has faults too. i am sure if you describe them to him his ego will be hurt, but it will keep his mouth shut too. ever heard of the fact that poison kills poison??? its the same thing here.
otherwise, use the love your enemy strategy. if he says those negative things about you, just smile and accept with him that you are like that and u actually are too faulty. it will shut his mouth too.
another tactic, hit him with the question: "if you think i am so imperfect then why are you even with me?"
try all these keys. one will definitely open the door. good luck!
YES, Virgo's can be like this....i am Pisces and sometimes do not appreciate my partners comments...either...do not know if i can put up with it much longer. GOOD LUCK! I feel like say who the blank do you think you are..
I am a Virgo, and am very critical. The best thing you can do is leave him. It won't change.
if its a guy virgo tell them to stfu and they dont no everything! trust me bc they think they no EVERYTHING
Learn to accept it and look for positives in what you are talkign about. Virgos aren't good at that.
omg my brother is a virgo, and he has something to say about everything, from the way i dress, to the way i talk, to the way i sit, and hes very good at pointing out my bad habits, because im his sister, ders nuttin positive to say lol. and you being a very sensitive cancer, gets easily hurt, i suggest you sit down and be serious that you get upset when he criticises you, explain to him that you know he doesnt mean it but tell him that hes lowering your self confidence and self esteem, he'll probably click on then. its hard for virgos, same with my bf, he has bvirgo moon and omg the way i laugh, the way i walk, everything he tkes the p*iss lol but they are just vbery analytical and good observers. jus ask him if you could try not to criticise you, because it hurts, but show him dt ur serious.
your best bet would probably be to leave him. I am a virgo, and it's just in my nature to criticize. but although virgos criticize a lot, we tend to take criticism personally too.
if he doesn't respect your sensitivity, leave him.
Take it with a grain a of salt. The Virgos I know get critical when their trying to help you. For example,for years people thought my virgo brother was an ****** because he criticized people. In fact, my cancer boyfriend didn't like my brother at first because he thought he was rude with his criticisms. However, once he got to know my brother he realized he was only trying to help.
My ex is a Virgo and he and i never saw eye to eye I am a pieces so we are opposites, I too get my feelings hurt easily, his answer it's not about you it's about me, In his words, He is not responsible for my feelings. So unless you can grow thick skin and ignore his rude behavior from time to time. I suggest moving on now. However I have known Virgo men who are sensitive and caring. Go figure.
Know that he is far more critical of himself than he could ever be of anyone else. His criticisms come from a place of logic. He might not understand how much they affect you. Next time burst into tears. That might be a wakeup call for him.
Be patient, loving and generous, and vow not to be quite so ultra-sensitive if Virgo does have a few critical remarks to make from time to time.
Living with critical Virgo will not be an easy task for Cancer, who will take all the criticisms to heart and sulk for days. Virgos love to criticize so, give them their space and disregard.
Well, if you love him and you want to stay with him I would tell him to ease up on the constant criticism because you can't help but take it personally....being it is directed to you alone! Make him understand that you are telling him about it because you wouldn't want his nagging to interfere in yours and his relationship together.
I'm wondering if he even realizes how he sounds so I have only one suggestion and you can take it for what it is worth.....have you tried tape recording him when he is criticizing you and then playing it back for him to hear?.....