Fellow scorpions - how do you deal with letting go and forgiving, possessiveness!
Question: I am sun and moon in scorpio and struggle with these
Answers: I am sun and moon in scorpio and struggle with these
Hello!
It is very hard not to become obsessive and possessive in a relationship for us Scorpios. When i am getting into a relationship i do my best to take it slow and do other things. Don't let your girl/boyfriend be everything to you or you will become obsessed.
Letting go and forgiving... I just pretend it never happened and continue with my life. I found this to be a great quote:
"You have to take the good with the bad, smile when your sad, love what you've got and remember what you had, always forgive but never forget, learn from your mistakes but never regret, people change, things go wrong, just remember- life goes on."
It helps me to read that and then everything is back in portion.
Give yourself time and space. focus on other things and whatever you do stay away from the person. Find a breakup buddy and every time you get mad or upset call a friend and talk about it.
Time heals everything
I struggle with it also...but im a Scorpio ascendant with pluto conjuncting me ascendant,also my lilith conjuncting it too,as well as my juno..my mars is in taurus also...lol im very possesive,everyone says i have a hard time letting go and unforgiving.i deal with it by not allowing any of those ppl in my life,for a very long while,if at all.And i try to stay away from others i know who are fake and bring nothing but drama to me.If theres no positive ppl who are down to earth and actualy have common sense around me,i'd rather stay by myself.I am a loner..Things seem to go better that way.Even though i would like to have more friends around me.Also workign out makes my stress go away.And i feel alot better,or boxing.
to tell u the truth i would always dwell on those things. its like a part of me that seems that will never change.
I'm Sagittarius, but my birthday is November 25th so I'm a bit cuspy scorp and recently I had and entity....not a person that I got VERY obsessed by and it got really sick before I was more or less forced to let go of it....some of the rage remains because it was so recent, but as gisel said, time heals all and right now I'm in a 12 step recovery program, because as well this thing had become some of an addiction...good luck to you.
Yes, that is the Scorpios Big Test, Letting Go.
Count yourself lucky. You are one of the more evolved. Most "lower level" Scorpios don't even struggle with it! They don't give a sh*t, just do whatever.
Endeavor to make yourself more detached and not take things so personally. Just keep working at it. It DOES get easier, as time goes on. Just stay "on task". :-)
Yes, yes, yes, maybe, and no. I don't envy anyone, I think I am the most brilliant of them all, lol. But yes I broke up about a month ago with someone I was with for almost a year and knew for two years. I had to and still have to let go but it is a bit difficult for me I'm afraid... The break up was less than what it should have been, because we never actually broke up. We just stopped talking... That makes it very difficult. My ex and I got into a lot of fights about his past and past relationships which he lied to me about, and he also went and left me once when we first met, before we became a couple so that we wouldn't become a couple. Trying to protect himself from his feelings you see. You have no idea how hard it is to forgive a sorry loser like that. Always lying to protect himself, only ever thought of himself when he made stupid choices like running away. It was so hard, almost felt impossible to forgive him, but I still had those cursed feelings for him and so I had to fight to forgive him. But I made sure that if he really gave a rat's *** about me that he would change my mind, feelings, and opinion of him whenever I got upset with him. I simple cannot, in the sense that I will not, change those my opinion or feelings about a person unless they make me change them. I need proof, I guess you could say. I need reason.
My possessiveness was what caused a couple of those fights as well, because my possessiveness is linked to my jealousy as well. You know that sorry bastard actually told me once when we were talking over IM, that he was in the park, (using his phone to talk) and that some girls, complete strangers, just walked up to him and started flirting with him and he actually got turned on by that. Sorry son of *****... Thinking about things like that makes it easier to get over him actually. I also didn't feel too brilliant looking at an online profile of his on a website, where he had all of his 'friends' in real life as 'friends' there, and you know there were quite a few attractive females... And he told me that not a lot of females would give him the time of the day because he was, 'less than a pretty boy', if you know what I mean. So you can imagine that... I told him I wanted him to stop hanging out with these girls and talking to them in any way or form because of my possessiveness and jealousy. Again, it's getting a whole lot easier to get over him...
Anyhow. I wouldn't say I'm 'obsessive' exactly. I mean I'm dedicated and have good concentration but if that's obsessive... That's pretty sad...
Well I hope that answers your questions well enough. Much luck.