How to gain more friends as a male scorpio?!
Question: many things about scorpios are so true about me, so don't simply tell me to stop believing and move on.
sensitive and scared to express ourselves, hard to read our minds so its hard to befriend us. (even though i really want more friends its hard to completely connect w/ others)
we are so deeply emotional yet its not easy for us to openly display emotion
recently i asked someone to a dance, only to find out she has a bf already. now she is secretly teasing me w/ her best friends. now i feel weak and violent all over again.
here's a quote from another yahoo answerer
"Scorpio men do NOTHING for me and with a few exceptions in over 20 years of Astrology, most Scorpio men are VERY selfish, lie...and remain in denial......I would NOT go out with one......they seem to all have hidden agendas...and in MY life.."I RULE"
i dunno what to do...
Answers: many things about scorpios are so true about me, so don't simply tell me to stop believing and move on.
sensitive and scared to express ourselves, hard to read our minds so its hard to befriend us. (even though i really want more friends its hard to completely connect w/ others)
we are so deeply emotional yet its not easy for us to openly display emotion
recently i asked someone to a dance, only to find out she has a bf already. now she is secretly teasing me w/ her best friends. now i feel weak and violent all over again.
here's a quote from another yahoo answerer
"Scorpio men do NOTHING for me and with a few exceptions in over 20 years of Astrology, most Scorpio men are VERY selfish, lie...and remain in denial......I would NOT go out with one......they seem to all have hidden agendas...and in MY life.."I RULE"
i dunno what to do...
ah i love scorpio men they are awesome, i am a scorpio also. i recently was talking w a scorpio guy and aw the sensitivity and toughness of that boy was captivating and he had no clue what so ever... i understand everything that you are saying and feeling.
thats awesome that you asked that girl to dance, but still i know what you mean about feeling weak and violent all over again... you should let it go and ignore those girls, be smug to them and trust me girls are just as awkward as boys. it's really not a big deal.
and that quote that poster is hurt... they didnt get through a scorpios walls or things didnt work out enough for bt her and the scorpio guy well enough for the scorpio guy to trust her... it takes a special deep and understanding woman to get through to a scorpio. so believe me you are a catch being a scorpio, please email me and be my friend, i love talking to scorpios.
keep on tossing those women, you'll know when you have someone special, when she can look into your eyes and read what you really mean, the way you can w anyone (stop denying that)
i know it sounds silly but you have to remember that 1 in 12 people are scorpios afterall. don't think just because you're a scorpio there's nothing you can do about it. i know plenty of scorpios and i'd love to stay their friend forever. you sound young, with age you'll gain more confidance in yourself.
Hmmmmmmmm. Well, looks like you're learning that life does indeed suck at times and you're going through a phase that many people often go through. As for looking for friends i'd suggest not looking for them, but that's just my suggestion because when you don't look you often find. Sad thing is if you're going to force friendship with people it won't end up well. Another thing, you can't really find friendship in a place where you don't belong. For instance, if you loved basketball go to a basketball game or a park and you'll have friends in no time instead of going to a baseball game. And with the asking the girl out thing, don't worry about a single thing. Sure it hurts and sure it's depressing but it just shows that you had the balls to go up to someone you like and ask them to a dance which is something many people are afraid to do. Someone else is the one for you, this one just isn't it. Btw, I too am a scorpio. Life offers lessons at a high price though, if you're willing to pay you won't make the same mistake twice. I know i didn't really give you GREAT dvice but it's all i could think of so there you go hopefully I added in some suggestions that are useful.
you seem a bit lonely. (same here, pal)
being social isn't always the easiest thing.
maybe the next time someone talks to you, try to start a conversation.(just don't use the lame phrase "hey...how're you doing?" trust me, people have looked at me like i was crazy after using that one.it only works on old people.)
try to keep an open mind, and the next time someone nods to you, wave back. (you find friends in the oddest places, you know?) ^_^
*gasp* How dare she say that!
I feel sooooooo sorry for you, but I understand Scorps so I know what it must be like for you. As for I, I would LOVE to be your friend, I wouldn't treat you any differently than I treat most of my friends(which 4 of them happen to be Scorpios, out of the 7 I was counting)
I don't mind the different-ness of Scorpios, I like it.
But really a friend is someone you can trust not by judging them by their sign. And try NOT to get revenge on her or make her feel bad because then she'll hate you forever and make fun of you even more.
I don't know any way to help you gain friends except be a little more social, I guess. Or be who you are and friends will come along the way.
I'm a Sagittarius and I'd LOVE to be your friend, if ya want anyways.
[edit] Trust problems!?!?(okay, it's not that shocking. All scorpios have trust problems)
hmmmmmmm...........
Your friend's friends!!! You can hang out with one of your friends that has more friends and then you can become friends with one of that friend's friends, and so on like that.
(I guess I used the word friend too much. I confused myself)
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You can have lots of friends, but you can always trust one friend more than another. And you know what? You should be happy that you at least have friends because there are people out there that have no friends(imagine how they must feel)
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There's always someone here at Yahoo! Answers that can be a good friend that you can trust. Find a catagory that you like and answer a few questions and "get noticed" by everyone there.
You'll find someone that you'll be able to trust one day. As for I know this because Scorpios are able to stay focused longer than the other signs. And they will get what they want!
(I'm trying to think like a scorpio, it isn't working much because a Sagittarius is the complete opposite of them. But at least I'm trying, right?)
Don't worry about what other people think about scorpios. The problem is that because scorpios don't express their emotions, people often create their own expectations of them about how they think you feel and it hurts when those expectations aren't exactly reality. This makes many people angry and feel deceived but really scorpios are usually misunderstood. Athough that vengeful side is pretty bad too.
This is what I would do (I'm a sagittarius but had experience with scorpios). Take it slow with people. Talk more to people before taking a risk on them. Since most people want to talk about themselves it should be easy to figure people out before you need to open up. But do open up, just make sure it is to the right person. Next time you should first find out if the girl has a boyfriend before you risk her hurting you but at least you took a chance which says a lot about what you must have thought about her. She is just a stupid girl if she makes fun of that and not worth your time.
Hi, what you have described is a very torturous feeling. Being pulled and pushed in two direction with equal force... This works for me so may be it will help you :)
I go to public places such a stores, gym, etc. If you want female friendship go to a stores (for example) and ask a woman - any woman "Could you help me make a choice -how do you think this will look with a that color or do you think this will go well on blah blah"
If you go to the gym, ask guy on the frontdesk "so what excersise do you recommend for my blah blah"
Do this for practice and before you know it, you will find it easier and easier to approach people. When this becomes easier, it will be easier for you to initiate a friendship.
Dont' think too mcuh, the more you thik the more confused and nervous you'll get. Just go and do it !! :)
Hi...friends will come to you,you juz have 2 be yourself..it doesnt matter what zodiac sign you are... try to mingle wit your friends' friends...
My boo is a scorpio but he has heaps of friend gals and lads... he is a natural magnet though... i know scorpio is a strong sign, you guys has natural "x-factor" in other words...
There is a saying, "When you least expect it....". Have you heard of it? Romance, that is. If you go out and do the things you love to do, you will find others that like the same things. Ask a friend along if you like. What do you like, climbing, skateboarding, movies, , ice cream, sports events. These are the places you will meet someone with the same interests. Strike up a conversation, everyone loves to talk about themselves or compliment them on something. Like their car, hat, interesting ring, etc. You sound like a great guy, you can do this! Take a Chance! Check out the following horoscope for you!
Monthly Love for April, 2008
On the 5th, stay focused on taking good care of your health. After all, if you neglect your own health, how can you take on the task of making somebody else healthier and happier with your love? On the 9th, you're tempted. Exciting! On the 11th, try not to take command of a situation you can't control. On the 16th, dress for a good day, since that's what you're having. 20th and 21st, things are looking pretty fantastic -- and really romantic. 26th, you two are working really well together. What a feeling! On the 30th, enjoy a day of creativity and positivity -- together. It could be the first of many such days.
My twin soul is a triple Scorpio male, we met as kids. He always had trouble making friends and said, "I'm not like you!" (because I was warmer and friendlier)
That was 20 yrs ago and now he has a *bunch* of superficial friends he never opens up to, while I have just a *few* that I can open up with.
He is totally unable to connect with another woman emotionally, and can never allow himself to be vulnerable. But he met me, his soul sister. Destiny!
This inability to be vulnerable can protect you. But it is also like you are trapped in a castle that needs the door over the moat lifted for new friends to come in.
Lift the door for someone who earns your trust. That may mean *quality* over quantity. It will take you some time to heal from this gal's behavior, but heal you will. You will rise up like a phoenix from the ashes.
Although I get frustrated with my Scorpio man and I do say/write negative things sometimes about how hard it can be to deal with him, I truly, truly am thankful for his immense strength and protectiveness over me.
The right female for you will feel the same. Plenty of girls are crazy about Scorpio men, as you also should be able to tell by some of the posts here.
Good luck.