I need advice for a friend with 8th house Saturn square 12th house Mars?!
Question: I need advice for a friend with 8th house Saturn square 12th house Mars!?
I've been studying astrology, so I know the basics of what is involved with these placements!. I'm wondering if anyone could help me with a specific friend who has this placement of Saturn and Mars!.
The woman is a close friend, but she is not my girl friend!. She is intelligent, beautiful, witty and fun!. There is no getting close with her though!. She does not allow close friends, and she has never had sex, and has never even dated anyone!. She wants to date and have a relationship, but thus far all of them have been with online men, all of them male models!. She says her perfect man is a beautiful type guy who looks like Ville Valo or Orlando Bloom!.
She is a 'professional student' and usually graduates top in her class!. She is a talented writer, and she has completed a degree in psychology to try to understand herself better!.
She blames her 'overprotective' mother for all of her problems!. She recently moved out of her parents home, and lives in her own apartment!. She had an apartment with another girl, but that did not work out!. She likes living alone now, but her parents pay all her bills and support her!. She is afraid of driving, so she either takes public transportation, walks, or her parents take her to classes!. In her entire life so far, she has worked at one job for three months as a librarian!.
She has seen two psychiatrist, and they do not feel her mother is to blame for her situation!. Can anyone offer advice astrological or otherwise!? I hate to see this beautiful and talented woman remain so introverted and afraid!.
Here is her chart:
http://www!.astro!.com/tmpd/c8m0fileNDFD7z!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
The woman is a close friend, but she is not my girl friend!. She is intelligent, beautiful, witty and fun!. There is no getting close with her though!. She does not allow close friends, and she has never had sex, and has never even dated anyone!. She wants to date and have a relationship, but thus far all of them have been with online men, all of them male models!. She says her perfect man is a beautiful type guy who looks like Ville Valo or Orlando Bloom!.
She is a 'professional student' and usually graduates top in her class!. She is a talented writer, and she has completed a degree in psychology to try to understand herself better!.
She blames her 'overprotective' mother for all of her problems!. She recently moved out of her parents home, and lives in her own apartment!. She had an apartment with another girl, but that did not work out!. She likes living alone now, but her parents pay all her bills and support her!. She is afraid of driving, so she either takes public transportation, walks, or her parents take her to classes!. In her entire life so far, she has worked at one job for three months as a librarian!.
She has seen two psychiatrist, and they do not feel her mother is to blame for her situation!. Can anyone offer advice astrological or otherwise!? I hate to see this beautiful and talented woman remain so introverted and afraid!.
Here is her chart:
http://www!.astro!.com/tmpd/c8m0fileNDFD7z!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
Well, the major thing I see in her basic stuff is that Virgo Moon!.!.!.Virgo moon is introverted and can over analyze their emotions to the point of freezing up emotionally--!. This primary moon influence does indeed indicate an overly critical mother figure in her life, and not one that was particularly nurturing (you also see this with Moon in Aquarius!.!.!.where the community becomes the mother!.!.!.) You can actually see that Moon squares Mercury!.!.all this over analyzing makes her Merc refuse to work!.!.!.
Ahem!.!.!.she's going to have to basically systematically retrain her way of thinking in order to get her out of the house and doing thing!. Small steps!.!.!.gentle urging!.!.!.perhaps hypnosis!?
**I personally see no ethics issue here!.!.!.you've kept her information private to the public by not using her name, and I see no attempt to manipulate or cause harm!. I personally see no ethics issue, so I feel comfortable responding!.**Www@Enter-QA@Com
Ahem!.!.!.she's going to have to basically systematically retrain her way of thinking in order to get her out of the house and doing thing!. Small steps!.!.!.gentle urging!.!.!.perhaps hypnosis!?
**I personally see no ethics issue here!.!.!.you've kept her information private to the public by not using her name, and I see no attempt to manipulate or cause harm!. I personally see no ethics issue, so I feel comfortable responding!.**Www@Enter-QA@Com
You need to undertand that this is a bit of an ethics violation here - is she aware that you have posted her personal information!? If this is okay with her, then she needs to post the question and her birth data herself!. If not, you need to become more familiar with the ethic of confidentiality!. I would advise that you delete this question!.
Edit: Irish, it is not only her natal chart, but the specifics of her personal life!. If it is her question and she wants to reveal the details of her sex life, family relationships, etc, especially in such a public forum, then so be it; but if it is posted by another (friend!?) without her consent, which we do not know here, it is unethical, at least by the guidelines and standards of professional counselors!. Of this, I am quite certain!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Edit: Irish, it is not only her natal chart, but the specifics of her personal life!. If it is her question and she wants to reveal the details of her sex life, family relationships, etc, especially in such a public forum, then so be it; but if it is posted by another (friend!?) without her consent, which we do not know here, it is unethical, at least by the guidelines and standards of professional counselors!. Of this, I am quite certain!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Honor and respect this person's privacy and accept them for who they are!. If they ask you for help, help them if you can!. Continue to be a supportive friend by respecting this person's boundaries and do not share ANY personal information they have shared with you with anyone!. Take several steps back from where you are now, stay out of the drama and be supportive of her decisions even if you don't agree!.
I agree - his is an ethical and it is also a co-depency issue!.
If she wants to ask a question - let her ask ;))
Wish you the best
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I agree - his is an ethical and it is also a co-depency issue!.
If she wants to ask a question - let her ask ;))
Wish you the best
Www@Enter-QA@Com
there is so much to write!.!.her parents are not at fault!.mother sincerely loves her!.it is her priods that are making to hate her mom by her!.in stead of narrating all astro reasons best would b to sujjest good remedies which makes her/others happy !.lrt her keep yellow hankys always!.try to use bed clothes used by bher father!.3,love rabbits 4!.take oil bath on saturdays 5!.take honey everyday morning 6!.wear or keep silver 7!.no green colour 8!.keep water in a silver vessel and keep it in North west direction in her bed room and change water now and then!.to b frank only from nov 2009 her real good future starts!.the present bad will b over by sept/08 and from 4/09 she can see good chaqnge!.Www@Enter-QA@Com