How did you deal with a divorce, your sign?!
Question: How did you deal with a divorce, your sign!?
my parents are divorcing and i'm turning to turn off my emotions and not care!. I'm 17 so I know its not my fault, in fact I kinda talked them into it but I don't think their divorce of a 20yr marriage has hit me yet =/ I dont remember much of their fights and havent cried a tear
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If you need to talk, let me know!.
I was 19 when my parents announced their divorce, and I am 21 now!. It never is easier - not when you're 1 and not when you're 30!. It's just a goddamn pain in the a$s!. And I am genuinely sorry that you have to go through it, too!.
The first problem is that every divorce is different!. Because everyone is different, and every situation is different!. Your parents could be divorcing for very different reasons than mine did, and they could be very different people, so although we have a situation in common, you will never find someone who knows exactly what you are going through unless you have siblings!. That's what I learned, being an only child!. Nobody will ever really get it!. The impact, the pain, the choices!.
I was pretty calm and cool throughout the divorce!. When they told me back then what was about to go down, I cried for a whole weekend!. I couldn't do anything other than cry!. I knew there was a big, big obstacle ahead of me and it wasn't going to be easy!. I knew whatever was coming wasn't going to be easy!. And I knew I was overpowered!. You have no say as a kid!. Which makes sense, but is a lot more painful than people realize!.
After that weekend of crying, I have been the only adult in the situation!. God knows my parents are worse teenagers in their 50s than I ever was in my teens!. I had to be strong, and I wanted to be strong - because I could!. I wanted to carry the weight desperately, because I could!. And I carried it all the way through!. I turned off my emotions and lived straight ahead and dealt with everything rationally and one day at a time!. I am Taurus (Pisces Moon, Sag Rising)!.
My parents never fought!. Which was part of the problem!. The three of us were always really tight knit and that's why I cried!. Because I knew the safe nest would be gone forever!.
Since then, I've had about 2 outbursts where I wasn't emotionally in control and calm!. Another child of divorced parents told me, during the divorce, how important it is to express your anger right away or you will start holding grudges!. The thing that nobody tells you, is that that's not how it works!. I see my parents do things that I don't agree with, but they are FINALLY happy again and stable again and so I don't comment!. I do swallow my words and my anger!. That's the lovely burden most divorced parents place on their children!. Because the kids will always know; you don't know what it's like to divorce!.
It has been a frustrating and unfair process, but it's been very bearable!. Scarring!? Sure!. What isn't scarring!?
I hope you get through this alright, and I hope you let them piss you off until you cry at some point, because it's always good to know that you're not made of stone - that's how I felt when I didn't get upset about it after that first weekend!. I didn't understand why I wasn't screaming and crying!. It all takes time!. Lots of time!. And though situations change and change for the better, you do need to realize that this will never go away!. From now on, your parents will always be divorced, and that will always bring issues at your doorstep!. I'm not saying that to freak you out, I'm saying that to prepare you!. Being okay today, will NEVER mean that it'll be okay tomorrow!. And that's something you will have to deal with and that will come out sooner or later!. Embrace that and you'll be fine!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I was 19 when my parents announced their divorce, and I am 21 now!. It never is easier - not when you're 1 and not when you're 30!. It's just a goddamn pain in the a$s!. And I am genuinely sorry that you have to go through it, too!.
The first problem is that every divorce is different!. Because everyone is different, and every situation is different!. Your parents could be divorcing for very different reasons than mine did, and they could be very different people, so although we have a situation in common, you will never find someone who knows exactly what you are going through unless you have siblings!. That's what I learned, being an only child!. Nobody will ever really get it!. The impact, the pain, the choices!.
I was pretty calm and cool throughout the divorce!. When they told me back then what was about to go down, I cried for a whole weekend!. I couldn't do anything other than cry!. I knew there was a big, big obstacle ahead of me and it wasn't going to be easy!. I knew whatever was coming wasn't going to be easy!. And I knew I was overpowered!. You have no say as a kid!. Which makes sense, but is a lot more painful than people realize!.
After that weekend of crying, I have been the only adult in the situation!. God knows my parents are worse teenagers in their 50s than I ever was in my teens!. I had to be strong, and I wanted to be strong - because I could!. I wanted to carry the weight desperately, because I could!. And I carried it all the way through!. I turned off my emotions and lived straight ahead and dealt with everything rationally and one day at a time!. I am Taurus (Pisces Moon, Sag Rising)!.
My parents never fought!. Which was part of the problem!. The three of us were always really tight knit and that's why I cried!. Because I knew the safe nest would be gone forever!.
Since then, I've had about 2 outbursts where I wasn't emotionally in control and calm!. Another child of divorced parents told me, during the divorce, how important it is to express your anger right away or you will start holding grudges!. The thing that nobody tells you, is that that's not how it works!. I see my parents do things that I don't agree with, but they are FINALLY happy again and stable again and so I don't comment!. I do swallow my words and my anger!. That's the lovely burden most divorced parents place on their children!. Because the kids will always know; you don't know what it's like to divorce!.
It has been a frustrating and unfair process, but it's been very bearable!. Scarring!? Sure!. What isn't scarring!?
I hope you get through this alright, and I hope you let them piss you off until you cry at some point, because it's always good to know that you're not made of stone - that's how I felt when I didn't get upset about it after that first weekend!. I didn't understand why I wasn't screaming and crying!. It all takes time!. Lots of time!. And though situations change and change for the better, you do need to realize that this will never go away!. From now on, your parents will always be divorced, and that will always bring issues at your doorstep!. I'm not saying that to freak you out, I'm saying that to prepare you!. Being okay today, will NEVER mean that it'll be okay tomorrow!. And that's something you will have to deal with and that will come out sooner or later!. Embrace that and you'll be fine!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
oh your like me then, my parents have been fighting for years and i tell them that if it makes them happier, spilt up becos they don't need to stay together for me!.
but they rekon if they spilt up i will rebel and stop studying and start doing drugs or whatever hahaha!. but i guess my dad doesn't see how his behavior affects me aswell as my mother!.
i feel mutual to it, i'd rather them apart then screaming down each others throats every month or so!.
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but they rekon if they spilt up i will rebel and stop studying and start doing drugs or whatever hahaha!. but i guess my dad doesn't see how his behavior affects me aswell as my mother!.
i feel mutual to it, i'd rather them apart then screaming down each others throats every month or so!.
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