Gemini, howecome i can't get chicks to like me?!
Question: Gemini, howecome i can't get chicks to like me!?
I would never cheat on a girl if i actually ever finally freaking get one!
honestly ive been single my whole damn life i think its a curse!.
im like the one gemini in this world that would not cheat on a girl, im all about commitment, you would be too if you have been single your whole life!.!.!.
So, any insight for a moderatly attractive average joe like myself!? other than nice guys finish last please!.!.!.lol
by the way im 20, not 40, so the whole flowers and walk on the beach thing doesn't work for my peers i bet!. and to be honest ive never asked a girl out before, i have no self confidence! im starting to gain a little but, not sure if its enough!. and like i said, im moderately attractive, not the heismen winning trophy jock or some slim tightly built mexican, so i can't just simply Walk up to some girl and be like "hey wanna go out sometime!"!.!.!.
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honestly ive been single my whole damn life i think its a curse!.
im like the one gemini in this world that would not cheat on a girl, im all about commitment, you would be too if you have been single your whole life!.!.!.
So, any insight for a moderatly attractive average joe like myself!? other than nice guys finish last please!.!.!.lol
by the way im 20, not 40, so the whole flowers and walk on the beach thing doesn't work for my peers i bet!. and to be honest ive never asked a girl out before, i have no self confidence! im starting to gain a little but, not sure if its enough!. and like i said, im moderately attractive, not the heismen winning trophy jock or some slim tightly built mexican, so i can't just simply Walk up to some girl and be like "hey wanna go out sometime!"!.!.!.
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Answers:
Hiya!
You are not alone nor are you stuck where you are!.
Let me tell you about my boyfriend and me!. Not to rub it in your face at all, quite the opposite!. I am 21, he is 38, we started being being together romantically this summer!.
He is my first relationship, my first boyfriend!. Until I found him, I had nothing but bad luck!. Either I was too shy, or the feeling wasn't mutual, or a guy was just trying to get into my pants and abandoned me when he realized it wasn't working (fast enough)!. I never let it hurt my confidence because I've also done modelling work!. I just didn't get it!. Why never me!? Everyone seemed to find someone who fitted the profile, even the shy girls!. Why not me!? I'm a Taurus Sun, Pisces Moon, Gemini Mars, Sag Rising!. And then I found my boyfriend!.
My boyfriend was single and basically alone until he was 23!. God he was and is so handsome! Seriously, that's not the endorfine talking!. He's a handsome guy!. But he was very, very shy!. Always outcast!. At 24 he found a job that got him in a place where women were coming on to him because of his status and that's how things changed!. But he was very shy!. And now he's got a young model girlfriend LOL He's Aries Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Mars and also Sag Rising!.
Just goes to show!.!.!. some people just need a little more time!. Finding someone so much depends on luck!. Not everyone is young when they start dating or have their first relationship, so what!? It'll happen for you!. It happened for both of us!.
Good luck :-)Www@Enter-QA@Com
You are not alone nor are you stuck where you are!.
Let me tell you about my boyfriend and me!. Not to rub it in your face at all, quite the opposite!. I am 21, he is 38, we started being being together romantically this summer!.
He is my first relationship, my first boyfriend!. Until I found him, I had nothing but bad luck!. Either I was too shy, or the feeling wasn't mutual, or a guy was just trying to get into my pants and abandoned me when he realized it wasn't working (fast enough)!. I never let it hurt my confidence because I've also done modelling work!. I just didn't get it!. Why never me!? Everyone seemed to find someone who fitted the profile, even the shy girls!. Why not me!? I'm a Taurus Sun, Pisces Moon, Gemini Mars, Sag Rising!. And then I found my boyfriend!.
My boyfriend was single and basically alone until he was 23!. God he was and is so handsome! Seriously, that's not the endorfine talking!. He's a handsome guy!. But he was very, very shy!. Always outcast!. At 24 he found a job that got him in a place where women were coming on to him because of his status and that's how things changed!. But he was very shy!. And now he's got a young model girlfriend LOL He's Aries Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Mars and also Sag Rising!.
Just goes to show!.!.!. some people just need a little more time!. Finding someone so much depends on luck!. Not everyone is young when they start dating or have their first relationship, so what!? It'll happen for you!. It happened for both of us!.
Good luck :-)Www@Enter-QA@Com
There's nothing wrong with you!. Don't be overly confident and just don't try to be some one you are not!. Gemini sometimes really enjoys flaunting their personalities and it could really bite us in the butt if we are not careful so be down to earth!.!.!.!.!.!.!. Focus on other parts of your chart if you think being Gemini is a curse!. I've been there so I know how it feels!. I definately feel I am two-sided (but not in a bad way) = ]Www@Enter-QA@Com
awww poor you!
first of all look at the good traits you have, forget all the bad things!.
and im pretty sure there are girls feeling the same way as you, try making friends with a girl you are interested in, that way you can learn to be comfortable around her and be yourself, that way the girl can understand you as a person without judging you on first impressions,!.
just strike up a random conversation, make her laugh and make her feel good, dont over do it with too many compliments otherwise she might get the worng idea, take it nice and slow, and be smooth but not cheesy!. most girls like it if you are comfortable with youself and not trying hard to please, trust most girls dont really mind if your goofy- if thats part of your personality!. most girls like genuine nice guys, obviously you have yor tastes and so do other girls!.
if you dont know what to say, just go chill next to a girl, smile and say " hey whats up!?!? :D u ok!?!? ( if she works with you or something like that say !. !. !.) so how long you been working here for then!?!? you like it here!? and say oh btw my name is ( !.!.!.!.!.!.) whats yours!?!?!? :D then all will lead on after that !. !. !. and hopefully she will remember you next time lol but carryb on the conversations untill you know her well enough !. !. !.
sounds hard!? seriously once you have done it, it wont seem that scary, trust!. stop thinking about what that person or other people will think!. !. !. its the only way you could try something new and get over your fear about talking to girls, ok maybe not fear confidence!.
if flowers and walks on the beach thing isnt for you, hey you will know what the girl is interested in, once youve gotten to know her, remmeber no one likes the same things everyones different!.
hope i helped :DWww@Enter-QA@Com
first of all look at the good traits you have, forget all the bad things!.
and im pretty sure there are girls feeling the same way as you, try making friends with a girl you are interested in, that way you can learn to be comfortable around her and be yourself, that way the girl can understand you as a person without judging you on first impressions,!.
just strike up a random conversation, make her laugh and make her feel good, dont over do it with too many compliments otherwise she might get the worng idea, take it nice and slow, and be smooth but not cheesy!. most girls like it if you are comfortable with youself and not trying hard to please, trust most girls dont really mind if your goofy- if thats part of your personality!. most girls like genuine nice guys, obviously you have yor tastes and so do other girls!.
if you dont know what to say, just go chill next to a girl, smile and say " hey whats up!?!? :D u ok!?!? ( if she works with you or something like that say !. !. !.) so how long you been working here for then!?!? you like it here!? and say oh btw my name is ( !.!.!.!.!.!.) whats yours!?!?!? :D then all will lead on after that !. !. !. and hopefully she will remember you next time lol but carryb on the conversations untill you know her well enough !. !. !.
sounds hard!? seriously once you have done it, it wont seem that scary, trust!. stop thinking about what that person or other people will think!. !. !. its the only way you could try something new and get over your fear about talking to girls, ok maybe not fear confidence!.
if flowers and walks on the beach thing isnt for you, hey you will know what the girl is interested in, once youve gotten to know her, remmeber no one likes the same things everyones different!.
hope i helped :DWww@Enter-QA@Com
I think your issue is self confidence!. You frame your question in terms of the negative e!.g!. you ask in spite of x and y and z, you can't find anyone!. With all due respect, it seems like a self fulfilling prophesy (like despite this I can't do it)!. First, there are tons of women out there!. Yours is not a situation where you have dated extensively and believe you have found Mrs!. Right!. You want to date to find Mrs!. Right!. There are not really many nice guys out there (really read the singles or married section or go there and ask women for what % are gentleman out there, you will be very surprised!.) and if you are a gentleman, have confidence you will have absolutely no problems!.
As for confidence, my advice is to go to a travel agent and take a trip to a singles Club Med or Club Hedonism!. Ask either which is the wildest singles vacation or which has the highest % of women!. Then ask for the name of someone (one of the agent's patrons) who went there before you book!. He will give you the real scoop!. When you go, go with the attitude of "having the best time of your life"!. Go, with a promise to yourself NOT to get entangled in a relationship that will last beyond your vacation!. also, don't plan on getting much sleep ; )!.
Trust me, when you return, you will view yourself and dating entirely differently!. For the week you will be like a piece of meat on a buffet table (shared by the hungrey masses) and this will make you believe in yourself!. You will see dating as simple as selecting one of the many bags of Dorito's at the grocery store!. At age 20, this is what your life should be like!.
Btw, imo, women of any age enjoy getting flowers!. It is not so much the flowers, but that you care enough and value her enough to woo her and do something genuinely nice!. The fact that your peers don't do it, will make you and your effort stand out all the more (in a positive light)!. also, imo, the beach is fun for different reasons than you may think!. For me, it's fun to play, it's nice to let your guard down, release your inner child, and see if you can play together (and that my friend is a vital component of a lasting relationship)!. also, there is something calming, centering and tranquil about a walk along the beach at sunset!. It lets the two of you really talk and get to know one another!.
Good luck and G-d Bless!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
As for confidence, my advice is to go to a travel agent and take a trip to a singles Club Med or Club Hedonism!. Ask either which is the wildest singles vacation or which has the highest % of women!. Then ask for the name of someone (one of the agent's patrons) who went there before you book!. He will give you the real scoop!. When you go, go with the attitude of "having the best time of your life"!. Go, with a promise to yourself NOT to get entangled in a relationship that will last beyond your vacation!. also, don't plan on getting much sleep ; )!.
Trust me, when you return, you will view yourself and dating entirely differently!. For the week you will be like a piece of meat on a buffet table (shared by the hungrey masses) and this will make you believe in yourself!. You will see dating as simple as selecting one of the many bags of Dorito's at the grocery store!. At age 20, this is what your life should be like!.
Btw, imo, women of any age enjoy getting flowers!. It is not so much the flowers, but that you care enough and value her enough to woo her and do something genuinely nice!. The fact that your peers don't do it, will make you and your effort stand out all the more (in a positive light)!. also, imo, the beach is fun for different reasons than you may think!. For me, it's fun to play, it's nice to let your guard down, release your inner child, and see if you can play together (and that my friend is a vital component of a lasting relationship)!. also, there is something calming, centering and tranquil about a walk along the beach at sunset!. It lets the two of you really talk and get to know one another!.
Good luck and G-d Bless!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Okay, now you can hear from a Pisces!. You say you never asked a girl out before, maybe you could start there!. It won't be the end of the darn world if they say no!. Consider it their problem if they say no and move along!. People think guys are jerks with no feelings but they hate rejection too!. There are plenty of nice men out there!.Start talking about chick flicks like The Notebook!. I guarantee you if you start talking about something like that or start giving girls nice compliments that one of them will take a shine to you!. Liquid courage might enable you to ask a girl out, just don't overdo it!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Damn bro, your whole life!? Well I believe your a good guy just haven't had the chance of meeting!. Maybe your not putting yourself out there to meet the girls!. They are everywhere but you have to have a little confidence in yourself!. It looks easy to just have a rel but it's all work i'm 22 and I havent had a successful rel yet!. It always takes two people to come together and bond!. Just dating around isn't all that fulfilling!. So I think you should take step 1, go out and step 2 try to improve your confident, be brave!. The girls will love it!.Www@Enter-QA@Com