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Question: My friend is doing an oral assessment in English in about an hour. She has to pretend she's the mother of Ryan from the film Saving Private Ryan. She's going to be asked questions about how she feels about the death of her son, have you got any ideas on how to describe this? :)
Answers: My friend is doing an oral assessment in English in about an hour. She has to pretend she's the mother of Ryan from the film Saving Private Ryan. She's going to be asked questions about how she feels about the death of her son, have you got any ideas on how to describe this? :)
She has problems remembering his face at times.
Sometimes she sees him in a crowd...and rushes to turn him a round...only to find out it is not him.
Sometimes she sees a child on the sidewalk while she is driving...will stop her car...get out...and follow the child for minutes at a time...even though she knows he is dead...but can't help it anyway. This is called searching behaviour and all parents who lose a child...do it to some degree.
If she has a grief counselor...she will act out her feelings of pain by being rude or obtuse towards him/her.
She will call her counselor...sometimes in the middle of the night...just to test and see whether or not he really means...'call me anytime'.
One time she even heard her son there in the background...as if he was magically alive and had somehow travelled to the counselor's house so she left her house and went directly to his house to search for her son.
She feels sometime that the pain comes in waves...not like a hammer and one time and that's it...but in wave...after wave...of realising..."Oh my god he's dead..." and then there is numbness until the next wave hits her...sometimes that day...sometimes the next day...sometimes several times a day...sometimes not for a week.
Sometimes she feels an explosive and corrosive hate for anyone who has a child still alive and watching them can be enough to trigger extreme homicidal feelings towards the mother/father...and often that is when the panic attacks come on.
Sometimes along with the wave of realising that her son will never come home...like hearing his favorite song on the radio...or the smell of baked bread or something else that reminds her of him...is enough to trigger a mild panic attack.
Sometimes she loses time...especially when she is just sitting quietly brooding...hours pass with no recollection of time...
And sometimes she feels his presence upon awakening...and it is only after she enters his old room that she realises that his death is not the dream...but the dream is of him being safe...and she is whole...and not laden with grief...with chunks missing from her midriff.
While she is being questioned...ask your friend if she would keep in her mind being at the site of the grave...when he was buried...someone hands her a flag...and she does not remember much after that...
and how all her friends who have children all seem to have changed how they talk to her...how so few of them will bring up the death of her son...how some have stopped calling...or suprise visits that vanish...and some that are even angry with her for not getting over it...and moving on...and the horror filled day when she realised that those with children were acting as if what she went through could be contracted and they could lose their kids....and the rage she felt and how for weeks all she wanted to do was strike them in the face.
Days go by when she vacillates between being numb and feelings of rage, depression, abject suicidal urges so strong...her body will seem to be operating on its own...without her conscious volition...and how hard she had to fight to step away from the open window of the fifth floor.
When she describes feelings its okay for her to stop...for ten seconds at a time...while staring off into space...before resuming what she is saying...as if she heard someone calling her name...or even asking someone in the class if they have seen her boy...and then snapping out of it...
Millions of ways to play this scenario.
Hope some of this helps...
Tell your friend good luck...
Wow - standards of education have really dropped haven't they.
Private Ryan survived, it was his brothers who died based on a true story
just start crying..no words can explain the pain & grief..
Is this part of course she is taking? Why specifically "Saving Private Ryan"? She should be able to do well enough just working off how she would feel if one of her own children had died. If this is an English assessment, then they are only interested in how well she is able to express herself and understand others in English and the film is just a starting point in the conversation.
Hope this answer is on time and helpful.