Why do we see ourselves differently then what people see us as?!
Question:
Why do we see ourselves differently then what people see us as?
example:
you think you're ugly but ppl think you're beautiful
Answers: Hai KIMMI3SOFRESH,
That's because, everyone perceive things differently from each other.
It has to do with their genes(hereditary factors), the environment in which they are born & bought up, their experiences in life(especially the experiences up to the age of their adolescence), etc.
Even the circumstances in which they make the decision about the thing might also play a role.
For instance, if a person in turmoil receives a supporting hand from another, our person will in all probability think that the other person is beautiful. If the person had seen the other person in a different circumstance, he/she might have thought otherwise.
By the by, your picture looks beautiful to me dear!!!!!!!! hormones omg.. is that charmaine?
that pic's so pretty!
umm... gud qu... self esteem, ego, past (traumas events etc.)? Everyone picks out their own flaws.
It's just how we are. Because only YOU knows ALL your flaws and might be too critical of yourself. I suggest listen to what those people say unless the say you're ugly. because we're looking out and they are looking in Because were compliment hogs and want people to notice us. Also, you might have to take in consideration that people are nice.... Its simply called personal confidence. Or lack there of. Which ever applies. its jsut naturally built in, we always have a higher expectaion for ourselfs, thats what i think
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omg.....i just got serious!!! :D because people dont have a chance to see you naked, go learn a trade Because we expect more out of ourselves in most cases and it's low self esteem in many. becuz we see ourselfs in a different way then other people do. it just comes down to being self coffadent. if other people say you are beautiful then you probly are and need to start thinking about yourself in a different way maybe because our minds only see what it sees based on our personal thoughts.
we think someone is beautiful, yet we think we're ugly..its weird Its part of the fact that everybody's unique: we all have different opinions. No opinion is 'wrong'. Some of us have esteem issues.
We just have to put trust in our friends that they are telling us the truth about how we are. you just stated it yourself dear ..... we perceive ourselves as we want to believe we are ...... not necessarily as we truly are This is an intense question... props! I think that we are hard on ourselves because of negative experiences, which leads to a self-loathing. Either that or, we dislike ourselves because we know we have the power to change ourselves whereas with others, you cant change them so you have to love them the way they are. Hmm.. Well we spend more time with ourselves than anyone else does..... therefore, we have a deeper understanding of who we are. Also, ur perception of what ugly is or what beauty is can also impact how you view urself. I think its because what we think and feel inside is different than what others think and feel because their not us - they don't have the personality we all have.
Like it's basically having your own opinions.
People think that "your tall, your smart, you have good manner's." What your thinking inside is your own opinions and your point of view of yourself and other people's point of view of yourself to them. you dont see youself in the mirror in the same angles they see you. you dont see yourself acting natural. people a normally harsh and judgmental of themselves becuase you are naturally not as nice to yourself. people dont know why. i do it too. i feel fat or like i have a large nose but thats what happens. i think your very pretty. well i dont know wgat you look like but you get the point. I believe it's because, We know our "True inner self" when others only have hearsay to go on!!! Because, out of anyone else who knows you, you know yourself the longest and you know yourself the best. You see yourself everyday, you're self critical. You know your secrets and you can see your every flaw. You exploit those flaws when you look at yourself in the mirror or when you look at yourself naked.
You can't see a full vision of yourself at a distance when you're out. You can only see yourself up close. Even your voice sounds different from what you hear as your speaking and what others hear. How often do you listen to a recording of yourself? We are always more critical of ourselves, we look in the mirror and see every little flaw. Others look at us and see the total package at once including our personality. A very interesting question! I hope it gets "headlined" in the Answers forum.
I don't have any real answers, but I think it comes from the way we were perceived as children. If our parents (or guardians) gave us encouragement and praise plus boundries and accountablitly for out actions, then we see ourselves as compenant people.
However, if we have received more negative imput than positive, we tend to have a negative self concept of ourselves.
It's hard to have a positive self concept when society, and sometimes your family says otherwise, but just know that no matter what, God loves you and wants the very best for for your life. Your not smart and everyone who says your pretty just feels sorry for u. U really are funny looking.