Should I be offended that my hubby's mom STILL insists on cooking for him?!
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Should I be offended that my hubby's mom STILL insists on cooking for him?
He's 41 years old. She still makes meals for him! Our freezer is PACKED with homemade soups, lasagna, etc., that she makes.. Did I mention she doesn't like me?? I think she thinks I don't feed him or something. Which is kind of true-- I'm not big on cooking. Still-- he's 41! He can feed himself, right? Additional Details
8 hours ago
Housecat--yes, he is Italian! This has GOT to be an Italian mother-in-law thing, I think!
7 hours ago
I left out a lot of details. Put it this way-- she REALLY doesn't like me. At all. And she is awfully, awfully meddlesome. So really, the cooking this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Answers: 8 hours ago
Housecat--yes, he is Italian! This has GOT to be an Italian mother-in-law thing, I think!7 hours ago
I left out a lot of details. Put it this way-- she REALLY doesn't like me. At all. And she is awfully, awfully meddlesome. So really, the cooking this is just the tip of the iceberg. Is he Italian? 'Cause we might have the same mother in law. well since you're not feeding him, what else is she supposed to do? let her son live on sandwiches for the rest of his life? If you're "not big on cooking", then shouldn't you be HAPPY that his mom is doing all the cooking? If you want it to stop, then tell your husband to explain to his mother that YOU will be doing all the cooking from now on. If you spoke to your husband about how this makes you feel, then you should be upset with "him" not your mother-in-law.
He should speak with her and explain your feelings and ask her to stop.
He's your husband - you should be his priority.
If he refuses, then perhaps you should rethink your relationship.
Good luck. Don't take it personal. I'll always be a mama's boy my whole life too. That's family! I would try and bury the hatchet between you guys. !)yes He can feed himself
2)is he a total mamas boy? tell him to cut the ambilical cord
3)tell her that you dont appreciate the fact that she insists on cooking for him because he is a married man and she needs to RESPECT THAT
4)tell her to kick rocks and build a bridge and get over herself with not likeing you...If your husband likes/loves you enough to marry you then she needs to give you a chance and she needs to NOT OVERSTEP HER BOUNDRIES play head games with her. have her buy the food and cook it, so you dont have to, then say :oh mom! this is so f'ing good!" keep up the good work, ahhh lemme go watch some tv" =) No- dont be too offended. My son and I are very very close and he is 16 right now. But I hope that until my dying day I can always make him a few of his favorites that I know he truly loves. I, of course, want his happiness so if I knew it made his wife uncomfortable I wouldnt do it- Id just teach her how to make his favorites so when Im gone he can still have them and remember me. She just loves him and its hard for her to let go. I can honestly say it doesnt matter to me who my son marries as lon as he is happy and she treats him well. Im not the one marrying her- he is. If he loves her- I know I will too You should not be offended at all, especially if you & your spouse are not big on cooking. Yeah, you gotta watch that " iceberg " thing. That's what did in the Titanic, ya know...