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Answers: A woman should automatically take a man's surname when they marry.

Us girls think NO. The men think YES.
What reasons can you give to support your opinion?

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I like the name :)

I say no, as I'm a Cherokee woman, and we're matriarchal traditionally. I prefer our way-the children get their clan through their mother. Those who say it's "tradition" below are full of it--that's not our tradition, and what you people do doesn't work for all of us!

If the argument keeps up, why not just have both parties hyphenate? I use a hyphenated name on air (I'm a radio news anchor,) it's a combination of my actual last name and my stepfather's name. I added that to show respect for him and everything he did for my mother and I.

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i took my husband's name when i got married

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I think girls should take the sumname because it shows you are married and commited to someone who means a lot to you. It's not fair that the boys don't have to take any name whatsoever.

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thats not a big war neither is it cause for one.

it's your choice, mate~

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yup.that is how it is done.

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I would never let any man steal my identity

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I say yes. If you belive in the Bible it states that a man leaves his parents and is brought together with his wife. It just makes sense to me. When I get married I want to take my husband's name.

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whatever they think. who am i to say what other people can and cant do that has no affect on me at all?

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Yes...they are getting married and that is showing that they will be togther and united FOREVER!

Why get married and keep your name...thats silly.

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Well in Spanish class they said that it's ur first name then ur dads last name and then ur mom's maiden name. But here in America it's totally different.

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I took my husband's name but I have a friend who's husband took her last name. His family sucked and he didn't want to be a part of them anymore. So, I guess it really depends on the circumstances involved in the marraige.

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NO,,,It is our choice. I didn't change mine.

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i think that either the girl should take the guy's name...or atleast have it in part of her name because you are now committed to be with that person for the rest of your life. however, my fiancee wants to take my last name because it's a lot cooler than his. :-) i'm totally fine with that. :-)

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I took mine...but what ever the woman wants would be my answer.

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I believe that women SHOULD take their husbands name unless they are in a profession that associates their name with them ie. doctor, lawyer etc. Otherwise I think so simply because of trdition. Some women would say no but they would probably also be some of the same women that insist on a white dress or a church wedding simply out of tradition.

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it's always been that the woman take the man's name but since time has changed it can go both ways depends on the couple

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Yes, it's tradition.

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My wife took my last name. But I really don't care. She can call herself anything she wants. It's fine with me.

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Yes because it shows that your married

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Personally as a woman i dont see why not take a mans last name when you get married.. Im engaged and getting married soon and i cant wait to have his last name..
I look at it as a new adventure, It may seem like a crazy way to put it as a adventure but if you think about it, it really isnt..
You have had your name for your whole life and now your making a new start.. your getting married.. You get to change something.. Like your last name.. You get the ring put on your finger and know how much that man loves you..

I believe in having your last name changed .. I dont know if i can give you any more reason to support my oppinion because it is my oppinion and that is what counts to me !!

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i would take a guys name if we got married because i shopws how much i am willing to do to be with him and how commited i am to him. Taking a guys last name creates a connection, it makes a married couple one whole unti to me. Even if the girl doesn't take his name they probably are in enough and commited enough to know that they will be there for eachother. but it would make me more than proud to have my mans last name when we get married. So i'm like caught in the middle.

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it's irrelevant. in old days it was a sign of "ownership," but now with women so frequently in the working world that if a woman has any sort of power she has to file so many papers and make so many calls and find a notary and blah blah blah just to let everyone know that her name has changed. my mom never changed her name. any man who thinks it's "wrong" for a woman to not take his name has very obvious problems with his ego and likely drives a monstrosity of a truck as a form of "compensation." get over yourselves.

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I happen to really really like my surname (which is actually my Dad's given name. And since he was adopted it was literally his GIVEN name!)
I kept my name when I married. Husband kept his. And our daughter has both last names separated by a hyphen (husband's first, mine second; we followed alphabetical order).
A man putting his name on everything smacks too much of ownership to me.
Everyone knows who the birth mother of a baby is. The father needs a DNA test for absolute proof.
Turn it around: a man should automatically take a woman's surname when they marry. If he finds that weird or disgusting or stupid or ridiculous or simply not on, point made.

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Im a woman and i think the female should take the mans surname when married. And i also think it's silly when the female just adds the mans surname to their last name.
1) you get married to become one family. In a marriage the mans name is getting passed down. Thats how it works. Thats how it was set up and has always been. I think that when women started the whole thing with fighting for equal rights and trying to overcome the whole male dominance thing, they just began to take it a lil too far. lol. Not that i'm against the whole equal rights thing....remember, I am a woman.
2.) i also tend to disagree with woman not giving their children the fathers last name, when they know who he is. Unless the man signs his rights away or won't acknowledge the child, it should be law for the child to have the fathers name. Thats just the way it is meant to be.

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its tradition. the women takes the mans name and the man (if need be) takes the women's religion.

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yes..tradition is being lost in america and it (my opinion) is causing r down fall.

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Well, if this was 1906 and your father set up the marriage to the local butcher and your parents offered up a rich dowry, then yes, as a woman you would automatically have to take the man's surname once you marry. As part of that bargain, you would also have to bear more children than your body should have to and deal with a possibly anunhappy marriage that you can't get out of until your husband dies. Yippie!!

Jesus people. If a woman doesn't want to take her husband's surname, that's fine! We can vote, wear pants, hold full time jobs and possibly run the country. Get-over-it.

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I think that it is right to take your husbands surname. It doesn't sound right to call yourself the same name you grew up with when you just got married. I know, myself personally, I am taking my husbands surname when I get married!!!!

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You can have the last name, I'll take the religion.

Hyphenated names are only a short term solution. Imagine if two hyphenated named people marry, their child will have four names.

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