If someone you care about is dying, what would you do to make their last days as!
Question: Here is the situation. My grandmother has been suffering from alzheimers disease, which can effect your mind tramatically. She has been okay for years until the weekend before last. We took her to the hospital and we were told she had pnuemonia. That was not the case. He azheimers has gotten worse. Because of this, she is having memory loss problems and she is not really eating. If we do not feed her, she will not eat. She is literally starving herself tor death. This is a really crazy time right now. She remembers that she has a grandson but she cannot make the connection that it is me who is her grandson. What could I do or what would you do in this situation. There may not be to much time left.
Answers: Here is the situation. My grandmother has been suffering from alzheimers disease, which can effect your mind tramatically. She has been okay for years until the weekend before last. We took her to the hospital and we were told she had pnuemonia. That was not the case. He azheimers has gotten worse. Because of this, she is having memory loss problems and she is not really eating. If we do not feed her, she will not eat. She is literally starving herself tor death. This is a really crazy time right now. She remembers that she has a grandson but she cannot make the connection that it is me who is her grandson. What could I do or what would you do in this situation. There may not be to much time left.
I would honestly just spend as much time with her as you can, even if she doesn't remember you're her grandson. Does she like (or remember how) to play card games, or board games? Even something as simple as Candy Land. Or watching television, or ANYTHING that she enjoys doing, as long as she's got some company would be great.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you and your family all the best.
I'm sorry that you are going through this! It's very sad, especially when we feel helpless to do anything. The bset thing to do is make sure she is comfortable. Other than that, you may wish to bring around photo albums and go through them with her looking at the pics. She may remember more than you think, if she is prompted by pictures.
Best of luck to you sweetie!! Cherish the time you have with her. While it will be painful someday when she goes, the pain subsides and the memories are what will last.
Here's a hug for you! ((((((((((((((( *[:o) ))))))))))))))))))
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Go see her every day and do the things with her that she has always enjoyed doing. Or just sit and hold her hand My Dad died 1 year ago and I watched him for 3 months but We had long talks. and I watched a lot of hunting tapes and football games with him. I miss him so much so see your Grandma has much as you can even when its hard on you.
maybe you could bring pics of you when you were younger and maybe pics of the 2 of you together.... I dont have much experience with this and im sorry cause this has to be a horrible way for the family of your grandmother... just cherish the memories you made with her before her illness and know that she loves you
I would try to make the most of your final moments. It's a truly sad thing.
I had a somewhat similar situation with my Granny. I let her know that I was there and that I wouldn't grieve. She loved me and wouldn't want me to.
There is not a lot you can do. She will not remember you. If she has stopped eating then she knows that her body is going. You are in a tough spot. If it were me, I would look into getting help with her basic needs. There are medications that can help her. Good luck
be there, as much as possible, talk to her, even if she doesn't recognize you, she will still hear you, comfort her, make her as comfortable as possible, and surround her with family--it will mean the world to her and that's something you will look back on and be glad you did!
It's a very hard time! Just be there for her if you can and sit and hold her hand. Do what feels right for you. If you can't visit and want to stay away, that's all right. Just think about what you want and will you have any regrets about not being there. It sucks! My step father died of cancer and his last days, were very hard. On morphine, in and out, barely conscious. It was very hard on the family and I couldn't visit as much as my mother. I don't regret it. I just cherish the moments that we did have together even more. I wish you all the best!
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The best thing to do is let her go. My favorite Aunt developed Alzheimer's, she ended up not knowing anyone and was in a panic all the time. Her kids had a hard time seeing her like that, and she died in silence, Knowing no one or nothing. Her kids decided to let her go, she just laid there and cried. The doctor went along with them, no feeding tubes and just basic care.
When your about to loose someone who is precious to you, you go to them and you hold them (or sit with them if not possible) and you tell them "everything you ever wanted them to know".
You say exactly how you feel, what they mean to you, all the gifts they have given you in life, and how very precious they are to you.
ANd just be there for her.
Even if your grandmother can't remember its you, or maybe even what you've said, you will. And it will be the best gift ever at this time and for the rest of your life, knowing you went to her and let her know what she brought to your life before she looses hers.
I am very sad for you. Alzheimer's is a very negative illness. It often takes people to a time that no longer exist and they become very confused and do really odd things. Just remember its NOT your grandmother but her illness instead. If you do all that you can, regardless of acknowledgments or rewards. You will also rest in peace when her time comes.
~HUGS~