What's the best thing to do with your man to make him miss you without .....!
Question: ok, here's the thing, i've been living in with my man for almost 3 years now..and maybe time made him insensitive and he became too positive that i'll never leave him no matter what..
the question is, how can i make him miss me and make him realize everything without leaving the house? i mean, by actions?
i already talked to him many times, but still, there's no improvement.
Answers: ok, here's the thing, i've been living in with my man for almost 3 years now..and maybe time made him insensitive and he became too positive that i'll never leave him no matter what..
the question is, how can i make him miss me and make him realize everything without leaving the house? i mean, by actions?
i already talked to him many times, but still, there's no improvement.
Stop talking to him and start ignoring him as he does not have any importance in ur life,or start praising other fellows whom he does not approve.and see the changes in his behavior.BEST OF LUCK.
pack a suitcase and leave it lying in the hallway for him to stumble over. If he doesn't get it - leave!
Just do something, or show him what it would be like without you in his life.
good luck.... walk
take a vacation or a business/official trip. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
you can grow up, say how you feel and if things don't change you can leave him
manipulating someone never works.
indifference lol sounds cold, but one good way is when he talks to you, don't look up from what you are doing, don't give him the cold shoulder but act as if it could go either way and you still just don't really care... that piques their curiosity when you stop paying full attention to them
When my husband started that crap I started going out with my girlfriends all the time, staying out late, etc...he got the clue and he didn't like it, but he is starting in again so I need to start going out again..for some reason it worked..maybe it will work for you...
Why would he miss you when you are together all the time?
ignore him try to distance with him he will be closer to you and would miss you more it really works i tried lots of time
Take a vacation w/o him.
He can't miss you if you're not gone !
I moved into my other house for 3 months.. boy did he miss me, and he's been kind and polite ever since I got back !
You sound inexperienced like me. A girl just told me that every relationship is heated at the beginning and then life goes on. I, however believe that if you are not around often, he will never become nonchalant.
Why would you want to be manipulative?
Why would you want to make him think you might leave?
If you want your relationship to be fresh, why not work toward that, without trying to rile him? Why not simply show him that you appreciate him, and that you would like to know that your relationship means something to him?
If you are not satisfied, let him know. If he will not change, then why play games? If you are unhappy, perhaps it is time for a change.
When you are gone he misses you. He is just not as emotional about showing it as you want him to be.
That Men are from Mars book has some good thoughts on the dynamics between men and women. There are periods in which the guy goes into his "cave". We're like rubber bands that way. If that's the case, then waiting for him to come out is the best thing to do. If you chase him in, he'll just go further.
If you've tried focusing on him and it hasn't work, perhaps the only other place to go is to focus on yourself. There's nothing more attractive than a person who doesn't seem to need anything. It frees a man up from the fear that he can't give a woman what she needs emotionally.
Just a thought. I'm no expect on this stuff.
Whatever you do, don't try to reason with him. Don't let him know this has become an issue cos he is quite likely to spot any attempt to alter the situation and resist even more just resulting in a messy mess.
And really you might have to leave the house to show him what he's got, so that he can miss you. Really there is no other way other then stone cold ignoring him and all that will cause is a row.
Go stay with friends for the weekend, or your parents, or brothers, or sisters. Don't make a big deal of calling him and texting etc. because it will hardly be like you have gone.
Lets say you go on the Friday night, call him to say your there safe (if you like) and then don't call him till the Sunday with which you say your having/had a fabulous time...regardless of how it went. Don't tell him when you'll be home and surprise him with a small gift on your return, that could something as unsentimental as a takeaway (lets hope he doesn't decide to cook you a meal that night hey!)
If you really really don't want to leave the house like that, the only other options in my view are shopping trips further a field for example.
Really the key things that are making him comfortable that your around are that you are always there, accessible and so he relaxes. So you need to become less accessible, so don't text him as soon as he texts you for example, let the phone ring and call him a couple of minutes later because you were "busy". Don't lie just twist the truth.
Become the one he misses by giving him oppurtunities to miss him.
(Q) what's the best thing to do with your man to make him miss you without ......?
ok, here's the thing, i've been living in with my man for almost 3 years now..and may be time made him insensitive and he became too positive that i'll never leave him no matter what..
(Answer)
You are living well, I hope. Why do you feel, he had become insensitive? Is he neglecting you.
Being positive about you, that you will not leave him under ant circumstances, is good for both.
Unless he is behaving irresponsibly, with out realizing his share of work or contribution, there is nothing you should have to worry about.
(Q) the question is, how can i make him miss me and make him realize everything without leaving the house? i mean, by actions?
(Answer)
Whatever you are doing now on your own and very important items in the house, one or two, stop doing for two days , causing lot of inconvenience and letting him understand that if you were not to do them, lot of difficulty is to be met and thus he feels your absence or missing in one way.
This you can not abruptly stop doing. Act as if you were not well and had to be detained in a friend's home for want of your sickness and treatment.
This is not leaving the house , but keeping just outside the house for a day, under emergency.
If you still want that you do not want to go out of your house, then stay in your home, but stop attending two or three very important works, by keeping to bed only.
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i already talked to him many times, but still, there's no improvement.
(Answer) Here it is not clear. What improvement you wanted. Talking many times makes the issue very weak. Always remember this point. Don't tell even once. Just let him realize , by subjecting to your actions of missing in the scene.
If you practically do twice or thrice, he will realize, the importance of your presence.
I think what your asking is how to make him realize he has a good thing and not to take you for granted....right?
Well the thing is talking doesn't help when it comes to most men.........I would say try to be independent from him and try not to cater to him as much. You have spoken your peace and you need to show him you mean buissness. Dress nice and take some girl friends out. Tell him you want to go out and when you do look sexy, maybe if he sees other guys looking at you he'll start to realize you mean buissness. But don't make eye contact with other guys either you don't want him to think you don't love him anymore. Men can be insecure.
We women have a tendencey to put the mans feeling first and get him all cozy then we want him to do the same inreturn. They don't work like us so you have to realize that.
Try to teach yourself to be grateful he is commnig home and loves you............I'm single and it sucks the choice of men that are out there.
I have read several good books on the subject.
One is a book available through Focus on the Family (www.family.org) called "The Triumphant Marriage", by Neil Clark Warren. It is a study on how very successful couples keep the sparks jumping in the relationship...a very positive approach, covering the various areas that chafe or often get forgotten. Very good advice to keep the sparks hot and flying in all critical areas. I think it is also available through most major bookstores.
FOF has a lot of resources on relational problems and solutions.
Another good source is Kosher Adultery by Shmuel Boteach. Available at least through Amazon, and probably others. I got my copy at a sale in a bookstore in Northern Idaho!! Studies in keeping a relationship lively. There may be others, but these two have seemed especially good to me.
Now, I would warn you, only some of the ideas are one sided, and it is very beneficial to get your companion to read too.
And do not get put off by the ethical content, because the ideas are what you are looking for.
There is also a good couple of books by Maribell Morgan, practical hints, but tho they are good and successful even if mostly one-sided for the lady, they have gotten panned by critics from both sides of the fence!! Small paperbacks, but full of constructive ideas. As a man, I'd think thrice at least before becoming lackadaisical with a woman living as Maribelle suggests!
And you COULD consider reading the "Song of Solomon" from the Bible together; it has much eroticism in it, practical things again, and can be quite effective if both parties listen for ideas in the loving expressed in it.
Hope this helps.