Poll: Why is there so many single parent families?!
Question: I'm very grateful for your answers,
I'm kinda just looking for reasons or opinions.
Thank you very much :)
Answers: I'm very grateful for your answers,
I'm kinda just looking for reasons or opinions.
Thank you very much :)
ah kids having kids... teens know WAY too much and don't think of consiquences..
also binge drinking.. people get drunk.. and u know what follows.
easiest way to get a flat.. they think it's a cushy number, until they relise it isn't. 10 / 15 years down the line, when they couldn't do things they wanted to do.
fair enough if you have kids after your married and it goes pear shaped , but all the dopey people around who can't keep it in their pants or keep their legs shut.. I'm fed up for paying for. they are normally claiming off the state also. a few even make a career out of having kids to avoid getting a job.
you will normally see them on jeremy kyle etc..
as for condoms being to expensive, thats rubbish. get off to a family planning clinic , thats no excuse.
people see it as a way to have an easy life, sad to say...
i feel sorry for the kids, as they see that as the "normal" way to act and continue the cycle.. i know 2 grandmothers who are 40.. and a grandfather at 30..
he seems to think its great i'm paying for his 6 kids by 3 different women. I told him get off his a** and get a job instead of being a scrounger.
if people work and have kids, fair enough.. if people are using it to dodge working.. that is a different matter.
because people hear a few songs in their teens and rush into love thinking they know everything about it .... the result is a broken home
coz life just turns out like that. it can't be helped in most cases.
because its so easy to get divorced,50years ago,marriage was until u die,but now u can get adivorce people dont really think about it
because people blindly go into having children, & think it is acceptable for a child to grow up without the privilige of a safe, stable, happy home.
basic lack of committment these days i'm afraid :)
Because people have no patience with eachother anymore.
they marry for all the wrong reasons...too little respect and understanding.
because in my case my ex wont face up and be a man
he knows we need to talk before i let him near my precious babies and i wont back down on it.
but hey you know my story better than most! i just dont really want to go into all the details
there is more than one very good reason why i am a single parent family
Dead beat moms OR dads in my case.
Sometimes the kids are better off with just the one good parent. It's not always best to stay together for the sake of the kids. Especially if one's a heiny-hole.
because its life sometimes the majority of men dont want to face up to there responsiblity not all im not hating ok!people r young and foolish and do not think beore they act so the result a child!it depends on the way u live ur life from there on in,otherwise the pattern continues!so make a bad situation better live your life right put the child first and it will not!
Because one parent shows less commitment than the other, and scarpers rather than put in some effort. Could be immaturity or selfishness.
Changes in the times I guess and a lot of people opting out of marriage and divorce becoming more easier. Also its not such a stigma anymore although there are still some that frown upon single parents especially single mums (and thats something I have witnessed myself). Could also be to do with the welfare system too, although I think its the wrong reason to get pregnant for for you can get off the state but there are some that do exactly that. Basically its a combination of factors. Good question have a star *****
People are selfish and self-centered.
Because people didnt get divorced years ago due to the stigma attached and poverty they could face - problems still existed, cheating still happened, abuse was common but it was behind closed doors.
Im sure most families back then would have split too, if they had been the options of today.
It is easier to be a single parent these days and society doesnt cast you aside.
lost of respect in the relationship.
because people rush into marriage too soon and have children before their relationship is stable
also too many young teenagers are getting pregnant
broken condoms.
Because they didn't have the "sex without protection talk" while growing up !!
theres a few reasons in my opinion. my parents have been divorced since i was 3 i am 19 now. they married right out of highschool. like so many people i know are doing and i know that only 1 of the 10 people are going to stay married. another reason is the girl has been sleeping around and the guy doesnt want to take care of a baby that he isnt sure is his. another reason is the guy just thinking the girl was sleeping around because he's scared and doesnt want to take care of a kid.
I'm a single parent & have been for 10 years. I left my partner because I took one beating too many. My children have been brought up in a calm, stable, happy environment. They're polite, well balanced, happy, do well at school & are none the worse for being from a single parent family. I refuse to call it a "broken home" because broken was how it was before. It was fixed the day I walked out.
Beacuse some teenagers just see the good side of life and think they can mary someone rich they dont even like just to get money. trust me i does not work my friend tried it got divorced after two months.Like my parents wher boyfriend and girlfriend for 12 years before they got married and when i asked them why they did that they said beacuse we wanted to know that we were making the right desicion before we got married so that you would not have to live in a split family. So far my parents have been maried for 13 years but they have known each other for 25 years!
I am a single parent to a gorgeous 7 yr old girl......
I would disagree she is from a broken home - she is very well looked after and gets alot of love from both me and her dad.
Women no longer have to stay in unhappy relationships - we are living in the yr 2007 (almost 2008!) and we are more able to become financially independent, there is better childcare and women are able to go out to work and provide for themselves and their kids - instead of remaining in a relationship because she has no means of supporting herself and her kids....
Yes, I would have loved to remained in a relationship with her dad - but my daughter will be much more stable and secure with me and her dad happy and apart.
Hope this helps in forming your own opinion. x
Simple reason (really) ...
Let's look at what we see in the News/Media every day -- (including the Music Videos) ... Males being idolized for having unprotected sex, skipping out as soon as the female says "I'm Pregnant" (or just having sex way, way too young ... I look at Advertisements showing little girls in very sexy poses at very young ages -- too much push on Sex too early), NOT willing to take responsibility (financial or otherwise), The STIGMA that a female has to endure when she is pregnant/has the child (oh, she was 'loose' or 'easy' -- not realizing that the SINGLE Mom status is the TOUGHEST one will ever endure), and ... idolization of the male who 'makes his mark' with 'sowing his wild oats' as far and as much as possible ...
There are plenty of males out there who just can't handle the responsibility of Parenthood -- don't want to provide for their children, and REFUSE to acknowledge or do anything for their children.
Additionally, there are the Abusers too ... and ... if one is especially careful (lucky), they can finally get up and leave, but they LEAVE with NOTHING at all -- and ... in a LOT of cases, with LESS Than nothing (Because the Abuser makes sure that their Survivor HAS NOTHING BUT DEBTS after the survivor leaves ... and makes them miserable for the rest of their lives -- because restraining orders are USELESS).
It was (personal experience) a FAR, FAR BETTER thing for ME to LEAVE (with my Toddlers) that horrible short disaster of a marriage (to an abusive, violent sociopath) than to STAY .. for either I would have died within the next year -- or the children would have died ... and since that time (and the subsequent divorce), this Ex has CONTINUED to Stalk and Torment me down through the years ... (and yes, I have a couple of decades of experience with a HORROR of an ex).
He DENIED the children (He IS the Dad -- I did DNA tests when available), he REFUSED to provide Child Support (per the court order), changed addresses and jobs (when he had one), used Unemployment Compensation to Travel to STALK my Residence (and try to break in -- for which I reported him for Unemployment Fraud), I did police reports, but ... he would DISAPPEAR between Torments ... and so many, many address changes (and an UNCOOPERATIVE state of California which does NOT and NEVER will provide any assistance to collect the Back Child Support Due) ... I endured comments (by the ex) where he 'claimed' I was messing around (which I wasn't -- that was for sure -- between Military Duty and Caring for my Children 100% of the time (I had full custody after his conviction for Child Abuse on a forced visitation) .. there was NO chance I was doing ANYTHING Except working or caring for my children.
So ... for the SAKE of the children, for my own SAFETY .. being a SINGLE PARENT was the THING to do ... that is why I LIVE and Breathe today.
That is why so many, many women are ALIVE at this time too ... for they LEFT and grew and provided for themselves/their children due to IRRESPONSIBLE, Abusive, Violent (and ... quite possibly) mentally ill (former) spouses.
Because traditional marriage has become an outdated concept. It goes back to owning a spouse as property, and has not been thoroughly rethought in light of gender equality and the sexual revolution, and offers little room for individuality.
It is also based on religious concepts that are also becoming increasingly irrelevant, by defining a family and one's place in that family in extremely narrow terms.
We (generally) have a better quality of life compared to our predecessors, and, as with parents spending what would previously be bequeathed to their children, we are seeking to enjoy that quality of life more, with a larger range of experience. Even 20 years ago, it was expected that you get married, have kids, pay off the mortgage, die. These days it is hard to expect people to limit their life to a specific set of experiences or rituals, and sometimes a couple just wants different things (or one person wants something different and circumstances, such as an affair, cause the split).
Another factor is longevity - we are living longer than before, and the prospect of living together far longer than our predecessors is a daunting one. Even couples who make it well into double-digits are known to break up; it's not just those who dived in too quickly or without the right expectations.
Additionally, there are those who seek a family but not a spouse, so the issues of marriage aside, there are some families that are single-parent by design.
There are a myriad of reasons for this and I see plenty of reasons that aren't even listed here. While some people actually choose single parenthood, I think maggie3 said it quite well. I am a single mother and while I wouldn't trade my son for the world there are times I comprehend the distinct advantage to being in a two parent home. Unfortunately, it's always one or both persons fault. There is no way to make someone love you, make someone stick around if they don't want to, or to make someone be a good and loving parent. I think the MOST important thing is that the child is in a home where they are loved ... period. A single parent can do that just fine. There are usually many other family members as well, who love the child enough to help make up for the lack of a parent.
Lastly, a single parent home is much better than the alternative if one of the parents is abusive, addicted, or irresponsible. Sadly, we see this a lot today as well. We also see a lot of young people who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of being a parent - yet THINK they are responsible enough to have sex. Then when they end up pregnant they rarely end up staying together. They're just too young. Which is why - although I am a Christian - I feel like we need to do a much better job of educating these kids about sex. What we're doing ... isn't working. Until more parents get that we are going to end up with more of this situation ... rather than less.
Peace to you ...
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Reasons as to why people become single parents, (esp. single mums) include the following:
1. Socioeconomic deprivation and poverty
2. Low educational attainments
3. Pregnancy often unintended but not trying hard to avoid
4. Timing wrong but reluctant to terminate pregnancy
5. Prefer to be with partner but he left
6. Father of child not good husband material e.g. unemployed, irresponsible, violent, untrustworthy.
Here is a quote from Rowlingson and MacKay (1998)
“some felt their new life as a single mother provided with a role and an identity that was preferable to their previous life in low paid low status work.”
Divorce isn't really looked down upon anymore, so more people divorce- resulting in an increase of single parent families.
It`s just too easy these days with all the help and benefits. Years ago, most couples could not afford to split up, they just had to grit their teeth, and get on with it.
condoms are too expensive