How will I deal with.......?!
Question: my only son going off to college next year? He is my only child and we r extremely close. He will be going to Boston and we live in Nebraska and Im already losing my mind over it!!!! He is such an awesome kid and he is going into pre med to be a neuro surgeon. BUT Im not quite sure what to do without seeing him every day!!!!! I love him so much and my heart is breaking and I cry everytime I think of him leaving! Im worried sick! Im not worried how he will live without me BUT how I will live without him!!!!!!! I have a full time job- so I keep busy. My hubby is celebrating- he says its time for just US. And thats true. BUT part of US is HIM!!!!!! How did others deal with this? I should just move to Boston huh????? HELP!
Answers: my only son going off to college next year? He is my only child and we r extremely close. He will be going to Boston and we live in Nebraska and Im already losing my mind over it!!!! He is such an awesome kid and he is going into pre med to be a neuro surgeon. BUT Im not quite sure what to do without seeing him every day!!!!! I love him so much and my heart is breaking and I cry everytime I think of him leaving! Im worried sick! Im not worried how he will live without me BUT how I will live without him!!!!!!! I have a full time job- so I keep busy. My hubby is celebrating- he says its time for just US. And thats true. BUT part of US is HIM!!!!!! How did others deal with this? I should just move to Boston huh????? HELP!
its hard and i know youve probably heard it but youll get used to it. you need to let him go on with his life and you need to let him branch out a bit even if he doesnt want to leave he probably needs to he needs to find out how to look after him self. visit often so you go at weekends and stay in a travel lodge or something or he comes back at weekends the time in between will go quickly probably not at first but you really will eventually get used to it. give it time for his sake. good luck
I think it's time to cut the ombilical cord mama. He'll be fine trust me :)
If you two are really close, why not buy a webcam, so you can chat on the computer and you can still see your son? So even though you aren't there with him, you can still see him each day and it will be like you are there, plus no security lines and loss of baggage with a webcam.
some time you just have to let him go and you can visit each other every few weeks
Give your son the space he needs. This will most likely make him a better, more rounded, worldly person. Boston is a fine city for schooling, and for getting a taste of what the world has to offer. As long as he always remembers that the Red Sox will forever suck, then he will be fine.
And your husband is right, it's time to take back your marriage! Sounds like he's had the champagne on ice for quite some time.
it is time for you and your husband and you should enjoy it.
he can come home on some weekends, holidays etc.
but, get yourself and him a webcam so you can chat every now and again.
good luck,
hope this helps.
Remember that part of being a parent is letting your child grow up. You have done the best job possible and now it's time to let him spread his wings and fly....
Since thinking like this won't help the pain any...get a puppy.
errr get over it!!
talk about over the top, your not the only one dealing with this,
everyone has to leave home - its part of growing up and maturing!
DONT smother him by following him! are you insane!?
hes probably too poilte to tell you to bugger off!
i would if my mum followed me everywhere.
get over yourself, there are real problems in the world you know.
He will always be your baby. Look at it like this-HE'S AN ADULT NOW. He won't forget you. What are you going to do when he meets his significant other? Just stay in touch with email and cell phone. He's going to be busy, don't expect to talk to him daily. Just find a hobby besides working.
You will LOSE your husband if you continue to dwell on it. He's right-it's time to enjoy each other.
It's great you love your son, but don't overdo it. Relax, he has to move on in life and you shouldn't hold him back. I'm sure he'll call you, so you can still talk to him. Eventually the hatchling has to leave the nest, and the mother must help him learn to fly.
hi there,
i can't speak from your perspective because i'm not a parent. however, i can speak from your son's perspective. when i was 18, i moved from my home state of FL to go to NY (NYC, to be exat). In the U.S., all of my family (with the exception of 1 cousin) resides in FL. What a decision that was!
You can't imagine what this did to my mother! I was her baby daughter (out of 5 children), and I was the only child to have ever gone off to college, or even to leave FL, for that matter. My mother had a very difficult time letting me go. Although I saw my leaving FL as a wonderful opportunity for me to learn how to be strong, independent, and just a more intellectual human being, she saw it as herself losing her baby daughter. She was so distraught over my leaving FL that she wanted, very much, to move to NYC...
While I was in NY, I made it a priority (at least for my first 2 yrs in college) to speak to my mom on a daily basis. I believe that this helped her a great deal (and me as well!). Even now, many years later, she still worries and cries excessively (but a lot less so than she did, initially). However, I think that she has learned that she cannot hold tightly to me forever. She has learned that, although she loves me, I am growing and maturing into an adult who needs to have her own identity, her own independence...
I know that you love your son, but at some point, you are going to have to slowly (but surely) allow him to grow and mature...Trust in his decision to leave, and respect him, no matter what :)
I do hope everything works out for you!