Ladies, do you REALLY mean it when you tell your man...?!
Question: ..."If you want to leave, all you have to do is tell me?"
I don't think it's true. If we do say, "Okay, I'm outta here", then you're gonna ask why and next thing you know, stuff will be broken and arguments will ensue. Then you'll tell everyone how HORRIBLE he was and he has a small winkie and blah blah blah...
Really, WHY would you make it to be SO easy and then give us grief for it when we take you up on it?
Answers: ..."If you want to leave, all you have to do is tell me?"
I don't think it's true. If we do say, "Okay, I'm outta here", then you're gonna ask why and next thing you know, stuff will be broken and arguments will ensue. Then you'll tell everyone how HORRIBLE he was and he has a small winkie and blah blah blah...
Really, WHY would you make it to be SO easy and then give us grief for it when we take you up on it?
Pete, I have said that same thing before, the only difference is that I meant every word of it!
We were going through a difficult time in our marriage and I told him to leave. He did. I was miserable for about 2 days, then I realized that that was the best thing for me. I did what I had to do - never anything that went against the vows I took. I got myself together and went on with my life while my husband decided exactly what he wanted to do.
It ended happily. After a few months (and me COMPLETELY ignoring his phone calls) he decided he wanted to come home. We have been happy ever since.
The moral of this story is - if you say those words, be prepared for what comes with them. I was, and it made me a better person.
Just don't play with that phrase.
no we don't that means stay
No but my husband tells me this ... I tell him I will KILL him if he leaves me ... big big difference
i would never say that. but if i did what else should i expect?
I mean it, but maybe that comes with age.
Do you mean leave forever?
If my husband said he's leaving i'd say ''fine, but if you do i will NEVER take you back''
If you mean leave for a couple of hours of course i'll be asking questions..
Ha! They mean it all right but what they DON'T say is that want to get revenge BEFORE you leave, which will be when they kick you out. Until then they take great pleasure in torturing us for months -- then THEY decide when we go -- usually after they have found your replacement, thrown away all of your belongings and consulted with a lawyer.
women are complex we give you an easy out and then when you take we realize we don't want you to go. have you ever said something and 2 seconds later you regret saying it?
Why is this directed at ladies. I think it is more commonly said by men.
i would be in heaven if he left...and besides you cant make someone love you if you want to go ...go
Surely you don't believe what a woman says is actually what she means, do you? You must know better than that. The female mind just isn't wired that way!
You have to look at body language and listen to slight vocal inflections and watch for subtle facial expressions and a hundred other maddeningly cryptic little indicators.
It's goddam exhausting!
Hmmm........because while women mean it, it takes a while to come to terms with it if the guy really does want to leave. Until it sinks in, stuff will be broken! lol!
And FuriousBlue, stop calling him Shirley ;-)
If a man wants to leave me, then he should. I dont want a man
who doesn't want to be with me.
I would have a pretty good idea of why he is leaving if I had to say those words so I would be somewhat prepared for his exit.
I just went thru this situation, I initiated his departure, accepted it before opening the door for him so to speak.
We were civil and actually get along better.
Dont say it if you dont mean it. I just happened to mean it.
Don't tell me, just go...pack up your stuff when I am at work and be gone...turn off your cell phone. That's the trick.
women are complicated creatures that men unfortunately will never be able to fully grasp.
Uhhh????
Maybe some women pussyfoot around and say things they don't mean, but I don't. I've always been forward and assertive and even though men say that's what they want out of women, they honest don't. I've found very few men who like my forwardness and assertiveness. So enough of the guys stating they hate game playing when you all obviously do. If you truly hated it, you'd date women like me and not all the chicks who pussyfoot around and play games like a preschooler.