How do you get over the guilt & embarrassment when you've done something wro!
Question: I started drinking Egg Nog and Rum the other night with a friend of my husbands (while he was at work) and well one thing led to another and we wound up doing the deed and I just can't seem to get past the guilt, no matter what...I feel so terrible about all of this.
I hadn't vacuumed the carpet in about three days and I simply can't be caring on with men and my house looking just any kind of way.
Ideas, suggestions, thanks in advance!
Answers: I started drinking Egg Nog and Rum the other night with a friend of my husbands (while he was at work) and well one thing led to another and we wound up doing the deed and I just can't seem to get past the guilt, no matter what...I feel so terrible about all of this.
I hadn't vacuumed the carpet in about three days and I simply can't be caring on with men and my house looking just any kind of way.
Ideas, suggestions, thanks in advance!
then how about we just meet at the holiday inn next time?...that should take care of the guilt of your carpet:)....
PS....I'll bring ree:):):)
You wanna come over for some egg nog?
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Seriously Karen. You have identified your weakness. To forgive yourself you have to...
a) Feel genuinely sorry.
b) Promise yourself that you will not do it again. Don't promise yourself unless you are SURE.
c) Prevent getting yourself in the same situation in the future so that you are not toying with your weakness, and therefore demonstrating to yourself that you are living up to your promise.
Once you do this you will be able to forgive yourself.
Well in the past I have done such things..and there was no past the guilt..I had to end the relationship with my man at the time..but I realized I wasn't truly happy to wrong him in that way..but now I have moved on and now I'm with a guy whom I don't even wanna flirt with others..or wouldnt even think of it!! I'm in love :)
You dont need to feel embrassed or guilty. You need to come see me. We will share some eggnog and a lot more.
WOW you must have really had quite a bit to drink!
some say not to tell your sin as it would relieve your
guilt but hurt the loved one. Since it is someone
your husb knows well I can only hope you have learned
something from this and if not vacumming is the only
way you control your self that does not bode well for
your relationship. Maybe you should be single and not
hurt your partner anymore.
Good luck to you.
Guilt might be something that you need to carry to
remind you not to do it again.
How would you like if it had been he that was unfaithful?
How would you like him to handle it?
I honestly, rarely feel guilty. I know I did something really wrong but I just think of it as an effect of the choice I just made. And no matter how serious I just move and not care. I don't know how I do it but, I think you can achieve this by just I don't know thinking this is my life and everyone else are just factors of my life, my life is my life. I should be able to do what I want as long as it is sensible or something.
I'll bring the rum.
You need to come clean with what you have done and tell him what you did. Might make things between you bad but that is the only way to handle it.
You might want to come clean...before your husband's friend does. And do a quick cleaning before you entertain, just in case.
so when i come over i should bring egg nog, rum and a vacuum? I can do that, what time did we agree on again?
You get over your guilt by doing it on the couch today. Once is never enough!