Only Wish Female Opinions....Questions about Christmas?!
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It will make it so much easier
Okay most of my family thinks I'm being a jerk or cold-hearted or whatever with certain gifts
First I have a sister, who really has NOT worked much in the past 6 months. My attitude is I will give her cash. Like $200 but most of my family thinks that I should still get her a little gift or a compact disc. I know she is low on money and I'd rather just do money in a card. So am I a jerk or mean?
Second, my mother is having probs with her house. A few breakers went out and now the dining room is dead with no power and part of the living room has zero power.
So I got the breakers and an electrican will show up Thursday to hook it all up. Most of my family thinks that is a cold or impersonal gift. Yes it is not shoes and sweatshirts to open but she will have power back to her 2 rooms. I'm letting the rest of the family buy that stuff for her. So again am I a jerk or cold blooded?
Answers: PLEASE CUT & PASTE IN THE QUESTIONS
It will make it so much easier
Okay most of my family thinks I'm being a jerk or cold-hearted or whatever with certain gifts
First I have a sister, who really has NOT worked much in the past 6 months. My attitude is I will give her cash. Like $200 but most of my family thinks that I should still get her a little gift or a compact disc. I know she is low on money and I'd rather just do money in a card. So am I a jerk or mean?
Second, my mother is having probs with her house. A few breakers went out and now the dining room is dead with no power and part of the living room has zero power.
So I got the breakers and an electrican will show up Thursday to hook it all up. Most of my family thinks that is a cold or impersonal gift. Yes it is not shoes and sweatshirts to open but she will have power back to her 2 rooms. I'm letting the rest of the family buy that stuff for her. So again am I a jerk or cold blooded?
First I have a sister, who really has NOT worked much in the past 6 months. My attitude is I will give her cash. Like $200 but most of my family thinks that I should still get her a little gift or a compact disc. I know she is low on money and I'd rather just do money in a card. So am I a jerk or mean?
- Maybe a small box of chocolates or a pair of socks or something just to "open up" because it's Christmas time. However, the cash is very much needed and (I'm sure) appreciated. If I were in YOUR situation, I would buy a $5 something just so she can open something up.
Second, my mother is having probs with her house. A few breakers went out and now the dining room is dead with no power and part of the living room has zero power.
So I got the breakers and an electrican will show up Thursday to hook it all up. Most of my family thinks that is a cold or impersonal gift. Yes it is not shoes and sweatshirts to open but she will have power back to her 2 rooms. I'm letting the rest of the family buy that stuff for her. So again am I a jerk or cold blooded?
- Definitely not. What you are giving her with exceed any sweatshirt or shoes that she will be given. Keep your head high - you're doing the right thing (with both situations).
Cheeeers *clinks glasses together...you know you have one beside you! ;)
So am I a jerk or mean? NO. you are not a jerk and that is not considered being mean. I think it's a very decent thing to do.
So again am I a jerk or cold blooded? NO...with the same stated above reasons.
Your family doesn't understand that gifts are not the way to provide happiness.
I think your gifts are very practical. I would totally appreciate it if I had parts of my utilities paid for. You are not a jerk or cold-blooded. Reptiles are cold-blooded.
You are sweetheart, straight and to the point. You made me smile....thank you.
I think both gift ideas are thoughtful.
both sound like good options, but i really wouldn't know since i can't relate
I think what you're doing is great! You might want to give your sister a gift card and cash....just a thought. Ignore your family. Tell them they're not paying for the gifts you're giving, so ......
Geeeez, can I give you my brother's phone number?
Sounds considerate to me. Maybe those who have a problem with these ideas are just too materialistic. Christmas is about caring and helping each other and being with the ones you love, IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT THE PRESENTS. I think your mom and sis will appreciate these gifts much more than some random bath set or whatever other crap people buy when they don't know what else to get someone.
if i was in the same boat as your sister or your mother, i would be grateful for a sister like you who is looking out for me. you are NOT being a jerk, nor are you being cold hearted. i think your gifts are very thoughtful, and very practical.
don't let any one tell you otherwise.
Personally, I think you're not being a jerk or mean in both circumstances. $200 is quite a good amount for a gift and I'd be happy with that. Then, she can choose to do whatever she wants with the money. Also, I think your gift to your mom is very sweet and thoughtful. I'd rather get power to my room than a sweater any day!
NO you are not. I think they are really thoughtful gifts.
They are things that your family can actually use.
Last xmas i was short of cash and some family members just gave me money or asked if there was anything i really needed that i wasnt able to afford. I found it a great help.
The gifts that u are giving have obviously come from the heart not like a thoughtless cd or perfume. They are impersonal gifts.
I would say you are extremely kind hearted.
Merry christmas XX
First I have a sister, who really has NOT worked much in the past 6 months. My attitude is I will give her cash. Like $200 but most of my family thinks that I should still get her a little gift or a compact disc. I know she is low on money and I'd rather just do money in a card. So am I a jerk or mean?
u could get her a giftcard to like walmart or something.
Second, my mother is having probs with her house. A few breakers went out and now the dining room is dead with no power and part of the living room has zero power.
So I got the breakers and an electrican will show up Thursday to hook it all up. Most of my family thinks that is a cold or impersonal gift. Yes it is not shoes and sweatshirts to open but she will have power back to her 2 rooms. I'm letting the rest of the family buy that stuff for her. So again am I a jerk or cold blooded?
At least u got her something! u could have gotten her something little to go along with it.
no thats practical. i actually like practical gifts that would help me. and i belive u put alot more thought and feeling into those gifts then a cheesy jumper or a cd. well done
you are not mean
First, why are you discussing your gifts to family members with others?
As for your sister, I assume these are the same people who think your sister hasn't made an effort to find a job and/or work and they think she'll just blow the money on "whatever" so why spend that much? Are you a jerk or is your gift of cash to her "cold" - I don't know your sister nor her situation, but I think it's generous of you.
For you mom, I understand you bought the breakers and booked an electrician to come (I understand you're not paying the electrician? or you're paying but it's pretty basic??). Is this something she could have done on her own or is she unable to do this for herself? It probably took you five minutes to find the breakers and another two minutes to call an electrician. True, it's not the most creative gift.....maybe you could buy her a sweater in the mean time so that she's not cold in that part of the house. She's your mom - definitely make an effort to show her you care. She's not going to be around forever.......