Are Possessiveness and Jealousy the same thing...???!
Question: How do you deal with a BF/GF that has these qualities? Or have you had to deal with this?
Answers: How do you deal with a BF/GF that has these qualities? Or have you had to deal with this?
I dont know. No i dont think it is. I guess i have delt with it cuz i am the one that does that alot.. And i have to disagree with all those long answers.
Almost but being possessive doesn't necessarily mean that you're jealous. I would put my foot down and threaten to leave if it doesn't stop.
Pretty much.
they are similar but not the same....no I don't have to deal with that in my relationship but my brother does his gf won't let him go any where without her...=-)
Yes it is!
Jealousy always leads to possessiveness.
He is possessive of you because he knows he isn't good enough for you.
He wants you to believe you are nothing and not good enough for any other guy.
He wants you to believe he can have any girl he wants and is just being nice enough to choose you because no other guy wants you.
He wants you to think you need him more than he needs you!
WRONG! He needs you more than you need him because he isn't good enough for any girl.
He is grateful that you're nice enough to be with him because you can have any guy you want and you're far too good for him.
He knows you're too good for him, that's why he is always trying to bring you down because doesn't want you to know how much brilliant you are compared to him.
He is afraid you will see you're too good for him and get some other guy better than him, and since he isn't good enough for any girl he won't get another girl if you dump him.
Dump him because he doesn't deserve you, you're too good for him and there are better guys out there than him.
i think so
Possessiveness is 'you don't get to do stuff except with me'. Jealousy is 'you don't get to do stuff with that person ... i don't care if you do it with me or not ... just not with that person'.
Example : Possessiveness -- You can only watch a movie with me, not your other friends.
Jealousy -- You can't watch a movie with her in particular, if you want you can watch a movie with your best friend or your cousin ... but not her.'
A little jealousy is healthy. This means, she/he cares enough what you do and who you do it with. If your gf/bf is indifferent to whomever you spend time with, that's going to be a problem. It means he could be growing indifferent of you and indifference is the true opposite of love (not hate).
Possessiveness spells obsession. Anything too much or too little is bad. Obsession is too much -- therefore it is bad.
I would say that are related in the sense that possessiveness ( controlling ) can happen because of jealousy issues. But, not always. Possessiveness is when a person almost always, wants you all to themselves. They don't like it if you want to do something without them. They demand your full attention. They don't really allow you to do some things that you need to do for yourself. Only their needs are important. Quite a difficult relationship to have. I was in a relationship as this and, I felt suffocated !! Jealousy kicks in when they catch someone else checking you out. Or, when you have friends and, you want to have a night out with them. The person makes you feel guilty . But, it's ok for them to do things without you. They are usually insecure. I think that they are afraid to be alone and, therefore, they don't want you to leave them for another. If you have an outgoing personality and are more of a friendly type person, they get jealous if you talk to others. They may look at this as flirting, especially, if the person is of the opposite sex. Then the head games start. Some relationships can be emotionally draining. You feel as though you can't be yourself. Not all relationships are this way.
As far as dealing with it, first, you need to be aware that this how the relationship is. A one-to-one talk is necessary. Communication is a key factor to maintaining a relationship. We are not mind readers, neither are they. Then you need to let this person know that is it important for you to have some space to do" XY or Z " .Let them know that you care & love them but, in order for the relationship to be kept together, having your space will actually improve the relationship. We all need our own space to do certain things that you enjoy. In doing so, you feel better. The happier you are, the better for the relationship. I hope that this is useful. Sorry for the lengthy answer.