Why Is It So Difficult To Ask For Help When We Need It The Most..??!


Question: It gets easier with practice. It's hard to admit that we are needy, that we need assistance to manage aspects of our lives and it takes braveness and an open heart to seek the help we need. This in turn gives us power and control. I know it's hard, you can do it. Feel free to email me anytime, I allow email, I am always here to chat to you about it if you want. You can overcome whatever it is inside, and I can tell you are a caring person; and very strong. You just have to push yourself to begin with to get the help you need - good luck!


Answers: It gets easier with practice. It's hard to admit that we are needy, that we need assistance to manage aspects of our lives and it takes braveness and an open heart to seek the help we need. This in turn gives us power and control. I know it's hard, you can do it. Feel free to email me anytime, I allow email, I am always here to chat to you about it if you want. You can overcome whatever it is inside, and I can tell you are a caring person; and very strong. You just have to push yourself to begin with to get the help you need - good luck!

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    I don't know, I think it is just the whole of society that seems to make us think we are below everyone if we need a little help once in a while. We should really help more if we could, teach our kids to help and then maybe they wouldn't be so scared to ask for help when they need it too.

    It's because our pride gets in the way of our better judgment. Also some people have trust issues as they know that they are vulnerable when in a desperate situation and that there are a lot of vultures ready to pounce on you like prey.

    I guess it depends on the situation and type of help which is needed. It isn't always money that is the problem and some times a good kick in the _ss is better than pampering. I think modern day society expects everyone to be super human. We are suppose to do everything well with no bad habits all while we are completely independant emotionally and finacially. I guess common sense tells us otherwise. If you don't exercise you are going to get fat eventually and the car will breakdown. Misfortune and illness can enter the picture in the same unexpected moment. We are human thus we should have the ability to bounce back from the hardtimes as well. I am not afraid to ask for help but in my case I was talking to a lawyer.

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    for me is because I learned to take care of things myself I dont let on to others when Im in trouble

    Because we are scared of what people would say...i am scared that i am going to be looked at like i was stupid.. and i know there is nothing with asking... but still..

    because that when you feel vulnerable and people dont like to feel that way!

    I know what you mean. I'm terrible at that! It's a pride thing.

    Lots of people find it hard to ask for help because they feel that they are weak and are ashamed to admit that they even have a problem. For the most part. many individuals cannot even define the nature of their problem and don't want their friends to reject them or their family to know how desperate they are for someone to help them. The alcoholic is the best example I can give. For the most part, the alcoholic or drug addict is in denial and says "I can handle this" or "I don't drink or do drugs that much". As Long as these individuals are in denial, they can't ask for help,. because as far as they are concerned, everything is fine.

    Because in the time we need the most help, the situations are the hardest to overcome and admit to. The hard situataions are normally embaracing, and could end up getting you in trouble.



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