I just got dumped, how do I get through it without loosing my sanity?!


Question: I am 23 and I met this guy. I was so happy with him, he knew before he actually met me that I was a single mom. That was also part of his pick up line. Then he dumps me saying that he isn't ready to be in love with someone, and doesn't want to get attached to my son and then have to leave me later on. It hurts so bad, but then he calls me back about 3 hours later to talk, I know he wasn't sick but he sure as hell was sniffling a lot, I think he was upset about it. Why did he want to break up, and then so obviously was upset about it? Guys please why would he do something like that? Thank you in advance.


Answers: I am 23 and I met this guy. I was so happy with him, he knew before he actually met me that I was a single mom. That was also part of his pick up line. Then he dumps me saying that he isn't ready to be in love with someone, and doesn't want to get attached to my son and then have to leave me later on. It hurts so bad, but then he calls me back about 3 hours later to talk, I know he wasn't sick but he sure as hell was sniffling a lot, I think he was upset about it. Why did he want to break up, and then so obviously was upset about it? Guys please why would he do something like that? Thank you in advance.

Firstly Erin, you will be fine, doesn`t feel lke it now but you will.You`ve got a beautiful wee boy who loves you unconditionally, both him and friends will get you through this.Could well be that while he thought he knew what was involved in being a father figure the reality was a lot harder.Possibly relatives also put pressure on the guy if he`s a similar age to yourself, maybe he`s been convinced he`s too young to settle down.Either way, better to find out now than later.If he`s genuinely upset i`d be inclined to believe his own family has put pressure on him, at the end of the day though that shouldn`t matter a damn bit.Please keep your chin up....it will get better, believe me i know.No matter what anyone says you are going to feel like ****, but there is ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel.

Fear of comitment

Hard to go from free and single to a father.

Step back and see where you went wrong!! You need to listen with your Heart!! Yeah!! That thumpin' sound in your chest. It won't lie. As long as you're honest with yourself? It'll show you the way to real happiness. Don't go after someone that your Heart doesn't want. And your Heart, wouldn't allow you to ne hurt. Be honest? Be ready. You never know when it's gonna happen. But your Heart is where the real happiness is. Just take the time to listen!!

Wow...men are the same everywhere!
All I can say is...I guess he got scared. A child is a big responsibility, and maybe he just got scared...if he called later...well, maybe you can talk it over again, you know, just be 100% sincere and ask him to tell you why he 'really' wanted to leave you...listen to him and decide if it makes sense, if you can deal with it. If you can't/don't want to , just tell him to leave. If you understand and can/want to/are willing to go on, give it a chance.

I know it hurts, my bf gets me confused like that sometimes (different case, but same reaction) and so I just talk with him, listen, try to understand and decide: do I want to deal with it? it is worth it? So far, it is...we have to be brave though, and realize that, if it's not worth it, the best to just let go...

You'll be fine.

CHEER UP!! YOU CAN DO IT!! :)

Laugh it off,it's bound to hurt,harden your heart and if this guy really wants you he'll be back.

i think he's not yet ready to accept ur kid

It's difficult, sometimes men will say the most ridiculous things to start a relationship, there are some genuine ones out there though, but, you might have to kiss a few frogs to find a Prince.

He's trying to get you to bed without any commitment IMHO, thats why he rang later feeling bad, he will probably string you along for a while if you let him...

Good Luck.

I honestly don't blame this guy. I'm 21 and couldn't imagine being a father. Some guys dig it, but it isn't for everyone. This guy isn't ready to be a father until he's 30 or so.

You can't give this guy a hard time. You had a kid on your own accord. This guy had nothing to do with it. You really can't blame him for feeling this way.

Brandon

Did you say he fall in love with someone else?
God will always love you, and your son.

Awwww hi huni , I cannot believe this , you were so happy . I dont know the whole storey but if im honest from reading the information you have give , its an excuse . I dont wanna waffle on here . email me or I.M me if you need a shoulder or any advise ,
Di xx
Chin up .... one door closes , another opens ;o)

Most people want what they can't have. Once they get what they want ... they don't want it anymore ... until they lose it again. It's human nature.

It's a big challenge to date someone that has children. You are looking for a boyfriend but what you need is a husband. You need someone that wants to be a father ... because like it or not ... that is what he will be once he moves in.

you know what the first thing that popped into my head is that he is scared of commitment and thats most likely what it is. he doesnt want to open up because then there is a chance for him to get hurt and as u know we (guys) dont like to get hurt or show emotion. either way you need to just move on becuase if there is a guy thats not willing to put it all out there on the line for you then he doesnt deserve you anyway. find a guy that will accept you for you (and your child) and be willing to put it on the line for you.. thats what you deserve



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