Poll: Is it ok to spank a child?!


Question: I don't have kids, and I was beaten very regularly as a child by my violent and alcoholic father. So I hate violence against kids, but I see nothing wrong with a swat (only one) across the butt if nothing else works. I believe that if we tell kids that they will be punished and follow up on it is more effective and if the punishment does not work, escolate the punishment everytime till they get the message.

Maybe I am an idealist, but that is my idea and I am not a parent, so I bow to the wisdom of the folks who have kids.

This was brought about by another question I read earlier. Just curious how people think, that's all.


Answers: I don't have kids, and I was beaten very regularly as a child by my violent and alcoholic father. So I hate violence against kids, but I see nothing wrong with a swat (only one) across the butt if nothing else works. I believe that if we tell kids that they will be punished and follow up on it is more effective and if the punishment does not work, escolate the punishment everytime till they get the message.

Maybe I am an idealist, but that is my idea and I am not a parent, so I bow to the wisdom of the folks who have kids.

This was brought about by another question I read earlier. Just curious how people think, that's all.

When the speaking, and warning don't work, I do that sometimes but never have I in any way hurt them. I am a mom, trying to raise them, and I don't need to excuse myself at all. My parents did it (I was the eldest and first and I was spoiled) and they did hurt me a lot but still, I have no hate towards my parents, went to College and graduated.
The way I see it, nowadays, everyone is so concerned about the "psychological damage" to a child, and that's why some kids, have no manners at all. Parents and schools, are so damn scared of Child Services, that they have totally misunderstood where a Parent starts being a parent and an educator !!

No, it is not okay, nor necessary. My parents never hit me as a child. They used psychological punishment.

Sometimes you just need to get a kids attention and a swat will normally do that--

i think spanking is acceptable unless in excess, and i was spanked as a child. but, i can't see myself spanking my future kids. i just can't imagine causing physical pain 2 someone u love.

NO

no it is`nt its out of order

I agree with you. A swat is not violent. Honestly, that's the only thing that worked for me when I was little. Going to the corner didn't work, my privileges being taken away didn't work, nothing worked except a spanking. I'm sorry you had to go through that in your childhood-- that is something that no one should ever have to go through. But I'm glad that you can see the difference between legit punishment, and abuse.

I got spanked but never beaten..

bit of a loaded question this one.

going to be old fashioned and say it never did me any harm.

Although sometimes knowing whats right and wrong cannot be teached by a slap

discipline is a necessity, we use the 3 strikes principle, being 3 warnings with timeout, then grounding from something he likes, if that still doesn't work then he gets one swat on the bottom

YES....a good beating never hurt anyone (for long)!
P.S. Go watch the youtube video Old Gregg for amazing parenting advice...I suggest this in my MAC (Mothers Abused Counciling) class.

I was slapped around by my parents on a regular basis, and for what, I don't remember. I loved my parents, but I am still bitter that i was hit.

I have NEVER laid a hand on my son, and I never will. He's turned out OK - all A student, and a solid citizen.

Hitting has never helped any situation.

It is okay..a hit on the butt never ruined a child..
I've met a few people who should have been spanked as kids..

I was rarely spanked, because if I missbehaved there was going to be a spanking involved. It is hard to draw the line.

I know a couple that threaten their children with spankings all the time. And they do spank, but now the children have gotten so used to it. That is not good practice.

I also do not have kids, but I will spank when I do.

I'm sorry to hear about your childhood. I rarely got spanked as a child, my parents did the swat across the butt a few times and I think there's nothing wrong with it.
If you look at the way children behave today it's clear that many of them are sure in need of one.
I have a daughter and I did it a few times and only as a last resort, nothing too hurtful or violent.

i think it is perfectly acceptable to spank a child. "spank" meaning, on their butt, with your hand. when that no longer works, they are too big for spankings. and i think it is only to be used when you must get the childs attention immediately, and let them know what they did was a Huge no-no and they better not ever do it again. like if they run into a street without looking for cars, or if they stick something in the electrical socket. other than that, my child stands in the corner for 5 minute with his nose on the wall and hands behind his back. if he talks or plays, he gets an extra 5 minutes. that works just fine for him. if he says i hate you or curse words, i will rub the bar soap on his tongue once or twice. that has only happened twice. i have all kinds of creative punishments in mind for when he is older though. chores for no allowance, volunteering at the mission, and let me catch him sneaking out ....he will be sleeping next to me on the floor for a week!

I believe that is NOT okay to hit your kids...when you are angry at them.
There is a lot of truth to the saying "a hard head makes for a soft behind"

I do NOT disrespect parents who still think "time outs" and denying kids of what they like is effective punishment, but I would appreciate if they would trust, given how well behaved my kids are, and how polite they are, and how clean they are, and how respectful they are not only of me, but other people in general, that I am NOT beating them senselessly when I do spank them.
I really think that HALF the kids on Ritalin just need a good old fashioned @$$ whoopin. I'll be damned if I let a child run me. I am not trying to be my kids' friend. I am being their parent. We still have fun, but I expect to be obeyed.
OCCASIONALLY, a swat is just the reminder they need. MOST of the time, all I need is the mean voice and the angry look to let them know that I mean business.

Sometimes a swat to the fanny will cut through the fog when nothing else will.

It depends on the situation and child.

My daughter is almost 18...I can count on one hand how many times she was given a spanking...most of the time, taking away a beloved toy/game worked as a better punishment for me.

I did swat her once in a department store (one that I worked in actually) because she wasn't listening and was mouthing off...a clerk actually told me she was going to call children's services on me (she hadn't worked there long and didn't know me).

Well i spanked mine and they turned out ok.. i even let them have it when they were young teens.. butted their heads together for fighting and breaking a bed room door down..THey both had to pay for that.

Beatings so to speak should never be done when angry. Lets call em spankings. I do feel it is ok to spank, after other means have been exhausted. The whole "dont beat your child" came into play when some lame parents actually beat the kids down, hangars, boiling water, curling irons etc. were used and of coarse it rightly made the news. Nowadays parents fear their own children. If they say they are goin to get a spankin, the kid says theyll call the cops. Guidelines on proper spanking should be taught to parents as well as children so the children. That way all will know what the spanking consists of.

No, it's not ok. All that does is tell a little person that big people can hurt them. They forget what they even did wrong and start fearing a parent. If you teach your children to have respect for others and for things that don't belong to them, they will learn to do the right thing. It's about teaching respect, not fear and pain.

If you feel angry enough to want to spank your child, remove yourself from the situation. After you calm down, go back and have a talk with him/her. They will hear you. If you spank them, they only hear that you are angry and they're in pain.

I also had a tough childhood, and I learned exactly what NOT to do as a parent. I do the opposite of what mine would have done and it works everytime. I have 4 kids and they are AWESOME kids. It didn't take any spanking to make them this way.

EDIT for Madame below.....EXACTLY what I mean. Too many children are spanked by angry parents. I bet if they just went and calmed down, they wouldn't spank their kids 95% of the time. My kids know tv will be taken, family outings will be postponed, things will be taken away. We know just what they're favorite things are, and we're not afraid to take them.

Beatings are wrong. A well placed spank will get your point across and if done right only happens once or twice in a child's lifetime. I spanked all of my kids...funny part is the older ones have been instrumental in leading the younger ones to behavior that will not induce a spanking.

*edit for Kim above* Spankings should have nothing to do with anger and an angry parent should just walk away.

Spanking is one thing ...beating is another. I was spanked as a child ... not abused....& I don't have a problem with it. As long as it's done by the parent...who is under control & not overly angered at the time. When my son was 2 he would get a little swat on the behind ...with my hand ...just to get his attention. At times it was the only way of doing so! I don't believe in school officals spanking anymore...& never allowed it with my son. I think that at school they should have other ways of handling the situation. But if done at home ...& out of love by the parent ...who is just trying their best to raise a solid citizen ... I think it's OK.



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