You're in love with a friend that takes you for granted always ... do you sa!
Question: If you can find a tactful way to say it.....That's tough because you don't want to alienate your friend. When you say taking for granted he/she just assumes you'll always be there when they call or what? That just may be that person's personality flaw. Friends take each other the way that they are for the most part if he/she isn't intending to hurt you I would let it go.
If it's really bothering you, The next time he/she assumes something then just say "I'm sorry I already have plans" Or "oooh I wish you would have called earlier we could have worked something out" or whatever you think, something to let them know that you are not going to be there at their beck and call.
Hope this helps.
Good luck
Answers: If you can find a tactful way to say it.....That's tough because you don't want to alienate your friend. When you say taking for granted he/she just assumes you'll always be there when they call or what? That just may be that person's personality flaw. Friends take each other the way that they are for the most part if he/she isn't intending to hurt you I would let it go.
If it's really bothering you, The next time he/she assumes something then just say "I'm sorry I already have plans" Or "oooh I wish you would have called earlier we could have worked something out" or whatever you think, something to let them know that you are not going to be there at their beck and call.
Hope this helps.
Good luck
just keep quiet
In my situation, which is much like what you're saying, only with a little bit more to it that I'm not going to go into, I say nothing.
You say something..maybe they don't realize it, but if they truly are your "friend", they will want to know to maybe stop it!!
keep quiet
I would say something because otherwise I'd explode.
no...i left him...problem solved....
i don't fall in love with my friends
You tell them! If you don't speak up then your friend would never know it affects you and that they need to stop. I'm to a certain point in my life where I'm very blunt but that's me!
I will keep quite, but to a certain stage though.
Maybe the friend is thinking the same way and is waiting for some statement from you?
I had a friend like that - out of the blue, one day, he just said "Why don't we go away somewhere and get married quietly?". My response was an immediate and surprised "Are you being serious or is that the beer talking?"
The more I thought about it - the more I liked it. It's our Golden Wedding Anniversary next year!
I had a best friend for years. I finally told him that I loved him and wanted more. Well we tried it, we went out as boyfriend and girlfriend for a month or so. We finally did the tango... between the sheets and well it didnt work out. We should of stayed friends. I think we pushed it to fast. Even though we has been friends our relationship wasnt ready for the next step. Not that we lost respect for each other, we do still talk, our relationship isnt the same. Our spouses (we were not married at the time) dont know about it and we leave it that way.
As for your situation, I would talk to your friend. Let them know you have strong feeling for them. That you would like to take them out to a movie, and dinner (or dinner). Take it slow and show them how you feel.
Just go slow. IF they still take you for granted, then move on really. Some things are just not worth it and being taken for granted is not good. You maybe in Love but you want the other person in love with you also and NOT take you for granted. test the waters go slow.