I find that I am holding a grudge - do you do that - how do you stop?!
Question: I had some grudges that I was harboring , some people ripped me off on a car I was fixing up.It was a money thing and a pride thing. After holding on to my anger for a long time I finally realized the only person that the grudge I was holding was hurting was me.You need to unload it , let it go because it will drag you down.
Answers: I had some grudges that I was harboring , some people ripped me off on a car I was fixing up.It was a money thing and a pride thing. After holding on to my anger for a long time I finally realized the only person that the grudge I was holding was hurting was me.You need to unload it , let it go because it will drag you down.
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You just have to find it in you're heart to forgive the person or think about it.
Is it really so bad that you need to hold that grudge??
Yes, i always do that, I cant help it because i feel so deceived by that person ya know? but when i just want to get rid of that feeling, i either communicate to that person on how i felt/feel..or i just let that person go, and do other things to block thinking about it.
For me it depends on how deep the offense was..I tried to talk to my sister in -law about very cruel and untrue things she said.And she is still backstabbing!....I wash my hands of her!
pray for the strength and love to forgive that person
when you have truly forgiven someone, you don't hold a grudge.
you have to stop and think about why you are holding this grudge cause maybe u should not be.
I get even ...then forget it!!
Eradicate that bad practice, because in reality it is you who suffers more............isnt it..and besides, what is the use of having grudge on others...it will only bring you discomfort , anxiety and worries..........so stop it......all in your hands!
the people I care about can pretty much do or say anything and I still care about them.
Yes, I'm a human.
I've done that, believe me. The longest was a year and a half. It completely sucked. You have to forgive and make peace with it. There's no other way around it. Any other way is only temporary and will come back at the most inopportune time. Forgiveness is vital in order to move on completely. It brings you peace even though you can 't do anything about the situation. For every bad situation that happens, something good can come of it within yourself. There is no exact science for forgiveness. You just have to be able to say to yourself..."I'm not going to let this control me any longer." When we hold a grudge, we continue to suffer unnecessarily. I wish you luck on this. I know how hard it can be.
Confront the problem and talk.