Please review: Did my son say something inappropriate, and if so, why?!
Question: My son Bob is 13 and has autism. In art class today, a female classmate said that she hates America. Bob's immediate question was "then why are you still here?"
The female classmate was offended and brought it to the teacher's attention, and the teacher talked to my son about this.
Feedback, please, folks: If this question was inappropriate, why was it so?
Thanks in advance.
Answers: My son Bob is 13 and has autism. In art class today, a female classmate said that she hates America. Bob's immediate question was "then why are you still here?"
The female classmate was offended and brought it to the teacher's attention, and the teacher talked to my son about this.
Feedback, please, folks: If this question was inappropriate, why was it so?
Thanks in advance.
I don't think his response was inappropriate in any way...it was right on! Just today, a little racist troll that's married to my friend was ranting about how great other countries health care systems are and how well other countries "have got it all together." I asked him, "So why don't you go live there?"
I don't think it is. I think your son has the right idea.
lmao
ur son is hilarious!
That is NOT offensive.. at all.. I can't believe someone said something knowingly inflammatory (I hate America) and then get so upset with a thought provoking question
I dislike it when people try so hard to be cool, and cutting edge, and then cry when they get called out on it..
I don't think it's inappropriate at all. If she hates America leave, the girl should be held responsible for what he said, now if he said like well then you *inappropriate word for a muslim* then why are you here then that would be different.
We say that stuff to each othe rall the time ("why are you still here" not the other thing)
no, i do not think it was inappropriate in the least. smart kid. i'd ask the same thing. of course the answer is obvious, the person is a kid and does not have the choice to leave yet...but still. if he had said "well, then GET OUT" i wouldn't be upset.
thats not bad at all... i heard wayy worse that was told to teacher too...
...That's a completely reasonable question.
I would have asked her exactly the same thing. You could claim that she was most likely to offend someone with the comment of "I hate America" as it is not very patriotic and could seriously offend those of whom ARE patriotic.
So sticking up for your country is wrong?
Your son's comment was the usual "in your face" knee-jerk reaction. It more or less says "if you don't like it...LEAVE!" which is NOT the hallmark of the 'free society' the U.S. hails itself to be.
All parents should teach their children...as you should teach him...autistic or not...that the proper response should have been along the lines of: "Exactly WHY do you hate America?"
This response invites discussion, while the response your son gave just relegates the matter to "Get out if you hate it!".
I think I'm more offended by the girl seeming to think she's the only one entitled to an opinion and at the teacher for reinforcing that idea.
I think his question was fine. Probably other people were wondering the same thing.
Your son's question was not at all inappropriate. If the teacher was going to talk to anyone, it should have been to the America hating tattle tale.
Well I sure hope that the teacher had talked to the little girl about what she had said to. I don't feel that it was fair that if she only talked to your son about what he said and not the girl..As far as I am concerned she asked for the response that he gave her.He should have said here is the money for a bus ticket see ya.Now that would have been inappropriate.
I think it was a valid response! I'm not entirely sure why the teacher didn't say something to the girl who said she hated America. Honestly, isn't that the kind of anger and aggression that teachers are supposed to be paying attention to?
If the kids and the teacher know your child is autistic, I genuinely hope they weren't treating his response as "typical" for his condition. That's just crap. Your son's response is something I think I would have said as well.
That sucks. I'd have a chat with the teacher and ask why he/she pulled your son aside.
Not inappropriate but provocative as was the classmates comment.
I personally think that teachers as well as the world today is too THIN SKINNED and we all just let it happen. There was nothing wrong in my opinion.
It was a logical responce, the girl was stating her opinion but probably not the greatest way to do it, your son did nothing wrong
I don't think the question was inappropriate. Granted, at 13 children don't really have a choice of where they live -- they get hauled around by their parents -- but HER parents should have taught her enough manners not to run down the place where she's living because her attitude was offensive. I think the teacher should have talked to HER.