Would anyone be kind enough to share with me the famous list of the stages of gr!
Question: Now, don't worry, I'm okay...but the numbness has worn off and the fog has lifted and dear God, now the REALITY of my loss is hitting me square in the face...someone told me the numbness and fog is God's way of protecting us until we are strong enough to face the reality. Do you think this is true?
Answers: Now, don't worry, I'm okay...but the numbness has worn off and the fog has lifted and dear God, now the REALITY of my loss is hitting me square in the face...someone told me the numbness and fog is God's way of protecting us until we are strong enough to face the reality. Do you think this is true?
Its possibly right...
When my daughter died I was in a daze for weeks...
I was fairly resilient and got myself back together within weeks....But, 24 years on and I still have the occasional rough day, but not too often happily...
It does improve...
Take care
Steve
I'm not familiar with the stages, but I would not say GOD'S way, but rather a natural reaction to your body protecting itself. The body is a really cool machine.
**Edit: I just googled it and this is what I've found as far as the stages are concerned: http://www.memorialhospital.org/library/...
I know it's something like Anger, denial,bargaining, acceptance...something like that.
Ok make that Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. That one is right, I looked it up
i think #2 has them right
www.dove-wa.org
the pain slowly subsides but you never forget the person, & soon start to remember the good things about the relationship
I think it's something like.....
Shock
Denial
Anger
Acceptance
Moving Forward
I think it's just how we cope with traumatic events in our lives, like the loss of a loved one. It takes some time to wrap your brain around things like that. I'm sorry for your loss and if I can help, let me know. :)
I am so sorry Roscoe.
Yes I do believe God takes care of us in our times of need from the loss of our loved ones.
The seven stages are,
shock / disbelief
denial
bargaining
guilt
anger
depression
acceptance & hope.
Take care my friend.
Roscoe, where have you gone.
Shock
Anger
Denial
Bargaining
Acceptance
Yes shock is Nature's way of stopping unbearable pain be it a physical injury or a terrible loss such as yours.
Roscoe, when my husband died I went to a hospice support group. It was a widow's group, they have them for every type of loss. I don't know how I would have made it without them.
The five processes can be in any order and of any duration. When grieving there is no wrong behavior. My husband has been gone 14 years and I still have never experienced the Anger phase.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Much Love.
They have it right and sometimes the stages overlap. Some of them go on for a lot longer than others too.
Yepper, that's how we're able to deal with things. I know you're hurting but just be strong my dear friend. I know where you're coming from. :(
I'm pleased to see the responses and links you got to your question so I can't really add anything except my condolences and the offer to "talk" if you want to.
I'm digging Billy C's list...
All I can say is..."In due time...in due time.."..
We are all w/ you Roscoe...
and I think you know that already...
I have lost one very close, and to this day I don't understand the process. I think the emotions flooded all at once. Acceptance was the hardest. But today, that person still lives within me, and gives me a warm feeling. ~~Peace~~
Yes. I wish you the best in trying to get through what you are dealing with. Sometimes it helps to talk to a professional who deals with your grief. They can put into perspective for you, sometimes better than a friend who may not know the right thing to say. <3
The stages were originally describe by Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying" based on her work with people with terminal illness. They later became known as the "Five Stages of Grief" which people go through when dealing with grief and tragedy.
Search for "Elizabeth Kübler-Ross" or "On Death and Dying." Yahoo won't allow me to post links.
I'm keeping you in my prayers. The hardest part (I think) is when everyone is gone and you are left to your own thoughts.
Blessings on you, Dear Friend.
Grieving is different for everyone. ~~ When my Mother died, the pain was unbearable & lasted a long time. I had to seek medical help. I was in a pit, going in a circle & couldn't get out.
Thank God for that wonderful Dr., medication & therapy. ~~~
23 yrs. later I am doing fine but I'll never forget how It was. ~~
I think it might be that, and it is also shock. God created shock so we could handle our pain better till it became manageable. Hope I helped. Very sorry for your loss, whatever it was