Best Liar gets 10 points?!
Question: I have a friend who I've known from school and hung out with maybe once in a whole year. She's more attached to me as if we see each other everyday and now she's asking me to be her bridesmaid in a wedding that's across the country. I just don't feel right being her bridesmaid when we don't really know each other THAT well. It's like a random classmate asking. I already told her my appreciation, but that I cannot make it due to other personal committments. She still asks what they are. I now feel forced to lie to spare her feelings. The wedding's set in the Summer on a Saturday, so I'm really struggling with a good excuse. What's the best excuse to use for why you can't attend a wedding to a person you don't really know that well, but wanna let them down easily? In addition, the wedding is across the country, but most likely that excuse won't work, so what do you say? She's not that understanding and she's a control freak, so she will keep asking why not.
Answers: I have a friend who I've known from school and hung out with maybe once in a whole year. She's more attached to me as if we see each other everyday and now she's asking me to be her bridesmaid in a wedding that's across the country. I just don't feel right being her bridesmaid when we don't really know each other THAT well. It's like a random classmate asking. I already told her my appreciation, but that I cannot make it due to other personal committments. She still asks what they are. I now feel forced to lie to spare her feelings. The wedding's set in the Summer on a Saturday, so I'm really struggling with a good excuse. What's the best excuse to use for why you can't attend a wedding to a person you don't really know that well, but wanna let them down easily? In addition, the wedding is across the country, but most likely that excuse won't work, so what do you say? She's not that understanding and she's a control freak, so she will keep asking why not.
tell her you have a vacation planned & paid for already! or that you or a loved one have surgery scheduled!
Do you have kids?If you do they are great excuses.My kids sick.
Just say you are going through some tough family problems, you probably don't even have a dress for her wedding though so that could be an excuse?
Good luck
tell her you can't make it cause your already in another wedding in Houston Tx to your aunts daughter.
tell her that the same date as her wedding, you'll be attending a workshop to learn how to sever yourself from idiots who won't take no for an answer and let it die.
Tell her the truth, much less of struggle.
tell her that your parents surprise you with a trip during the time the wedding is to talke place and that the tickets are non-refundable. You couldn't/wouldn't pass up on your family now would you..
you might think that she's not worth it but why not give it a try? who knows, you might even enjoy the experience? did you ask why she wanted you in the first place?
oh well...
for the lie part, i suggest you say that you'll be travelling to another country which you have already planned for so long.
or you can also tell her that there's another wedding that you have to attend.
your allergic to the fabric that the dresses are made from
Tell her it is your G-rents wedding anniversary and you were planning on helping host a 50th wedding anniversary party. Or you could tell her someone died and you will still be grieving during that perticular weekend.
I say tell her the truth. Easier than trying to think of a lie to tell her.
Your sister/brother/niece/nephew/cousin is getting married on the same day.
i cant think of any thing either!! if you have some kind of health problem you can say your dr. says its not good for you to be that far away. or you can say your sister/bff/ect. had a baby and your mom is going to help out now and than your going to help. (tell her that your sister/bff hubby is in war and cant be there.)
ok how about your elderly grandma is expecting you for the summer & is looking forward to all your help you'll be providing for her!!! so her 1 daughter can go take a break for a month or 2,,if garndma don't work make it great-aunt :)d
You said it's in the summer, well most people schedule their vacations in the summer, tell her it's already been set with your family and you can't break it but you're very sorry and hope her wedding is beautiful.
The best thing to do, is be honest with her. You could simply say, I really can't afford the cost of a flight, hotel, car rental, dress etc.etc.etc. Wish her the best and send her a wedding gift. Good luck with that one.
I know how this feels...even though it's none of her business at all, you still feel obligated to come up with a good lie.
You could tell her that you have a large picnic or something to that effect for your work that day that you absolutely can't miss because it's been planned for almost a year. You could say that you already had plans to go and visit family in another state that week. Or you could just tell her that you don't have the money to fly cross-country (but that one probably won't work as well). I know I don't have any elaborate lies, but if you keep focus on your job or family, it should be harder for her to try and persuade you.
If she's still insistent, I'd suggest telling her flat out that it's none of her business why you can't be there, that you're flattered by the offer, and that you hope she has a very nice wedding.
Good luck!
Say theres a family reunion that same week...
i stopped reading after the first sentence
You wanted a lie so here goes..."I am sorry I can't be in your wedding...since sleeping with the groom behind your back I would feel hypocritical and just a tad uncomfortable."
Tell her you are going on vacation that week!!!
tell her some one you know is due to have a baby that weekend and asked you already to be there with her, and its to risky to make plans for that weekend any where else. If she asks for a pic. after the wedding just get find a cute baby pic. online.
it acually worked for me in a similiar circumstance,
mystery
if you want something convincing that results in no-questions and probably a lot of sympathy:
a relative
seems harsh, but agree to go to the wedding (but refuse to be bridesmaid-just admit that you don't think you two are close enough for you to be bridesmaid or say something like 'i don't enjoy being a bridesmaid - i hate the attention, sorry'. by not being bridesmaid you're wriggling out of feeling guilty for fluffing up a big part of her wedding!) after accepting the invitation, a couple of days before the wedding ring her saying that a close relative has died. don't go into too much detail (maybe mention that the relative lives a bit away and you have to drive up there right away to comfort other family) and hope she doesn't ask too many questions!
offer to pay for any expense you'll be costing her (meals etc.). 9/10 they'll refuse to let you pay, so don't worry too much about the cost. also, you should probably make up a fake relative (just in case she talks to others who know others who may know the 'deceased' relative!!)
hope this helps
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You know her well enough to realize that she's a control freak so you are closer to her than you think. I don't lie to my friends under any circumstances so why would you lie to her. If she isn't your friend then don't beat around the bush. Understand that you wouldn't like someone to pretend that they were close to you if they weren't. I answered this question because I know how I would feel if I were in this situation (on one side or the other) and it's how I would want to be treated. It's ok for a friend to not want to participate in something. A true friend would understand this and you should just say that you can't attend and that your commitments (even tho you don't have any) are of a personal nature. I would not lie to my friend. That's the reality of friendship. You respect them enough to tell the truth.
too long, not anwering but thanks for the 2