Have you ever been more afraid of a friend than of any of your enemies?!
Question: Have you ever been more afraid of a friend than of any of your enemies!?
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From a purely risk analysis point of view, the higher your [emotional] desire for "trusting" someone the higher your chances of potentially getting hurt!.
Friends [and family, I might add] enjoy an open-ended invitation into our hearts and homes, and as such have privileged access / "carte blanche" to our inner vulnerabilities!. And yet, we [the social animals] all continue to be actively in search of friendships; which should tell us something about the importance of emotional transcendence!.
Keep in mind, people, no matter who they are --even good intentioned, compassionate, and honorable ones-- are ultimately unpredictable and by nature prone to making [honest] mistakes, from time to time!. In other words, unintended goof-ups can and WILL inevitably occur during a long friendship - it's up to you to determine the true intents behind possible slip ups, and see if you can live with them or not!.
That said, one of the major characteristics of true love and friendship is knowing/feeling that it is SAFE to be around a person!. If you have to constantly keep your guards up and worry about whether someone is capable of intentionally hurting you or not, then you can never relax into a friendship!. Hence the inherent conflict of interests in any friendship scenario!.
Now, people's innate propensity for unpremeditated goof-sups [which could, nonetheless, end-up hurting a friend's feelings] is one thing, being ACTIVELY AFRAID OF A "FRIEND" is a whole different can of worms!.
If you are actively AFRAID of a "friend" or the hurt that s/he is capable of inflicting on you, then trust your intuitions and get the hell out before it'sssssssssss too late!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=_QrPWQF14!.!.!.
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Friends [and family, I might add] enjoy an open-ended invitation into our hearts and homes, and as such have privileged access / "carte blanche" to our inner vulnerabilities!. And yet, we [the social animals] all continue to be actively in search of friendships; which should tell us something about the importance of emotional transcendence!.
Keep in mind, people, no matter who they are --even good intentioned, compassionate, and honorable ones-- are ultimately unpredictable and by nature prone to making [honest] mistakes, from time to time!. In other words, unintended goof-ups can and WILL inevitably occur during a long friendship - it's up to you to determine the true intents behind possible slip ups, and see if you can live with them or not!.
That said, one of the major characteristics of true love and friendship is knowing/feeling that it is SAFE to be around a person!. If you have to constantly keep your guards up and worry about whether someone is capable of intentionally hurting you or not, then you can never relax into a friendship!. Hence the inherent conflict of interests in any friendship scenario!.
Now, people's innate propensity for unpremeditated goof-sups [which could, nonetheless, end-up hurting a friend's feelings] is one thing, being ACTIVELY AFRAID OF A "FRIEND" is a whole different can of worms!.
If you are actively AFRAID of a "friend" or the hurt that s/he is capable of inflicting on you, then trust your intuitions and get the hell out before it'sssssssssss too late!.
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=_QrPWQF14!.!.!.
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No, not afraid as in afraid what she would do, but i've been afraid of what my friend would think!. I was afraid that if i told her what i'd been up to she wouldn't like me anymore!. But may i add that i was afraid over nothing, because when i eventually told her she was ok with it!. As for enemies, no, i'm not afraid of what they do or what they say or what they think, they could kiss my ****Www@Enter-QA@Com
I have, some I have known if they came & stayed by the time they leave I would have gone through a major crises with them, the place looks like a bomb hit it, & my ego has been serverly wounded!. Friends have acess to sensative information & can make a preemptive strike with pinpoint accurasy apon your very fondation!. Enemys have useually declared war, friends have declared little or the opposite!. Enemies attack from a predictable direction, some friends can attack from within, bit by bit & you don't even know they are there doing mischief!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Well, yes!.
In middle school, there was a small group of "popular" girls who were fickle in their choices of hangers-on!. Sometimes I was "in" with them, and sometimes I was the object of their scorn!. No matter which situation I was in, I feared being the object of scorn!. The one really mean thing I ever did was motivated by that fear - I made fun of a really nice girl because she was, at the moment, the one on the outside, while I was temporarily on the inside!. I knew, even as I said mean things to her, that she would have been a better friend to me than these other girls ever would have, but I was probably not ever going to have her as a friend!. After I sank to that level, I felt so bad that I disconnected myself from the "in group!." I was never "in" again, but I didn't worry about being the one "out!." I actually felt better about trading places with the sweet girl than I did being "accepted!." In her praise, I have to say she never retaliated!.
When we are searching for our own identities, we sometimes bend our principles to suit our friends, something we would not do for our enemies!. We are right to fear that sacrifice of our true selves!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
In middle school, there was a small group of "popular" girls who were fickle in their choices of hangers-on!. Sometimes I was "in" with them, and sometimes I was the object of their scorn!. No matter which situation I was in, I feared being the object of scorn!. The one really mean thing I ever did was motivated by that fear - I made fun of a really nice girl because she was, at the moment, the one on the outside, while I was temporarily on the inside!. I knew, even as I said mean things to her, that she would have been a better friend to me than these other girls ever would have, but I was probably not ever going to have her as a friend!. After I sank to that level, I felt so bad that I disconnected myself from the "in group!." I was never "in" again, but I didn't worry about being the one "out!." I actually felt better about trading places with the sweet girl than I did being "accepted!." In her praise, I have to say she never retaliated!.
When we are searching for our own identities, we sometimes bend our principles to suit our friends, something we would not do for our enemies!. We are right to fear that sacrifice of our true selves!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
!.!.!.Often, I know my enemies and their tactics well enough to not fear them when my defenses are up!.!.!.however, friends who loose control can do so while acting on the pain of being hurt, even if it's imagined, the hurt is still real!.!.!.and a friend who thinks they have been betrayed can certainly reek havoc towards my very core!.!.!.at least until it's resolved!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
An enemy is enough times more harmless because he reveals himself and you know what you have to deal with!. A friend, might fool you!.
How I wish I could be your friend, since me, being a friend am so open (!.!.!.like an !.!.enemy!) and as loving as a devoted lover!. I only wish I could be your friend, my lady!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
How I wish I could be your friend, since me, being a friend am so open (!.!.!.like an !.!.enemy!) and as loving as a devoted lover!. I only wish I could be your friend, my lady!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
In a way!. I've had friends that judged me worse than people I dislike and that was tough!. I'd try to get my friends to like me so in a way I was living in fear that I wouldn't be accepted by my own friends!. But that chapter is over and done with!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
yes
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I was always more afraid of my friends
because you can never know!.!.!.
I think that an opened war is better than a friend that you don't know what he wantsWww@Enter-QA@Com
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I was always more afraid of my friends
because you can never know!.!.!.
I think that an opened war is better than a friend that you don't know what he wantsWww@Enter-QA@Com
friends are closer to you and the least one you'd suspect of crossing you!.!.!.!.and betrayal of a friend can hurt worse than any enemy!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
i have had a friend that i was afraid of!. that friend is no more!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
yes,friends come and go,enemies are eternalWww@Enter-QA@Com
ill tell myself to be true and get real and motivate myself to stay away from that friend!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes! That Ni**a knows where I sleep!Www@Enter-QA@Com
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yes, they know me on a more personal levelWww@Enter-QA@Com
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