In a situation, would you attack the person or the situation?!
Question: In a situation, would you attack the person or the situation!?
Or both!?
My father always says:
"To solve the problem, you need to attack the situation, not the person!."
Reasonable!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
My father always says:
"To solve the problem, you need to attack the situation, not the person!."
Reasonable!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
To deal with a situation you need to attack the situation while respecting the person even if you don't agree with them!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
There are two types of conflict, Cognitive and Affective!.
Affective Conflict is when two people disagree, and instead of acknowledging the other person's point of view and working to a compromise, they begin to attack the person!. Instead of saying "I understand how you would feel that way!. Because of x, y, z, I take this stance on the issue," they begin saying things like "I knew you'd say that!. You just like to argue!."
Cognitive Conflict is when people actually stay on topic and discuss the pros and cons of each side of the argument to come to a resolution of the conflict!.
I think what your dad means is to stay away from Affective Conflict because attacking the person puts them on the defensive and makes them less open to negotiation!. Acknowleding their opinion, supporting/stating your own, and keeping the focus on the real issue (the topic, not the people discussing it) will really enhance conflict resolution!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Affective Conflict is when two people disagree, and instead of acknowledging the other person's point of view and working to a compromise, they begin to attack the person!. Instead of saying "I understand how you would feel that way!. Because of x, y, z, I take this stance on the issue," they begin saying things like "I knew you'd say that!. You just like to argue!."
Cognitive Conflict is when people actually stay on topic and discuss the pros and cons of each side of the argument to come to a resolution of the conflict!.
I think what your dad means is to stay away from Affective Conflict because attacking the person puts them on the defensive and makes them less open to negotiation!. Acknowleding their opinion, supporting/stating your own, and keeping the focus on the real issue (the topic, not the people discussing it) will really enhance conflict resolution!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I always believed that 99% of situations could be resolved through diplomacy however recent events have taught me that sometimes diplomacy just does not work because some people refuse to settle diplomatically!. Physical violence should be a last resort however sometimes it is necessary to attack the person and not the problem!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
exactly!.!.!. what do you mean by that!?
does attack the situation probably to maintain the situation in the way we want to
i just remember the words : "when the going get tough!.!.!. the tough get going"
that is how everything gonna be OKWww@Enter-QA@Com
does attack the situation probably to maintain the situation in the way we want to
i just remember the words : "when the going get tough!.!.!. the tough get going"
that is how everything gonna be OKWww@Enter-QA@Com