When one person betrays you, does it affect your ability to trust others?!
Question: When one person betrays you, does it affect your ability to trust others!?
Does everyone get a blank slate, or do you say "Person A burned me, so I'm going to be less trustful of Person B"!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
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it depends how harshly I've been burnt!.!.!.
Generally I bounce back!.!.!.but there were a few people that changed how I saw people!.!.!.in a not so good way!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Generally I bounce back!.!.!.but there were a few people that changed how I saw people!.!.!.in a not so good way!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes, and no!.!.!.!. When I meet someone, I try very hard to start with a measured level of trust, respect and consideration!.!.!.!. The person, through their actions and statements, can either gain or loose trust, respect or consideration!.!.!.!.
I think it's wise to not be completely trusting, but also not be completely cynical and untrusting at everyone!.
I think it's like a test almost in school, now you're learned a new test question from the teacher and how you want to answer it!. Perhaps the next time someone asks you that question (or rather starts acting poorly towards you), you might catch it earlier and respond faster!.!.!. (Telling them where to go, laugh)!.
I'd say, person B starts from scratch, but watch out for how person A treated you!. If person B starts to act that way, then you can address it in a more timely fashion and not let the bad behavior continue!. Who knows, person B may not even be aware they are doing something to hurt you and might be willing to make changes!. At the very least you can address the problem quickly!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think it's wise to not be completely trusting, but also not be completely cynical and untrusting at everyone!.
I think it's like a test almost in school, now you're learned a new test question from the teacher and how you want to answer it!. Perhaps the next time someone asks you that question (or rather starts acting poorly towards you), you might catch it earlier and respond faster!.!.!. (Telling them where to go, laugh)!.
I'd say, person B starts from scratch, but watch out for how person A treated you!. If person B starts to act that way, then you can address it in a more timely fashion and not let the bad behavior continue!. Who knows, person B may not even be aware they are doing something to hurt you and might be willing to make changes!. At the very least you can address the problem quickly!Www@Enter-QA@Com
mmmm well i think someone betrays you it will take time but you can learn to trust again BUT as in my own experience if peeps keep doing the dirty on you it gets harder and harder and harder every time and longer and longer to learn to trust again untill eventualy its gone and you can be left broken!! unless you can learn to trust again you will be left feeling very bitter and lonely!.
TRY TO TRUST AGAIN, its better in the long haul!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
TRY TO TRUST AGAIN, its better in the long haul!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
it depends on the depth of the betrayal!.
Most times, people are subconsciously affected by the betrayal in deeper ways than they would imagine or like to think!.
I like to not judge person "B" based on person "A's" actions !.!.!. (as they are two different people) but i do act more cautiously and try to exercise a bit of wisdom in those dealings after a betrayal of sorts!.
I've had this happen, so i am a tad less trustful of people than i used to be!. Even so, Persons "B" "C" "D" are not the same as person "A" !.!.!.!. so, perhaps they would not behave in the same fashion!. Even so, i remain cautious and only give out as much information as is already known by them!. No new stuff!.
It takes a LONG while for a person to get onto a level of trust with me!. Almost like !.!.!.!. they have to prove they are good with trivial things i tell them (as in not repeating them) BEFORE i would ever tell them anything truly personal!.
Call it a test!. LOL!. If i tell them something that is common knowlegde and trivial (and they repeat it) then i know they cannot be trusted!.
BUT i am not like that ALL the time with everyone; just with certain people of whom seem to put on the obvious pretenses of phishing or digging for info!. (kinda like the way gossips do); lol!. Sorry, but i've known some REALLY crappy people!.
Most people i judge on an individual basis, and don't hold previous offenses that didn't concern or involve them, against them!.
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Most times, people are subconsciously affected by the betrayal in deeper ways than they would imagine or like to think!.
I like to not judge person "B" based on person "A's" actions !.!.!. (as they are two different people) but i do act more cautiously and try to exercise a bit of wisdom in those dealings after a betrayal of sorts!.
I've had this happen, so i am a tad less trustful of people than i used to be!. Even so, Persons "B" "C" "D" are not the same as person "A" !.!.!.!. so, perhaps they would not behave in the same fashion!. Even so, i remain cautious and only give out as much information as is already known by them!. No new stuff!.
It takes a LONG while for a person to get onto a level of trust with me!. Almost like !.!.!.!. they have to prove they are good with trivial things i tell them (as in not repeating them) BEFORE i would ever tell them anything truly personal!.
Call it a test!. LOL!. If i tell them something that is common knowlegde and trivial (and they repeat it) then i know they cannot be trusted!.
BUT i am not like that ALL the time with everyone; just with certain people of whom seem to put on the obvious pretenses of phishing or digging for info!. (kinda like the way gossips do); lol!. Sorry, but i've known some REALLY crappy people!.
Most people i judge on an individual basis, and don't hold previous offenses that didn't concern or involve them, against them!.
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Ironic you should say that!. Being a Can, I get the chance to attend a lot of mixers!. Often, there's a drink "behind card A, and behind card B!." (this would be my version of your Person A and B)
The mystery is Nice, but I soon found out that while both had Nice Cans, they were both all sugar substitute!.
From then on out, I don't sample any mystery drinks!.!.!. My prospective lovers have to have it printed clearly on their labels!.
I'll give it to you in a Canned paragraph!.!.!.
Yes, that experience has soured my taste for any piece of Can that plays the mystery card!. I don't want drama!. I'm only here for a one-night Can!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
The mystery is Nice, but I soon found out that while both had Nice Cans, they were both all sugar substitute!.
From then on out, I don't sample any mystery drinks!.!.!. My prospective lovers have to have it printed clearly on their labels!.
I'll give it to you in a Canned paragraph!.!.!.
Yes, that experience has soured my taste for any piece of Can that plays the mystery card!. I don't want drama!. I'm only here for a one-night Can!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes, it hurts when someone betrays your trust, however, i am a forgiving person and merit everyone differently! everyone starts with a blank slate, however the old distrust and hurt is there in the back of my mind, then when i'm proven wrong, all doubts removed, then watch out cause my heart overflows!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
What one person does, has nothing to do with my ability to trust others!! I pretty much trust everyone, until they give me a reason not to!. I really don't have problems with trust!! I have some really nice friends, and I never have to worry about each and everyone of them!! That would be a hard thing to do!.!.!.it would make me suspicious, and I'm not into playing games with my own mind!! Good luck to you!!!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I used to hold all men accountable for everything that happened to me!. My ex (also one of my best friends) showed me how to see things differently!.
I don't know who to thank for teaching this to my husband, but I'm thankful!. Otherwise, he would have lumped me in with b*tches like his ex-wife and I wouldn't be his one and only now!.
also!.!.!.I don't hold Zan's mistreatment of me against you sugar!. <g>Www@Enter-QA@Com
I don't know who to thank for teaching this to my husband, but I'm thankful!. Otherwise, he would have lumped me in with b*tches like his ex-wife and I wouldn't be his one and only now!.
also!.!.!.I don't hold Zan's mistreatment of me against you sugar!. <g>Www@Enter-QA@Com
Good question I think it depends on the person!. When I have been betrayed i dismiss the person and analyse why they done it - i have a tendancy of analysing people and "working" them out so I can usually tell if they are genuine and wont betray meWww@Enter-QA@Com
i think its a gut thing!.!.!. but i have to say its hard not to get tainted a bit when you get burned!.
i have to say im not as trusting as i was ten years ago!.
its hard for me to trust now!.!.!. and i mean a real trust with not only just money !.!.!. but my heart or future wellbeingWww@Enter-QA@Com
i have to say im not as trusting as i was ten years ago!.
its hard for me to trust now!.!.!. and i mean a real trust with not only just money !.!.!. but my heart or future wellbeingWww@Enter-QA@Com
You think people will get a blank slate, but it stays in the back of your mind!. You dont want to be hurt by the same thing over and over!. It might not seem fair to the next person that comes along but its certainly fair to your heart!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
It depends!. Most don't have the ability to chose who gets trust and who doesn't!. Most of the time, if you've been betrayed bad enough, your psyche shuts down the ability to believe that people can hold secrets!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
No, just the person who betrayed you, unless you have some other unresolved old hang-ups, in which case, seek help so you may live a great life!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
~Trust should never be given!. It has to be earned!. That being said, what should the actions of one person have to do with the way in which I deal with another!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
yes it does hurt your ability to trust other, but remember just because person 1 betrayed your trust doesn't mean that person 2 will tooWww@Enter-QA@Com
definitely, you feel it's hard to open up to others because you've been hurt once already and your afraid to have the same experience repeat!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I believe that you are a little more leary!.!.!. You don't trust quite as readily as before!. Like a paycheck, trust is earned!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Every individual is different, so everyone deserves a clean slate!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Everyone needs to earn the right to be trusted!.
But my motto is "DTA!." Don't trust anyone!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
But my motto is "DTA!." Don't trust anyone!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
i dont trust easily as it is!. so when i get screwed over, it makes it that much worse!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
YES I DONT TRUST ANYONE ANYMORE AFTER BEING BETRAYED BUT MY SISTER AND BEST FRIEND I HATE MY LIFEWww@Enter-QA@Com
It depends on that indiviual!. Period!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Absoulutly!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I am less trustful all the way around!. It sux at times but I geuss that is life!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
well it will probly just make u more cautious and it will take more time 2 earn ther trustWww@Enter-QA@Com
no only that person but i may ask if my other friends are completely telling the truth, just to make sure!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I usualy dont distrust EVERYONE but I would lose trust for a group of peopleWww@Enter-QA@Com
No, it doesn't effect my trustworthiness of other people!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Bill, I like to think of it as gaining WISDOM!. Onward & Upward, Mean Mike!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
VERY much so!. I carry more baggage than an airport, and thats probably true!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
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