What do I do? Can this ever work? What do you think?!
Question: What do I do!? Can this ever work!? What do you think!?
I've had a girlfriend for about a year now!. We're both minors!. We get along perfectly, everybody says we're a "cute couple"!.!. But she's constantly depressed because she's a Jehovah's Witness and, at this age, isn't supposed to be TALKING to guys out of the congregation much less dating them!. She's hiding this relationship from her parents and others!. She says she loves me!. Whenever I feel like I can't do this to her anymore, and try to break it off, she begs me not to and I can't bear to upset her!. This has happened on and off since we've started dating!.
If it keeps going, how is it going to end up!? Do I have to do something to change it!? Do I have to leave her!? What do you people think!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
If it keeps going, how is it going to end up!? Do I have to do something to change it!? Do I have to leave her!? What do you people think!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
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Wow this is a hard one! Maybe you should let her decide it is her religion and you accept her knowing her problem!. Let her make the moves that will change her life!. If you get tired then you'll have to do whats right for you and end it!. What about your feelings Is she thinking of you and how you feel!. I'm sure you worry about this issue just as much as she does!. Tell her not to be selfish and to think of someone other then her self and her problems!. When is she going to think of how you feel!. Good luck!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think you should leave her!. If she is putting that much pressure on herself, then it is not happy - she can't have it both ways and needs to choose and at this stage in her life she is not going to choose you over the church!.
Tell her when she is feeling more up to the responsibilities and pressures of dating then you would be more than happy to consider a relationship with her, but until then, she needs to be alone!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Tell her when she is feeling more up to the responsibilities and pressures of dating then you would be more than happy to consider a relationship with her, but until then, she needs to be alone!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
The JW's are a tough group!. If the parents find out they will disown her!. And I mean literally! Probably send her off somewhere for "her own good"!. I belive that they are a sick stupid cult!. But being a minor, there isnt much you can do Im afraid!. She needs you!!!!! Be her friend!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Dont leave her!. Don't make her sad!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
You two need to sit and talk!. write pros and cons about the relationshipWww@Enter-QA@Com
go with your heartWww@Enter-QA@Com
You sound like a very caring person!. Your first concern is her feelings!. Good for you!. Someday you will make a wonderful husband!.
As cruel as it may seem, you would be doing her a favor by breaking up with her!. Since she is a minor she has a long way to go before she is marriage material!. The more she gets attached to you the harder it will be to go your own ways!.
It sounds like she is impressionable and insecure!. If it was at all possible you could talk to her parents about the situation!. They would appreciate a heads-up as to where their daughter is going!. You are not in a position to help her right now !.!.!. her parents are!.
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As cruel as it may seem, you would be doing her a favor by breaking up with her!. Since she is a minor she has a long way to go before she is marriage material!. The more she gets attached to you the harder it will be to go your own ways!.
It sounds like she is impressionable and insecure!. If it was at all possible you could talk to her parents about the situation!. They would appreciate a heads-up as to where their daughter is going!. You are not in a position to help her right now !.!.!. her parents are!.
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