Why do people who have no real problems feel the need to create them?!
Question: Why do people who have no real problems feel the need to create them!?
i have a friend who is perfectly fit and healthy alright she is skint but gave up her job because she didnt want to go basically which to me makes it her fault and in a relationship she doesnt really want to be in despite deciding to get a new house with him!.!. all she does is moan and whinge about rubbish all the time!.!. if you dont want to be with someone dont be with them!.!. if you cant afford it dont buy it!.!.!. if your skint get a job!.!. I was in the hospital withh my son which she knew and all i had when i turned my phone on is messages like how is he doin!? i feel c rappy weve only got this much until payday!.!.!. they ant paid me my benifits!.!. i dont like him wish hed get lost!.!.!.!.
shes now not talking to me as i told her to get her head from up her but and stop bothering me with her non existant problems which are only there as she brought them on her self!.!. i know it was harsh but its every night and its the same problems over and over the same words in her babyish voice!.!. my son could have died and was really ill at the time which is the reason i snapped!.!. what are your thoughts i dont know whether to call and appologise for my lack of patience or leave her to come around!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
shes now not talking to me as i told her to get her head from up her but and stop bothering me with her non existant problems which are only there as she brought them on her self!.!. i know it was harsh but its every night and its the same problems over and over the same words in her babyish voice!.!. my son could have died and was really ill at the time which is the reason i snapped!.!. what are your thoughts i dont know whether to call and appologise for my lack of patience or leave her to come around!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
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Some people are never happier than when they are miserable and bring everyone around them down,,attention seekers and low self esteemWww@Enter-QA@Com
I am in absolute agreement with you!.
You can only put up with so much before you snap, you have done nothing wrong and have no need to apologise, leave her to come round otherwise nothing will change!.
I'm with you some people will moan about anything to get attention, and then there are others who have real things to worry about and just get on with it!.
Unfortunately that's life!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
You can only put up with so much before you snap, you have done nothing wrong and have no need to apologise, leave her to come round otherwise nothing will change!.
I'm with you some people will moan about anything to get attention, and then there are others who have real things to worry about and just get on with it!.
Unfortunately that's life!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
you have no reason to apologise sounds like your better off without her she needs to realise the world don't revolve around her you need a friend who`s gonna be there for you especially when something as serious as what happened to your son its should be her apologising to you not her not talking to you so u feel guilty!!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think you did the right thing, there are people who just love to moan and you will notice that they are never interested in any solution you may offer!. Don't go apologising, let her come to her own conclusion that she is a boring, whinny drain on emotions!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Have you never thought that she realy has a problem and would love a true friend to confide in but feels that she is not able to do so!.
Her problems are real to her I'm sure! Aren't your problems real to you!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
Her problems are real to her I'm sure! Aren't your problems real to you!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
Sounds like she is a huge attention seeker
and only interested in herself, and not
someone you could call a real friend
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and only interested in herself, and not
someone you could call a real friend
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Ther CRAVE attention!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
You have nothing to apologize for! You know the old saying "With friends like this you don't need enemies"
As far as why are people like this, I guess attention!. I don't get it!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
As far as why are people like this, I guess attention!. I don't get it!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
she`s no friend!. where was she when you needed some support!? dont feel guilty, ditch the deadwood!. i hope your son is okWww@Enter-QA@Com
Some people are such a drama queenWww@Enter-QA@Com
they crazy to have a problemsWww@Enter-QA@Com
Bottom line your friend is no friend!!!! you had a serious problem your son was ill this is when friends are meant to be there for each other not moan and rant about their problems or in your friends case lame problems!. If this was my so called friend i would lay in on the line tell her" if your skint get a job, you dont like your boyfriend get out of the relationship, budget more instead of wasting your money away, be a real friend" i personally dont have time for friends like this woman A TRUE FRIEND IS WHO YOU CAN RELY ON AND VICE VERSA
friendship is NEVER one wayWww@Enter-QA@Com
friendship is NEVER one wayWww@Enter-QA@Com
I know, it's weird, I have a friend who quit her job too and then was complaining that she didn't have a job!.!.!.I was like!.!.!.you just did have a job O_o
And another friend keeps going back to her ex and then complaining that he's an @ss!.!.!.It's like she can't help making these problems for herself!
I think it's somewhat true!.!.people aren't really happy unless they are miserable!.!.!.They need some kind of drama in their life to make it exciting, and if it can't be good drama, they seek bad drama!. I dunno!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
And another friend keeps going back to her ex and then complaining that he's an @ss!.!.!.It's like she can't help making these problems for herself!
I think it's somewhat true!.!.people aren't really happy unless they are miserable!.!.!.They need some kind of drama in their life to make it exciting, and if it can't be good drama, they seek bad drama!. I dunno!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
i would leave her to come around!. i don't think u sound harsh at all!.
sounds as if you've been patient for a long time which is why you have finally snapped!. i think i would be the same as you
you have listened and listened to her and she hasn't returned the favour!. I know her 'problems' will seem big to her but she needs to put things in perspective!.
may just be me but i think i would have stopped speaking to her a long time ago!. Friendship is a 2way street and she doesn't seem like much of a friend!.
Because you're a nice person you are now feeling guilty and wondering what to do!? if she was half as nice she would have been on the phone by now apologising to you or at least asking why you feel like you do!. it is pretty obvious to you and me why you feel it, but perhaps to her with all her little problems she doesn't realise!. another reason why she doesn't seem like a good friendWww@Enter-QA@Com
sounds as if you've been patient for a long time which is why you have finally snapped!. i think i would be the same as you
you have listened and listened to her and she hasn't returned the favour!. I know her 'problems' will seem big to her but she needs to put things in perspective!.
may just be me but i think i would have stopped speaking to her a long time ago!. Friendship is a 2way street and she doesn't seem like much of a friend!.
Because you're a nice person you are now feeling guilty and wondering what to do!? if she was half as nice she would have been on the phone by now apologising to you or at least asking why you feel like you do!. it is pretty obvious to you and me why you feel it, but perhaps to her with all her little problems she doesn't realise!. another reason why she doesn't seem like a good friendWww@Enter-QA@Com
Those sorts of people really drain your energy and it may sound harsh but it may be a good time to start discouraging her friendship
she is just seeking attention and sounds very selfish
I had a similar friend a few years ago and in the end I dreaded her calls which came at all hours of the day and night about her problems
when i had a real problem she was so unsupportive i suddenly realised what a mug I had been for all those years and all that energy I had wasted in helping her
your friend wont change, she will just move onto some other poor sympathetic person if you end the friendship
I think you have done exactly the right thingWww@Enter-QA@Com
she is just seeking attention and sounds very selfish
I had a similar friend a few years ago and in the end I dreaded her calls which came at all hours of the day and night about her problems
when i had a real problem she was so unsupportive i suddenly realised what a mug I had been for all those years and all that energy I had wasted in helping her
your friend wont change, she will just move onto some other poor sympathetic person if you end the friendship
I think you have done exactly the right thingWww@Enter-QA@Com