I would really appreciate your thoughts about
I would really appreciate your thoughts about this........................
My daughter is going to college to become a veterinarian. She is very much in love with a young man who has no desire to further his education. I have no problem with his decision nor does she. However he does. He feels as though he isn't "good enough" for her because of this. I have explained to him that I could not care less about him not being a college educated man. As long as he treats her with respect and truly loves her. She agrees. I've also told my daughter that I would expect the same from her. I have done and said everything that I can think of to reassure this young man that he, thus far, has been an exceptional boyfriend. HOW can I make him understand that he is more than what he does for a living? Sorry this is so long, guys.
Answers: I am not sure that you can do anything else but what you are doing. It seems to me that he has some self-worth issues. While you can continue to give your loving support, I don't think you can MAKE him understand his worth. That's really up to him. With your love and that of your daughter, I hope he gets there. Good on you, by the way, for knowing the real value of a person. GET HIM A JOB!!! I also think you're doing the right thing. It's too bad he feels that way about himself. He's lucky to have you & your daughter to support, encourage & love him. Hopefully his parents are as supportive as you are!? He should know that you wouldn't let some creep or jerk date your own daughter & that money isn't what makes a relationship happy (although it sure helps) it's how you treat eachother....respect, honesty, loyalty, trust, communication, etc. Plus it's probably part of being a guy-- they think they should be the main supporter, "head of the household' type thing. Sounds like a nice, caring young man & I'm sure it will all work out over time. Good luck!